Thread for young (wanna be) mums TTC

[qwertt12]

Just trying to start a POSTIVE thread
For younger people TTC

Any one want to join?

When did you start TTC?

Hi, I'm TTC just started this month. How old are you?

Oh fab! I am 20 what about yourself?

Great! I'm 20 also! I've found that a lot of people on this site are older

@qwertt12 do you have any children? What cycle day are you on?!

Yes me to! And they are often quick to tell you that your 2 young 😮

I am actually on my period

I was TTC last month and my period was 20 days late which I have never had before so it's a fresh start for me

What about you?

@Blueflower22

You are more likely to be told you’re too young rather than your 2 young.

@MaidenMotherCrone

@MaidenMotherCrone

Thank goodness dyslexia doesn't effect parenting

@qwertt12 yeah they do, and then you start to feel bad.

Are you using OPKs,? Hmmm that's interesting maybe you did get pregnant but might have been a chemical pregnancy

@qwertt12 this is my first cycle of using OPKs to see when ovulation is. I got bad pains and then me and partner dtd a few hours later. I hope it's enough. I can't stop thinking about pregnancy! It's consuming my time and thoughts! I feel like I shouldn't think about it in order for it to happen. I need to wait a week at least until I can test.

Pretty annoyed because I ordered early detection tests on eBay and want them to arrive before partner sees! As I don't want him to know my POAS obsession 😂. Hope they come before he's off for Xmas

I am so glad you have said that! We literally where doing it so much! And it didn't happen,

We have now decided to relax and not do any ovulation tests just enjoy the trying stage,

It was becoming a stress when it doesn't need to be

But it's crazy how much you look for symptoms I was sick and was adamant I was!

Xx

@Blueflower22

@qwertt12 awww well that's a good way to look at things. I hope things go well.

I've just had an emotional fit in the last hour so just recovering from that 😭

@Blueflower22

Oh no why?? Xxx

@qwertt12 I don't know. I got a bit upset as my partner talks about my future teacher training like it's something that is definately going to happen, but we agreed we'd start trying to a baby now. My training starts in September and he thinks that even when pregnant I can have the baby and finish it of. I told him the providers might not let me (which is true) , plus I don't want to finish the rest while baby is small

Hi! Ttc in january technically but haven't been being careful since 4 days after my predicted ovulation. I'm not a day late so hopefully a nice surprise!
I'm 22, with my OH for 5 years, we have a mortgage and one dog, one cat.. hopefully one mini us soon!
Good luck everyone

Can I just ask... what's the rush? 🤔

I really wouldn't put off an agreed training place. When you are on your training you normally have the same rights as employment, so to take maternity leave/defer part of it. If you waited until you had completed your training and had a job, then you would be entitled to leave knowing you had a job to go back to.

@Blueflower22 oh gosh I can see your predicament, has it been sorted

I don't understand why people need to ask us what the rush is

I never ask them why they had to wait long, the whole reason of this chat was for positive vibes only 😢

@APositiveMind

Oh fab!

I think it's always nice not too put too much pressure on TTC have fun and relax, the more relaxed we are the higher the chance

Which could be your case this month! Best of luck!

Here's my anecdote:

I fell pregnant at 21, Dd1 both at 22. We were as settled as we possibly could be. I did my PGCE when she was 16months old and it was so hard. I so wish I'd done it before she was born. I then had dd2 when I was 25 with a couple of years teaching under my belt so got full use of maternity pay. I'm now 30 and most of my friends are just getting pregnant now.
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Please* do your teacher training first.

Unfortunately Op you cannot control the replies you get on a thread. You can ignore helpful, common sense comments from those who are much wiser though.

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I fell pregnant with #1 during my GTP year, and tbh it worked well. The training itself was hard, I was glad to do it without a newborn/toddler around. The thing is, when you have one quite often you then think about #2 to avoid a big age gap. Then you realise you can't afford to do your training and pay for childcare so you put it off some more...see where this is going? You have the opportunity to train/work now with no outgoings and build a career that could support you and your child/children with or without a partner. I can fully understand the desire for children, but I really would get this under your belt first.