TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO.8

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Hi all - apologies if I've missed anyone out on here, I'm half asleep 😂

@FlapJackered @BabySquid @BambiOnIce80 @CookieWaffle @Crossfitgirl @Delilah7 @MrsAW2018 @MrsC87 @MrsR16 @EltzBee @FivexFive @ValidUser @RanchoRelaxo @rj995

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Thank you lovely people!

@SullyWifey congratulations!!!

Oh my gosh it definitely looks like a positive to me, congrats SullyWifey!!

How many DPO are you?

@autumnfires I am on CD13 so pretty close. I am obsessed with mumsnet, research and line eyes haha 😋

@sullywifey congratulations!!! Argh how mental this weekend has been for BFP’s xx

@sullywifey what a strong line that is!! Congratulations!!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩

@sullywifey thank the lord you dtd that night he was on his game 😅

@daydreamer1707 what's your approach over the next few days? 😂 when are you due to ovulate?

@Sullywifey YAAAAYY that is a BIG FAT positive! No denying it at all!!

@SullyWifey that’s a line! Congratulations 😍😍 what cycle are you on?

@autumnfires this is my first time tracking my cycle as I had a MC in October so not sure what my cycle will be like. I got my first positive yesterday on my OPKs and it's still positive today so got to DTD. So I must be pretty close to ovulating, do you know when yo ovulate? x

@sullywifey congrats.

Congrats to anyone else I've missed.

Cycle Day 3 for me. Managed to rebook my blood tests after damn period started several days early (only a 9 day LP this time, usually 11 or 12).

Not spending as much time online at the moment, felt myself slipping in to a depression and as pleased as I am for everyone who are getting their positives, I feel so sad being on my period and another cycle not happened.

Had a friend come round yesterday with their 5 month old baby and it was all I could do not to cry.

More and more convinced something isn't right for us, I know everyone says it can take up to a year, just relax and all that bullshit, but my cycles are playing around, different lengths and my hormones just seem to be all over the place.

Oh @EltzBee it’s so hard and I know how you feel. My sister has a 5 month old who I see a lot of and it hurts, especially as she fell pregnant her second month trying. It’s really really tough. No one warns you just what it is going to be like - you spend your whole adult life trying not to get pregnant easily and just assume when you then try to get knocked up it should be simple! Thinking of you, try not to feel too down. X

@SullyWifey That is a clear as day LINE! Congratulations mama!

Hi ladies, have been reading your posts and trying to keep up with them all but haven’t posted myself much! Just wanted to share with you where I am 7 or 8 dpo and feeling very anxious about af arriving Friday. Determined not to test early as did that last time and it doesn’t completely kill the hope but is still pretty miserable. Hoping for us all that we have a BFP soon. Xx

@sullywifey just spotted your BFP!! Congratulations! Let’s hope that’s the same for all of us waiting for af this week

@SullyWifey OMFG!!!! Girl!!! Congratulations darling. So so happy for you xx

@Eltzbee the disappointment is huge isn't it. I was so unprepared for the emotional rollercoaster. Naively thought I would be preggars from my wedding night. You've got every right to want to get to the bottom of what's happening. A year feels like too long to wait especially if you're feeling so unsettled. When am feeling crap it makes me feel better to think maybe the little bean just wants to be born in a different month 😊

@daydreamer1707 I reckon in a couple of days if everything occurs as it has been. So sorry to hear about mc xx

@SullyWifey congratulations!

@MrsEG I wasn't prepared emotionally for that insane level of sadness - and this months hit me harder than normal. It was that feeling of knowing we'd done everything at the right time, given it the best possible chance, and somehow, it didn't work - and then my period started out of the blue 3 days early with no warning, to add insult to injury.

That is exactly it - spent whole life trying not to get pregnant, now my DH and I really want a baby, it's conspiring against us!

My friend yesterday got pregnant really quickly too. Their first child was a honeymoon baby, they tried for a 2nd and got pregnant quickly but miscarried, then tried again and got pregnant 2 months later (so first time they tried after giving body one cycle). They seem to think about getting pregnant, and it happens!

Got bloods to check for PCOS and my thyroid tomorrow morning. Going to my first 'Slimming World' meeting on Wednesday after work - it will be nice to have something else to focus on and hopefully if my body can start behaving and lose some weight, maybe that'll help with fertility.

I never thought I'd be this person, who is all consumed by trying to get pregnant and so heartbroken every time it hasn't worked.

Thank you so much for the congrats ladies. I'm unbelievably in shock. Had to run straight out to my next appointment and keep laughing to myself!

@stormtrooperjulian Cycle 11 11DPO. Clearly 11 is my new lucky number.

Don't want to get to excited until after AF which would have been due Thursday.

@EltzBee oh my darling I'm so sorry how you feel. I totally understand it. I was convinced something was wrong with me and when they said it might be endo I went into a horrific depression which I've stroked so hard to get out off. All I can say is just keep going, as hard as it is. And seek medical help soon as you want it. Don't wait for a year. It has consumed every part of me for over a year. And I don't think there's a way around that.

@autumnfires I know right? Haha that just shows you never to give in haha! @Crossfitgirl And @FlapJackered Will be aunties if this is a sticky one.

@Crossfitgirl sorry I didn't see your essays before! But honey that's an amazing sign?!!! Fingers crossed 🤞🏻

I've got hope for you all my darling. God knows 11 cycles have been long and hard but just keep going xxx

OMG @SullyWifey so many congratulations!!!! So so happy for you!! I will definitely take the Aunty badge of honour 😂😂 Even though my body can't seem to make a baby for me at least I have contributed to a new life in a very small way! 😂😂 you must be over the moon and rightly so! I will keep my fingers crossed for a sticky bean for you. ❤️

@EltzBee It's so tough isn't it darling. I know it's hard but try not to dwell on the failed cycle and try and focus on the new one coming up. It's completely understandable to be upset when af comes though, I think it knocks us all for six each time but we have just got to get up dust it off and put our energy into the next cycle. If you're struggling I would really go and see your gp about it.
Also even if there is something not right with your hormones that doesn't mean it isn't going to happen. My friend just got pregnant despite being told she would never have children and did a scan after just telling her that and found she was 6weeks pregnant!
We are all here for you and you're not alone feeling like that. I keep looking at the stats and wondering why it's not happened for me yet. ❤️

EltzBee first of all,

But also remember that your body really doesn't want to be pregnant. It does everything it can - acidic vagina to attack sperm, thick womb lining to prevent implantation (this one blew my mind when I found out about it!) Etc. In any given cycle a healthy, fertile couple only has a 20-25% of getting pregnant, so even if you did evening right, it's out of your hands.

Not sure how helpful or not that is, but that's the mindset I try to have to keep the blues away.

So I'm out this month!

Getting the right tube clipped because the hydrosalpinx can cause problems.

I'll be back next month with bells on.

@FlapJackered haha oh darling thank you so much! It's going to happen for you so soon I can just feel it xxx

Ok so I had a very strong positive yesterday and today also another positive on my Ovulation sticks. I have just been the loo and there was pink spotting? I have had back ache all morning and now slight cramps. I don't know if this is just my body being messed up since my MC. Does anyone know what this mean?

@EltzBee sending you lots of hugs 💕