The One Full Of Coconuts and BFPs

[ChikiTIKI]

Just setting this up before we run out of space on the other thread.

@Carastarchild @LondonKez I will tag more people later today.

Anyone not on previous thread is welcome to join too. A friendly group of people supporting each other through TTC xxxx

Oh no :( I'm sorry @LondonKez that's the pits. I really thought it was your month.

Are we both on CD1 then?

I don't know if I should really say I am ttc any more... I mean it's never going to work if I have 2-week cycles is it :(

Does anyone else get a really bad throbbing pain in their crotch area on first day of period when standing up? Been round the shops this morning, pegged out the washing and just done some baking by the end I was in agony!! Lol. Lying on the sofa now... Aah :) xxx

Londonkez are you sure it is AF? Some women get spotting due to implantation. Can you share your chart. It seems odd that the temps are up and AF would arrive.

Chikitiki perhaps it's post ovulation spotting? That happened to me this month. I had a bit of red spotting a day or two after ovulation

Thank you so much for all your kindness and support ✨💜✨

Wishing you both a healthy and happy pregnancy 💕💕💕@laurapalmersbodybag and @38notcounting 💕💕💕 Enjoy every moment 😊

@pineapple I asked my DH to take the tissue salts too. We are planning to do the SMEP plan again this month. I am also going to start drinking grapefruit juice as it's supposed to increase cervical mucus.

www.avawomen.com/avaworld/grapefruit-juice-cervical-mucus/

@Carastarchild sadly I don't think so.... I have probably filled 5 tampons so far and it's very dark with quite a few clots.. Probably AF :(

@Chikitiki you must be incredibly confused! I read somewhere that tampons are not good, as although they absorb the blood flow, they don't allow the tissue the womb expels to be released, causing the tissue to remain in the womb. I read an article about it. Also you can get an lh surge just before the period is due. Sending you a big virtual hug x

@Carastarchild I usually leave gaps between taking one tampon out and putting the next one in, so would just use a pad for an hour or two, and only use tampons on the first day, first night and second morning of a 4 day cycle.

I might have had a lightbulb moment, or maybe not... But I am probably anaemic. That would explain the headaches, extreme dizziness of last week, exhaustion and having to go to bed super early. I can't find out using Google if low iron causes short cycles because whatever I type in, it just says "heavy periods can cause low iron levels".

Oh and another thing that I have suffered badly with this week that is coincidentally cause by low iron is anxiety. On the night I was very very dizzy, I was very worried I wouldn't wake up, or I would be too poorly to get up to care for my child (and husband was not home that night) and I was also worried I hadn't locked the door even though I knew I had, and that someone would come in the house and take my baby :(

I had low iron when pregnant the first time. It was awful. I kept bursting in to tears and couldn't stop, because I was just so so tired. I went on iron tablets and had six B12 injections over 2 weeks. Then I eventually felt better.

@chikitiki you have been through a lot ✨💜✨ Definitely get your blood checked. I am a vegetarian and I have to watch my iron levels. I have been anaemic before an I felt like death. Shortness of breath, dizziness and headaches are all definitely the signs for me. Anxiety is most of the time triggered by health issues and feeling overwhelmed. I use ferrograd as galfer gives me really bad heartburn and reflux. Take care of yourself ❤️

I really hope everyone is okay... it's been a rough few days for some of us. It has been an amazingly fabulous few days for others who too had their share of difficult times in the past. The lesson in it all really is that we have to hold on to the belief that better days are coming 💕💕💕

Morning @carastarchild, unfortunately it is definitely AF. Blood is bright red, although the pain is significantly worse than the flow. I never really get terrible pains, but I've doubled over a few times so I would expect a very heavy flow, but it's just my regular bleed, if that makes sense? I'm ok today. Had a real wobble yesterday, but DP gave me a hug and we had a chat which is exactly what I needed.

@Chikitiki you're right, it does sound like your iron is low. You should definitely get it checked out, but at least it is very easily treatable. It'll be interesting to know if it affects your cycle too x

It has been a very eventful week for us all, beautifully said @carastarchild x

Oh dear I'm sorry you've been feeling down and that you've been in a lot of pain @LondonKez
Your husband sounds very understanding I'm glad you're feeling better after your chat.

Thanks for your support @LondonKez and @Carastarchild I am hoping its low iron. Since I realise this other things have dawned on me too, like I keep struggling to talk because I can't remember the names of things. Simple things like "phone" or "coat". And I keep getting frustrated because I am doing things wrong and being clumsy. I am over tired basically!

I was just thinking... I don't know if you can take iron tablets in early pregnancy. I might have to stop TTC :(

Thanks @Chikitiki 💜 he's been great. Breakfast in bed, bubble bath, girlie movies and a take away for dinner. Thoroughly looked after today x

I found this, looks like it could be beneficial adding iron while ttc: www.whattoexpect.com/getting-pregnant/ask-heidi/iron-and-fertility.aspx

Let us know how you get on with the doctor x

Hi ladies 👋👋😘👋👋

Just checking in... I didn't sleep too much last night, so I am pretty zapped right now.

How is everyone? I am CD 4 and AF is nearly gone...just a bit of spotting.

@Londonkez I hope the cramps have lessened and AF isn't too heavy. Your Sunday sounds heavenly ❤️

@Chikitiki any update? Do you think it was actually AF? Did you make an appointment to get bloods checked?

@Laurapalmer and @38notcounting How are you both doing? I hope you both are enjoying the first official week of your pregnancy ✨💜✨

@Pineapple did you manage to get the salts? I actually suspect that they really really helped ✨✨✨

All @LondonKez that's nice :) sounds like you've been pampered.

So I got an appointment today. Realised as I got called to the room that it was a nurse not a doctor. She is nice though, she did my six B12 injections when I was pregnant the first time so we had a few. Ice chats back then. About 18 months ago.

Anyway... I had a blood test. She didn't test my B12 apparently that only needs to be tested every two years and was quite high in March last year. So she requested the full iron count and the folate too. She said it's still early after the MC so not a concern about periods being irregular. Apparently the only way to regulate it is to go on the pill which I obviously don't want to do. She said I could see the GP about getting drugs to reduce the bleeding but that might mess up my cycles even more.

I admit I did cry when explaining what was wrong. I was really quite dizzy today and talking has been really difficult. This morning my arms were really weak and my hands cold and tingly. I feel like someone has taken the plug out. I am just drained!

She said I must be finding it hard to figure out when I am ovulating... I felt like saying "well I'm probably not am I?!?!" And even if I am ovulating, my cycles clearly aren't long enough for any implantation to happen.

I've had 4 periods in 7 or 8 weeks. I'm going to carry on TTC but probably won't use my app since it won't let me record my periods anyway as they are too close together. I will just write down on paper when I have periods. Don't think I will do ovulation tests either. No point at the moment, I just start bleeding whenever I get a positive OPK!

On the plus side... I have told my manager something needs to be sorted out at work, I am doing the best part of two jobs at the moment , taking on a new job (not by my choice, there was a "restructure" and I have been moved sideways) but my replacement hasn't started yet (my replacement will be pretty much doing the same job I do currently but at a higher pay band- I applied for the job but didn't get it). I've said I can't do both any more and I need to know what their plans are for the next 2 months before the replacement gets here. It's finance too at year-end is happening before they arrive. I think stress may be a factor in his I am feeling too.

@Chikitiki I don't want to read & leave without sending you a massive hug xx

@chikitiki I'm so sorry it's been so difficult. Sometimes it really helps to say these things out loud - in the case of to the nurse and your boss. When do you get your results? I hope the tests give you some answers (and your boss gives you a pay rise!) Xx

@carastarchild I'm CD4 today and AF is pretty much over, so I think we're all synchronized this cycle. Fingers crossed we all have a positive month! Xx

@Carastarchild I work in the NHS so no pay rise for me :) oh well!!

I am feeling quite a bit better today. I am on CD4 too. With the way my cycles are going lately I am worried I have ovulated already!!!! Lol. Not DTD yet this cycle though. AF nearly over but not yet. I can't DTD when on my period. I just can't!!!!!

@cara thanks so much once again 😊 I've ordered the salt tissue and I think it's arriving tomorrow. Work has been so busy this week I've lost a bit of focus on TTC which I'm a little annoyed with myself about, and telling myself this is way more important than damn work! I am also taking some vitamins - seven seas TTC and coq10, I think I also need to look at vit d and b12 like you, definitely feeling the lack of sun!! Also just started raspberry leaf tea to try and lengthen my cycles a bit 🤞

@Chiki so sorry that you're going through so much stress. It sounds really confusing - I'm sure your gp is right that it'll even itself out, but I know that doesn't help very much when you're waiting when ttc! Sending you lots of hugs xx

I am now on cd12. CM still a bit dry so either ovulating late, or missed it, or maybe no ov this cycle 🤷‍♀️ I've been doing a lot of running as am marathon training so probably need to work on hydration too!!

Hi all

@chiki hope you manage to sort things out at work and sorry that you're having such a rough time. That's the last thing you need when you're ttc. Hopefully if you feel a bit less stressed your cycles will go back to normal too and it will be a lucky month for you💕✨

@carastarchild @londonkez @pineapplec keeping everything crossed for you this month ✨✨✨

I'm doing ok. Don't feel very pregnant at all but am having really broken sleep - maybe it's some very early preparation! Not got much on at the weekend so am going to try and take it easy.

I hope I'm not being insensitive but, those of you with children, when should I tell the doctor I'm pregnant? I was thinking of waiting til 6 weeks so as not to tempt fate. I know it's probably stupid but I'm expecting something to go wrong xxx

Thanks @38notcounting :) xx

Regarding the doctor... Normally you have a booking in appointment with the midwife at about 8 weeks, at least by 10 weeks normally. Where I live and in most places in the UK, you self refer to see the midwife so don't have to see a doctor first. I live in a large town so had my midwife appointments at my GO surgery (it is a big place), other people have them at local clinics etc. Probably best to phone your GO surgery and they will help you out. Unless it takes ages to get appointments where you are, you shouldn't need to phone before you get to 6 weeks.

Pregnancy always messes up my sleep. I just get the most vivid dreams. It's so odd!! Hope you get some better rest soon. Through pregnancy and having a baby your body will learn to quickly get back to sleep after being woken! Xxxx

Where I wrote GO I obviously meant GP! Xxxx

Oh an update from me too... My bloods came back normal! Don't know the exact levels or anything. My sister advised me that although my blood had a good strength of iron in it, my actual blood volume might be quite low. So I need to eat some salty food and drink at least three litres of water a day. Not much else the GP could do for me really. I am glad my sister is a doctor although she must get bored of me asking her medical things sometimes!! It was only a few weeks ago I was sending her photos of that rash I had lol !!!!!! I am glad I don't need iron tablets though. I was on them for ages in my first pregnancy and after the traumatic birth where I lost so much blood... It is not good for your body to take iron tablets for a long time.

Hope you're all having a good day xxxx

Thanks @PineappleC :)

Hopefully you're about to ovulate. Good luck with the Marathon training!! Xxxx

Thanks @Chiki, and that sounds really good that you've got a bit of a plan. I hope it helps you!!

Actually ladies I could do with some advice. Just started using Opks this morning, it's cd13 and I have the same type of CM I usually have around this time when I believe I'm ovulsting (watery, little bit of ewcm). Thing is it was negative, zilch, not even a faint second line! Obviously now had a meltdown thinking I don't ovulate at all, so I guess I wondered if this sounds familiar at all of if it's just me!? Oh and pls be honest - if it sounds like I'm screwed I'd rather know now! 😊😭