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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Unsure of babys father

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Chojame123 · 29/03/2019 05:28

I'm in desperate need for help and I have no one else to talk to.
I am currently 13 weeks and 2 days (ultrasound scan) or 12 weeks 2 day (gestational date). I've been told my due date is 02.10.19 the 1st day of my last period was 02.01.19 but I bleed for a shorter amount of days than usual.

I had sex with my partner 25.12.18 before last period then stupidly with another guy on 08.01.19 (I know)) please dont judge me).

I've had sex with my partner on 09.01.19 and everyday after that until the middle of the following week.

I've looked online with dates etc and what some people have said but it always keeps changing that it could be my partners or the other guy.bi really want it to be my partners so anything before 08.01.19 is preferable or after 12.01.19.

Please is anyone able to help I'd like to know this before it gets too late

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NoParticularPattern · 29/03/2019 07:45

At co caption you are technically about 2 weeks pregnant. 38 weeks back from your due date takes it to the 9th of Jan so it’s not clear from your dates at all who is most likely to be the father. Unfortunately yes, the only way to check is to get a DNA test. I’m not sure if it can be done before the baby is born (amniocentesis etc) but your best (and probably cheapest) bet is to wait until the baby is here and then test, unless it is likely to be obvious at birth who the father is?

NoParticularPattern · 29/03/2019 07:46

At conception

L0kiWh0 · 29/03/2019 07:46

You only count back 38 weeks from your due date. The first two weeks of your pregnancy you’re not actually pregnant, that’s just the time between your period and ovulation.

Notquiteagandt · 29/03/2019 07:48

Fyi just to add confusion sperm can live for a week. I apparently concieved 6 days after I had sex and was other side the world on a trip.

WhenZogateSuperworm · 29/03/2019 07:50

It’s impossible to tell. Measuring babies on scans isn’t an exact science and your due date is only a prediction.

The only way to know is a DNA test.

Karigan195 · 29/03/2019 07:51

There is a pregnancy conception calculator. I put your due date in and this is what you get.

I don’t think you’re going to be able to know on this one without a dna test....

Unsure of babys father

kaytee87 · 29/03/2019 07:59

Take 2 weeks away from the scan dates and that's when you conceived. So it was January.

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:01

On the 8th was with the other guy then 9th 10th 11th 12th etc onwards was with partner

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:02

No it wint both guys are black

kaytee87 · 29/03/2019 08:02

I've had sex with my partner on 09.01.19 and everyday after that until the middle of the following week

Missed this. Impossible to know in this case.

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:03

Smh oh no

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:03

Oh gosh

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:04

Is this both ultrasound and gestational dates??

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:05

Won't ... typo

MyKingdomForBrie · 29/03/2019 08:08

There's no way to work it out from the dates, sorry. Does your partner know you slept with the other guy?

MyKingdomForBrie · 29/03/2019 08:10

It's more likely to be your dp in terms of probability - you slept with him more often so more chances to conceive. I think it might be best to be honest with him (unless you're in any way scared of him) otherwise you'll spend the whole pregnancy stressing.

lovinglifexo · 29/03/2019 08:11

you need to tell ur partner that’s youve cheated. You could be risking his health if you caught STDs from sleeping around.

You won’t know as the dates are so close together.

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:11

No he doesn't I haven't even plucked the courage to say anything

TwittleBee · 29/03/2019 08:11

I am so sorry that you are going through this btw, bloomin tricky situation. No advice on how to handle it either. It really could be either.

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:11

But I know how it will end regardless if its his or not and it wont be good

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:13

I wont lie there is strong g gear there.. like I said my pregnancy and situation has not been pleasant and he does have anger issues which he is working on but he has been violent during and before pregnancy so I know this will just be.... mad

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:16

I was told (please excuse the graphicness) that the more sperm(cum) that comes out of you the stronger chance you have of being pregnant is this true?? Because the other guy his (cum) came pouring out straight away.

Also excuse this but feel like I have to get in detail if it helps.... after Christmas day.. boxing day I got very sick like throwing up and doing the number 2 (sorry) for about 2-3 days but passed it off as something I ate and I honest that my downstairs got extremely (sorry) wetter

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kaytee87 · 29/03/2019 08:16

If he's been violent to you then in all honesty the best thing to do would be to have an abortion and get as far away from him as you can. Otherwise your future will be miserable.
Only my opinion though, it's your body.

cupoftea84 · 29/03/2019 08:17

I know someone that had a dna test done by way of a blood test and a sample of one of the possible dads dna when she was pregnant. Don't know how much it cost her and might have been from abroad as I didn't know it was legal without the man knowing but apparently it was done.
Maybe something for you to look into, I assume you could get a sample of your partners dna. Have a think though how he would feel if he found out before you do it but that's a matter for you.

Jame1234 · 29/03/2019 08:17

We both take regular test and have done so after the cheating on both sides... he had been doing so too.. and everything was fine negative I know I have to tell him and I will but I just dont want it to be I cheated and the baby isnt yours situation

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