TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.5!

[Delilah7]

Hope all my lovely ladies have found it again. Thread no.5. Best mumsnet group ever 😍😍😍

Can I join please??
I'm 32, trying for our first but for me the is the 2nd attempt at ttc (ex and new husband).

Had consultation for ivf in previous relationship due to my low progesterone levels and his low motility.

I'm currently on day 30 of my cycle, expecting AF any day soon... Although my cycles have been speradic between March and now - 27, 34, 27 and 29 days - this one being 30 so far.

First month of opks this month showed I ovulated last Friday.

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Sorry didn't finish my post, phone kept going funny.

So basically, no idea where I'm at. Don't know when to estimate dates AF due!

I've told DH I'm not going to the doctors until next year though. I don't want any stressing or pressures of tests etc just yet.

@summer28 congrats ❤️ xxx

@justtrying1 welcome 😊 would leave it until about 14/15 days after your positive OPK just to be safe. So if you got your positive last Friday I would wait until next Friday to test xx

When I got the positive on the ov strip I was worried that would mean I have too short luteal phase to get pregnant and wrote it off. But now I've just sat down and gone through the dates I came on over the last few months I know it's going to be difficult to work it out based on when my cycle started.

@justtrying1 if you got your positive last Friday and say ovulated last Saturday, today you would be 7 days post ovulation at day 30. If day your longest cycle was 34 days, if you had that again this month you would have a lutheal phase of 11 days which is totally fine x

Ooo yeh @sunshine1987 that would make sense. I think I was just panicking based on say, 27 day cycle - then it would be early.

I'm glad I've got the ov strips now because it will probably make sense of my cycles a little bit, and I can check the luteal phases. That way when we do eventually go to the doctors I can go packed with all the information they need.

So basically I should wait until next weekend to test.

I do wonder why I'm having such random cycle lengths though

@justtrying1 it’s so much harder to work it all out when your cycles aren’t regular. Have you come off the pill recently? Or taking any vitamins that might be making it random? That’s the good thing about OPK’s or temping, it gives you more info about what’s going on x

@sunshine1987 no I came off the pill in March and don't take any vitamins / any form of medication that could make them irregular. No idea what it could be. I'm just glad I'm ovulating! When I got the two lines on the test last week I was so happy because I when ttc before, the doctor said it didn't look like I was ovulating.

@justrying1 definitely, maybe start plonking the data into an app and you’ll get to know everything so much more x

@MrsC87 oh no! I'm sorry

BFN this morning but still no AF. Think I must have got my dates wrong. Will wait a few more days and see what happens

@FlapJackered yes I can't see how any goes up there when it all falls out when I'm making the dreaded cum run to the toilet! 😂😂 Glad you had a good morning! I had hardly any sleep and so did OH due to his cough still so DTD hasn't happened since Sunday. If I'm honest I'm ok with it this month, mine and OHs health seems to be abit crap so just prefer us to get all healthy first and plus I cba when unwell!

@MrsC87 sorry for AF darling xx

Thanks @Delilah7 & @Lougg feeling okay, hubby has been super lovely so we're going to pig out on crap food and booze tonight!
Have to take the positive from this AF that I didn't spot for days like last time. Feels like a normal period for me this time.

@Delilah7 sounds like you need a snuggly day on the sofa- hope you and OH start to feel better soon 😘

@Lougg it still could be too early to show on a test. My friend got her BFP 1 week after missed AF. Keeping everything crossed for you 😘

This weather has made me super excited for winter & snuggly sofa days. Shut the curtains, get the fire on & a "romp on the Rug" 😜😂😂 I really hope we all make a baby this Autumn/Winter 🤞🤞🤞

@MrsC87, I am sooo feeling the excitement for the colder weather and darker nights! Get the throws on the sofa, put the fire on and stick a casserole in... then yes, as you say, a little on the rug action!! Good times :)

@Delilah7, hope your chaps bad chest feels better soon. Xx

@MrsC87 he's napping. We have a party later so boooooze is needed 😍

@FivexFive thank you Hun xxxx

Hi everyone! Congrats @summer28 :)
Just got AF a couple days ago, and so annoyed at my cycles! Since coming off the pill in April it's been anywhere between 25-33 days long. Makes it so hard to judge when my fertile week is going to be.
So I think this month I'm going to just try and dtd fairly often from maybe cd8 just in case and see how it goes, and ignore my app. I'll still do opk's at some point and log temp, but try not to schedule it into a certain timeframe. We're not usually at it that often so going to be tricky to get into that mindset!

@Starkid, me and dh are similar. It's not like we hardly ever dtd, but we tend to have phases. Like one week it happens a good few times, but others we're just not bothered. So getting into the headspace to jump each other every other day feels a bit daunting. At the same time, saying we Have To dtd more just when I get a smiley face can feel too forced/pressured.

So, ladies, I'm thinking of proposing a kind of 'challenge' to DH for next cycle (if needed! Tww is upon us)
We commit to dtd every other day, just for that cycle, to see if it works? We could mix it up, like one week aim for different rooms each time, or something? I'm just rambling now, trying to think of ways to keep it fun :) Any suggestions welcome! X

@MrsC87 glad DH is looking after you. Have lots of yummy things to cheer you up.

We just had my brother, his wife and their three kids over. My two year old niece just randomly said to me " have you got a baby in your tummy?" Randomly hoping kids have some weird sixth sense for pregnancy 😂

@FivexFive loving the different room challenge! We might need to get some curtains before we try that or our new neighbours might have a bit of a shock!

Hi girls. We are waiting to have some sign of impending ovulation here, definitely need to start temping. Partner is due to ovulate tomorrow so fingers cross it happens on time. We are going for a donation tomorrow and Monday night (I'll push for Tuesday too if the donor is okay with it).

Anyone here have only a short time to catch their surge? Last month we OPK'd for the entire FW and nothing, no pale line that got darker. And then after a mini wobble due to my partner needing constant reminding to POAS she did it being snarky and there it was suddenly on both the OPK and Clearblue her solid smiley no flashing, straight to smiley. It had appeared in full force in a few hours? Is this normal? Is it a healthy sign? Given that we have had nothing so far and FW started Thursday I'm thinking this month is the same.

I really can't wait @FivexFive bring on winter nights 😉 😍

@Dosmamas if she ovulates tomorrow, if needed, maybe organise all donations pre-ovulation next month? Egg lives only about 24 hours after it's released. Swimmers can live up to 5 days on the inside.

@Dosmamas that is not unusual, all it means is that both hormones that the clearblue tests for have risen at the same time rather than oestrogen rising first then LH...I think!

@Delilah7 that sounds like a really sensible idea to not pressure yourselves while you're not on top form. Hope you're feeling better soon though.

Sorry to hear about af @MrsC87 but the one pro is enjoying the junk food and wine guilt free. That's great AF is looking more normal too.

@starkid I am in the same boat as you, and aiming for roughly every other day. 🤞🏻

Been staying away as this cycle is odd. I had a temp rise right after the O but then it's been slowly dropping and is now almost down to the pre-O temps. I'm only 6 DPO. Usually by now my boobs would be super sore. I'm filling some some pinching in the lower middle, but at this point I'm thinking it's probably bloating. Somehow it almost seems like I didn't even ovulate. Tried an OPK, it's negative.

@Dosmamas it's possible to go from no smiley to peak without it ever flashing.

@FlapJackered has your FW started?

I'm 6 or 7 dpo is wind a symptom cause I have been very gassy apart from that nothing bar the odd twinge mild headaches and a hot face, also thick creamy cm but this could all just be pms
I'm 26 ttc baby 1
This is my 3rd cycle on cd 28 didn't ovulate till around cd 21 have only has two periods since coming off the pill one took 85 days to arrive and lasted 6 days very light then 44 days later my last one arrives lasting a whopping 15 days again very light

@KatBeCool - do you normally have regular cycles? Did your temps stay up for more than 3 days? Maybe it is just a dip and they will go back up. It is so frustrating when you think you have ovulated and you haven't though, that has happened to me a few times now.
I am in fw, flashing smiley and tons of ewcm this morning so I am hoping ovulation is coming tomorrow. Been Dtd every other day ish. so hopefully covering bases!