The July 19ers - STILL never beaten, and rocking our FJs for a lucky thread

[Frazzlerock]

Here it is! Our lucky one 🤞

I know! I can hardly hear myself say the words. But I really think it's been screwing up my body 😔

Hi ladies. Sorry not been on for a few days, been so busy which isn't such a bad thing with due date of first baby approaching on Friday. So far this week morning I've only had one breakdown.

@Twittlebee congrats! Fx for a healthy sticky bean!

@Kinsters hope you can squeeze in a trip to Cameron Highlands.

Thanks for all the posts about all the supplements. I'm only taking feroglobin now which has iron, B12 and folic acid. Don't think the pregnacare conception did anything for me. Strangely 6 weeks after I started taking feroglobin I fell pregnant with our first after the 5 years TTC and DH is convinced it's all linked. I've continued to take it mainly though because I worry about my iron levels and handy it also has folic acid in and it.

Morning all,

Great news @Twittle! Please don't wait for us to ask how you're getting on. If you have good news re your pregnancy, then share it. Don't feel bad about it!

Oh @Tigsy, this is a right rollercoaster innit. Test again? I'm glad your DH is on board with SMEP.

I am desperate to chat to DP about TTC. I want to ask him if he wants to know when I'm in my ovulation window or if that would be too much pressure. Last cycle we BD'd every other day from the end of AF right up until after ovulation, but we've now gone 3 days without BDing.
I'm only on CD10, but DP is really depressed right now because his work are being cunts. He's stressing about being fired as he has a meeting with the HR director and his boss on Thursday and no one is telling him anything and his team are ignoring him. He's got a pretty senior role but no one is allowing him to do his job and he feels like he's being pushed out. He's done nothing wrong except be honest with people, but they don't like honesty there. They only like people who are happy to go along with everything. He's only been there 7 months and the culture is totally different to his last job of 15 years. I'm hoping he is being paranoid. He has form for blowing things out of proportion.
I'm selfishly petrified that if they do push him out, he will pull the plug on TTC. I can never admit that to him though

I could be only days away from ovulation and I need him to be in the right frame of mind, but it's looking bleak. We were all geared up for BD last night, then he went for a shower (as he'd been running) and his mood plummeted while he was in the bathroom and we did nothing.
He apologised. I know it isn't his fault and he is scared, and I am totally there for him. But secretly I'm miserable and anxious about not getting pregnant again this cycle.
I've waited 3 years for this, and we have been TTC for 7 months now. I'm just so tired of never being the one to be able to share our news, except 'We've lost another baby'.

I thought getting stuck into wedding planning would distract me, but that's causing me stress now. Hen do planning is proving difficult as I have to rely on other people who seem to have higher priorities so can't commit to anything in 2020, despite me giving them over a year's notice.
I've stopped looking at dresses as they're all way too expensive and I can't find anything second hand that I like.

UUgghhh.

that is super tricky Frazzle ... my DH usually likes being told when I am in ovulation window BUT work pressures make him go very cranky. Would your DP be similar? Maybe thinking if his job isnt secure how can he think about BMing? Does your DP take well to romantic gestures, e.g. cooking his fav meal with some nice drink, giving him a massage once the kids are in bed that could lead to more... You could say you are doing it to help relax him after the job stress rather than to lead to DTD?

I am so sorry it is that time already for you InDreamland I really hope it passes as easily as it can

Betty good luck giving it up! it will most likely help! but have a lil drink to help pass AF if she turns up again

Sorry @Dreamland I totally missed your post while I was writing mine. I hope you are okay xx

@Twittle I already do all that stuff everyday, well cooking dinner. We are already both pretty romantic. It's not like he doesn't want to do it, just that he is so worried about Thursday. Hopefully after the meeting all will be fine. they can't just fire him for being honest surely!? He thinks they will make up some policy like 'not allowed to swear' or something else ridiculous, just to get him out.

Frazzle maybe just pounce on him then without the mention of TTC as it might just be too much pressure on top of his job to think about trying to make a baby? Just until things settle down? As for his job, I am not sure, I know you dont have full employments rights for first 2 years... they could also say he doesnt fit the team and try to get rid of him that way (that is what they were gearing up to do at my last job because I was honest with them, I ended up handing my notice in as my colleague gave me the heads up)

Frazzle a lot of the wedding dress shops will be selling off their samples around now. I managed to get mine in one of the sales. Much cheaper than buying it full price but just be careful re alterations... they can also come in very costly!

ooo yeah good idea Buggles or even go to a Wedding Fayre as many shops take their sample and sale stock there! I got my original wedding dress (that was never actually worn on my wedding day in the end because I bought a cheaper & more casual dress to fit the changed dynamics...) it was originally £1000 but I got it for £300 and will need no alterations (planning on maybe wearing it when we renewal our vows once we are done with all our BMing)!

My wedding dress was a sample too, luckily it was a perfect fit so it didn't need any alterations. The shop had it cleaned for me and I saved a fortune overall xx

Mine was ex-display from a posh dress shop, they have an outlet shop for all their old stock and ex-display stuff.
I paid £600 instead of £2400!!
£50 for alterations!

They had a website, it's called TDR OUTLET.
there's also a lady who goes to wedding fayres called 'worn once with love' and she had a website xx

What sort of dress are you looking for Frazzle? Style wise I mean. x

Thanks guys. I am talking major budget, like max £200, preferably closer to £100. So I had hoped to find a second hand one but the ones I like are still way over my budget. I'm so frustrated my dad paid so much for my first wedding! My mum said she might put something towards it but not saying how much so I can't budget with her offering yet.
Anyway, it is quite early to be looking for a dress. My size is going up and down as it is with all the pregnancies. Who knows what size I'll be next April.
@Betty I am looking at the tea length style. I saw a picture of a random person and have decided that is exactly how I want to look!

I will post it here...

I love this look so much 💜

Ah @frazzle that dress is beautiful! I think places like asos often have those style dresses for fairly cheap. I've just had a look on there and none on the site right now, I guess it's the wrong time of year.... You can always get them altered etc too.

Completely off topic and sorry if this is way TMI, but has anyone had really gross AF's since the mc? Before, I only ever bleed for 2 days with maybe a little spotting on the 3rd... I'm on my 6th day of bleeding now with loads of clots coming out still etc...

Lovely dress @frazzle. There has to be dressed out there that cost 100 in that style. But as you said.....it's still a while away now. I also had a sample dress for my wedding back in the day!

@ratherbe my first AF was super heavy. I bled for 6 whole days and day 1-3 was so heavy including clots. Haven't had a second one yet....that in about 13 days time! It's better to have a longer AF when TTC though apparently as it means your lining built up well. If you have a shorter AF your lining didn't get as thick as it could have.

@betty I would like to totally cut down on the alcohol but not managing very well at the moment. Good luck! It also really affects my sleep.

@frazzle tough one. I.know all too well as I missed my chance this month and don't want another year of not having a baby. But how can you stop frightening them away!
Hope you get him on board and also hope he doesn't lose his job.....

@indreamland I know what you mean. Tomorrow is a year anniversary of when I found out I was pregnant for the first time. Hope the day passes ok for you.
X

Frazzle I got my tea length dress that I went with in the end from Chi Chi London for like £40 or something silly. There are also some places that will handmake your dress cheap too, saw an advert for it on Facebook Group the other day, I'll see if I can remember it.

Ah thanks @edidxb I didn't know that about the lining, that's interesting to know. My first AF was really heavy, which was to be expected I guess, but thought the 2nd would be a little more "normal."

@Indreamland I hope you are okay I am also taking feroglobin xxx

I love the dress @Frazzle! Maybe for £100 you need to look at lovely summer dresses rather than wedding dresses? You could probably still get something mostly white. Mine was over £2k, but my Mum paid for it 🙈

We have snow here, so I thought it would be lovely to walk to school in the snow, but of course the boys just wanted to play so I couldn’t get them to walk anywhere, then DS2 walloped DS1 in the nose with a lump of snow and gave him a massive nose bleed, then just after the nose bleed he stuck a load of snow down his back. We did make it to school eventually, very late and very cross 😩

Then I had acupuncture which I just about made it to, @edidxb I think he was saying, when it hurts you are stressed. But don’t quote me on that!

Now I only have just over an hour until I have to go back to school again, where does the time go! And all I want to do is work out if I can get all the original series of cold feet free on sky or if I have to buy them. DH says we can’t watch the original series while the current series is on 😡

Thanks ladies. Think we just have to ride it out as best we can and allow ourselves to feel like the world is conspiring against us and we've had all the shit. After Friday I know I'll be thinking about the date we found out I was pregnant then the first anniversary of the loss which coincides with due date of second baby then the date we lost that baby too. This TTC thing is just heartbreaking. I wish I just didn't want to have a family and never got pregnant sometimes then I wouldn't feel like this. Everywhere I go I have pregnant women in my face and I just want to scream. Hugs and love all around!

@Frazzlerock that dress is gorgeous! My dress was the shop sample, saved a nice amount. Wedding planning is stressful and people just make things more difficult. Having been a bride once and MOH/BM a few times I can safely say I never want to be "in" another wedding, guest is great but any significant responsibility no thank you.

That is a really gorgeous look @Frazzlerock I think definitely consider having one made, skater dresses aren't particularly complicated. Monsoon do nice wedding shoes.

@tigsyboo just saw your post this AM and thought I'd check you knew about the cbfm automated settings? After first high you are high every day until peak (if you get one). After day one of peak the programme goes peak again for one day then high for one day then low. It will ask for either 10 or 20 sticks but not a number in between. So it's not technically measuring your hormones every day.

@pegase .... I knew some of that.... but is it me if does that sound like a bit of a con then??
I did use 20 sticks.... all said high then the last one said ‘low’ and then went to ‘test for pregnacy’ every third day!
Im finding it hard to think I didn’t O at all as there is a clear shift in temps but it’s very odd.... I’ll try it next month if fucking Af ever arrives!! Thank you x

Yeah I only found this all out after buying it. I think it is a bit of a con for this reason. Thinking of switching to temping next cycle ( although that has its issues!

Well I'm temping, using lady comp, cheapie OPK sticks, and cbfm..... and still no clue!!

Next month I'm going to temp using my lady comp machine and then enter it into FF, use cbfm and then cheapy OPK from day 8

Going to roughly do sperm meets egg things which is basically every other day from day 8 until positive OPK then everyday for a few days, Miss a day then do it once more.

Surely I'm
Covering all bloody bases then!! Lol x

I tried to sort of do SMEP this month but DH was too tired to stick to it rigidly. Plus as I ov v late, starting day 8 meant we were losing the enthusiasm by the time ov happened! Will still try again next month!