TTC, need some support who’s with me?

[Claire78564]

So I’m trying to conceive and have been since November. I sadly miscarried in Feb and had my first cycle last month. I’ve just ovulated or so I think...got a positive result on saturday and have been busy dtd quite a bit. I guess I’m 1dpo maybe 2. Fingers crossed this is our month. How is everyone else getting on?

@rudyroo.. no i havent heard of it, thank you il have a look into it! I'll try anything to be fair lol. Can i just take it anytime then? As obviously i cant take it from AF to ovulation as i have no AF. Its just so hard when i look back and like in december when we started trying i was thinking about the events i had coming up in the year and i was thinking ooooh il be pregnant by then and now im passing by all these events and its just so hard knowing im nowhere near my BFP xx

@Beddie11 yeah I think so but I would maybe do some research on it first just to be sure. I think the idea is that you're not supposed to be taking it if you actually fall pregnant which is why some women only take it for 2 weeks of cycle but then there from what I've read there are mixed opinions on this.
Tell me about it - I'm exactly the same. My DH and I have a holiday booked for May and earlier in the year I was secretly thinking to myself 'I'll totally be PG then' hmm perhaps not. Think I was totally nieve coming into this baby-making business!

@Claire78564 I guess things can vary slightly from month to month, for example sometimes I know AF is coming as I get bad cramps and then other months I have barely any pain. Guess it's just one of these things, our bodies messing with our brains!

Yeah...will see how I go.

I get what you both mean you do count the moments in the year where you think circumstances will be different. It’s so easy for people to say just let it come naturally but it’s hard not to take it seriously when you know it’s quite a long waiting game Tilly he next chance should this one not work. I keep thinking I will look back on this in 12 months either pregnant or with a little person I can cuddle. We have to try to be optimistic I suppose. I haven’t tried any of the other supplements. I took one evening primrose oil last month but after reading reviews about it prolonging cycles I freaked out and stopped. I know someone who has PCOS and going through ivf who took everything going and is now ten weeks. It must happen for us! Otherwise we wouldn’t be born with the parts! Dunno about you but I sometimes feel in shock about what axtually Happens. I watched the great sperm race on YouTube. It’s pretty crazy if you think about it x

It will happen so don't lose faith! I feel optimistic this morning (maybe because the sun is shining!) but also because I spoke to my sister on the phone for ages last night and talked to her about it all (I wasn't really planning on telling anyone we were TTC as I wanted it to be a surprise but then sometimes you just really need to talk to someone!) She made me feel much better, she has 3 kids now but she said after coming off pill it took her 18 months to conceive her first. She said 9 months of that they were properly trying. So it gives me hope that just because it hasn't happened in the first 8 months I just have to be patient. She also told me about some of her friends who struggled but got there in the end. Another friend had IVF and has wee girl now. So I guess there are always ways and means and the main thing is that we try and get on with our lives like normal (albeit constantly POAS!) and try and enjoy each day and enjoy the time being with your OH.
That sounds interesting - I will need to watch that. It is a bit mad when you actually think about it isn't it!

Any updates today ladies? Nothing new with me...just counting the days till AF X

How many DPO are you? I'm just trying to keep myself busy! I'm on CD10 now so wondering when I should start doing OPK tests, tomorrow? 🤔

Oh you already said yesterday 3DPO!

Nothing new here still just waiting lol.. i think when i do finally get AF im gonna start temping. Seems easier and cheaper than opks! Any thoughts on this ?xx

@Beddie11 can't say much to help as I've only just started it (been doing it for a week) but I think it's a good idea as a lot of people say it's the only way really to confirm ovulation (I'm going alongside OPK's) it's not so bad and actually feels quite good to be more in control of things rather than just guesswork!

Hi I just seen this thread, and thought i would join for some help, we have been TTC for 8 months but I'm all over the place with my periods, im getting tested for pcos soon and my temps are inconsistent so I'm not sure I'm even ovulating. I have had this before but can anyone tell me why this has happened twice now I just took an ovulation and pregnancy test just to see as I'm all over the place and this happens. They are not like anyone ive seen like not really faint or a evqpulation line but less than half the thickness of the test strip, is this ink running because they are cheap? Please help! Xx

@19CLT92 hello! 👋🏼 I'm sorry I'm no help as I have only been using the digital ones. I know they are expensive but less stressful as more of a definite answer. I have been finding some cheaper ones on eBay you could always try that as a way of getting more definite answers. Any reason why you think you might have PCOS apart from the irregular AF? How long have you been off the pill or other BC?

Are these pics OPK or preg tests?

The blue is pregnancy the green is opk, I'm overweight but constantly exercising and losing weight every week and irregular periods, I have a thick head of hair and I'm not hairy though but who knows? I want to get tested to rule it out, I mean I know it can be due to my weight which I'm working on but I don't know well see. It's just the tests are so weird it's happened before too. Once, it always makes me look twice x

I am no expert but I would say that could be a BFP but I don't want to get your hopes up. People say if it has colour in it instead of grey then it's a positive - hard to tell from the pic. I would go and but a digital one so you are not driving yourself mad! Good luck x

How many DPO are you?

Hola, yeah I think I’m 3/4 dpo. Nothing new here. Ooh 10dpo I have my fingers crossed for you 😊 they say to wait until missed period but it’s tempting not to! Hi @19CLT92, I use these sticks too. Based on what I can see I would say the green one your opk kit, is a negative. I’ve been using these for a few months. The picture I have uploaded is how the opk looked on the cycle I caught and at the weekend just gone. As Rudyroo suggested, maybe do a preg year just to see what happens there. Even if you do have PCOS there are lots of things which can be done to help you conceive. How old are you? Even though I hate it when people say this to me, they say a year is normal when TTC so you have time. Maybe do the smep method just to cover any random ovulation that the opk didn’t pick up.

@Claire78564 oh no unfortunately just cycle day 10 so still waiting for O to come. Have started doing OPK's again this month but nothing so far. How are you feeling? Still no sore boobs?

@19CLT92 yeah I agree with Claire, lots of people still conceive with PCOS so don't let that get you down. (And you may not even have it!)

At least I hope O comes. First month doing proper OPK's as well as temp checking so we will see what happens! 🤞🏼

At least I hope O happens. I'm a bit skeptical because of my crappy-practically-non-existent periods. First month doing proper OPK's as well as temp checking so we'll see what happens! 🤞🏼

Sorry sent the same kinda message twice - wifi is being rubbish!

Ahhh sorry misread the ‘cd’ but yeah we’ll cycle day ten is a good one to start on. Since my miscarriage this will have been the second time I have ovulated. First one was pushed out a week or so and I was sceptical because of what had Happened. But a couple of says prior to ovulating I had a scan and it showed which follicles were likely to produce the egg. It was on the right side which is funny because I kept feeling aches in that area. I’m sure your period will come back soon...or it might not because you have caught! I found the opks pretty useful. Easier said than done but try not to spend your time obsessing about these tests. I got completely lost in them testing twice a day and it can really stress you out. Saying that tho you could see progression through the tests and see them getting stronger. Let me know how you get on. Even though I feel pretty pessimistic like I’m never gonna get that baby soon, the objective part of me thinks we were all born with the parts to house a baby and we will do it! I’m sure this will be our year :) it still shocks me that a sperm can actually fertilise the egg. I never really get much EWCM which makes me think I won’t conceive but I’m sure time will tell. Just can’t imagine it all. Boobs still not sore but I’m just taking it as painful boobs previously was just a sign of progesterone.

Oh good luck @clair78564 I'm 26, yeah im trying not to stress. Also ehats swep method?

Also can you tell me what your temps look Like over ovulation? Do you temp every day? I am having to temp.everyday now as I think.im missing my ovulation and I think my ovulation prediction on my apps wrong due to my period being a sketchy so I'm trying that now I dont see temp rise. Does it have to be over 36.40 or how many degrees does it rise? Should it rise so many degrees based on your normal temp its ability absolute minefield.

Hey thanks , you too :) sorry I meant smep. Basically from cd 8 you have sex ever other day then when you get a positive opk you do it that day and then 2 more days, have a break then one more time. That’s what we have done this month. It was tough going! You have age on your side and I’m sure a lot of other things keep your head up. I don’t temp but I think I will next month ( I’m not feeling optimistic about this time round) I sometimes use preseed as I’m paranoid I’m not ‘wet enough’ down there lol