TTC first baby... mega thread!

[Crossfitgirl]

For those of us TTC first baby, a continued thread for August 2018 :-) a place to share our new mummy journeys!

@sunshine1987 I'm glad I'm not the only 1. It's awful isn't it

@Crossfitgirl it is weird as flo app and my ovulation pains and EWCM coincide with each other regarding ovulation dates. Think I'll start testing from CD10 next month xx

Coar boobs are tender when bra comes off and nausea today. Af is coming I can tell.... no cramps yet though!

Hi all, just read through the whole thread. Huge congrats for the BFPs! Fab news.

I'm 32, TTC #1, cycle 3.

Have been glamping this weekend with 30 of DH's mates & their kids. Super fun but not conducive for BDing. Wasted 3 flashing smilies due to VERY close tents, lots of booze and early rising kids. Disappointed as was hoping to sneakily DTD at least once!

Ah well due to ovulate on Weds so need to get on it (so to speak) now! DH better get ready!

Hi all, just catching up on the thread from today! Welcome to all the newbies!
So I'm on day 3 of smep, cd10. No positive opk yet.
Feeling cranky today for some reason- housework most of today and it's just put me in a crappy mood.
What is everyone else up to this bank holiday?
Welcome @Lougg, sounds like a nice weekend and now you're back you can get dtd!! Good luck for this cycle 😘

Hi all, hope everyone is enjoying the bank holiday! Decided to try the clear blue ovulation sticks, so will start using them to try and keep better track of my cycle. Told the husband they pick out the best 2 days, his first question was 'but we can still DTD on the other days too, right?!! Love the priorities!!
Sending positive thoughts to those in the TWW and hugs to anyone feeling a bit down xxx

Thanks @MrsC87! I was hoping to try SMEP this month but camping got in the way. Will maybe try next month.

@FivexFive I love the things our DHs come out with. When I told mine my period had started last month he said, does that mean you're not pregnant? Doh!

I’ve had such a dull bank holiday, have been catching up on work today because I’ve got a big deadline and a holiday coming up. I keep finding myself procrastinating with a catch up on this thread which is fun but not really helpful in getting through my inbox. Hope the rest of you have had a more interesting day.

@crossfitgirl your excercise tips have given me a bit of kick up the bum so that’s good. I used to work out quite regularly but quit the gym to save money last year and have put on almost a stone since then so I need to rejoin really. There’s a little voice in my head saying I shouldn’t join now because what if I get pregnant quickly and then can’t work out. But if you lots of you first timers are sticking with your regime then I think what I need to do is get mine in a better place when I am NOT pregnant and then try to maintain it if / when I am. Should be better for a healthy pregnancy and easier labour anyway.

Well done on the positive opk @Crossfitgirl ! When I was doing both opk ics and clearblue I got the positive opk IC the afternoon before the static clearblue. So it may show up tomorrow morning.

Getting so impatient with not knowing where my bloody cycle is. I want to join in the 2WW! X

@Lougg I will be ovulating tomorrow or weds so we'll be in the 2ww together! I hate camping so I don't blame you for not dtd! Lol
@mrsc87 how are you finding smep? We went to bridlington this afternoon!
@fivexfive yay for having the DH on board!
@pingupengo glad you're feeling motivated- it is really hard unless you find something you enjoy, but ttc is good motivation!
@flapjackered that's good to know, did you count the first one as the day to count ov from or did you go from the clear blue?

I have just done another just now...

It's gone!!! ....wtf..... I thought it'd be stronger!

Be very interested to see what clearblue says tomorrow. That was a very small window indeed if thats actually it! Will try dtd tonight anyway xxx

@Crossfitgirl so far so good. Today is dtd day so best get on it tonight.
The day on and day off is okay, it'll be when we have to dtd 3 days in a row lol.

@delilah7 I wish there was something we could do to speed time up. If only we had a little portal to view inside and see what's going on!!

@Crossfitgirl I wish we could too driving me insane. Cmon world let me baby make!!!

How strange about your OPK btw?!? Maybe you do just have a shorter window, is that a possibility? Did you DTD before today though? Xx

Eurgh same @Delilah7 - constantly just bloody waiting for something to let me know where I am!!

@Crossfitgirl ah yay great to be on the same schedule! How you getting on with BDing? I'm feeling a bit anxious about how many fertile days we've missed. We have the added hindrance of currently staying with my mum while our house purchase goes through. Things are not in our favour for lots of DTD!

@cupcakesandglitter it's really starting to get me down now. It's been nearly 5 weeks since I had the first bleeding and 4 weeks today since it stopped!! Xx

@mrsc87 I know what you mean. We did yesterday and since this is our first month of "trying", DH is very aware of the reason as I've told him this week is a good chance to conceive.

Last night he was tired and didn't really want sex, I mean... he did anyway... but it was the first time he made it feel a bit less romantic as I knew he wasn't really into it, and he knew I wanted to do it for babymaking! Although, I did say afterwards that I don't want us to not enjoy sex or feel like it's not fun just because we are trying, and he said it was still fun.

And to be fair he hasn't turned me down yet - it was just a bit more effort to get him in the mood, which make it a bit less romantic for me as I then feel a bit unwanted!
I worry far too much!! He hasn't turned me down but I still want him to want me when we're baby making, I don't just want him to go along with it like a chore!

Anyways, he doesn't know that I want to do it for the next 3 days specifically... so it'll be 4 days in a row in total given I wasn't expecting a positive OPK til tomorrow.

• I'll be pleased if we do manage it as that's probably more than we would normally have sex in a whole month!

I don't know whether to tell him tonight, look love, I'm ovulating, come over here... or whether to just try and seduce him then only tell him im ovukating if he doesn't want it for any reason??

Advice please?? Lol!!
(The crazy is out!)

cupcake I’ve done the same, I’ve already got a list of furniture to buy and mapped out the spare room!

@delilah yeah yesterday, and 3 days before that. I think it must just be a really short window maybe! Cos my pains have settled now too! Hmm!

@lougg as you can see from my post above... we don't usually DTD that often! Let me show you this is me being very open, here is my app, the love hearts are the sex!

I had only told him yesterday it's my predicted fertile week, as although flo was saying it started ages ago, i ovulated on cd18 last time, so it was predicting 3 days earlier than last cycle so I had gone with the later dates that clue was suggesting (i use both)

What about you?

Is anyone else willing to share this? I think it may make some of us feel terrible and some of us loads better! Delilah and cupcakes you can't share you're you'll put us all to shame!!! 😂

Only joking, I am genuinely interested in everyone xxx

@Crossfitgirl I totally know what you mean. I'm very lucky that I can be completely honest with my dh and he is totally on board. Nothing changes, he still is up for it however many times we dtd. We actually have a giggle between ourselves, he keeps saying "come on love, it's smep remember 😂"
I think just ensure you are still having fun and it's not all about the end result!
I may not be saying that after 3 days in a row later this week 🤦‍♀️🤣

I really don't mind sharing, here's mine.
I shall be adding a heart to today too 😜

@Crossfitgirl, DTD-ing can definitely become a chore when TTC unfortunately 😔 I went for letting DP in on the fw dates last cycle and all was good for 3 days in a row... then the fourth just wasn't happening 😕 We were both knackered (some may say shagged-out 🙄) and like you, that's about a months worth of sex in one month for us under normal circumstances! DP beat himself up that he couldn't manage it and has been obsessively googling aphrodisiacs in readiness for next month ever since (chilli and oysters anyone?!).

Maybe just ask DP if he wants to know or not? That way you'll know the best way to keep the pressure off him 🙂

I wouldn't mind sharing at all but nothing to share yet! I was away with work last week and then camping!

The previous two cycles we've only managed once in the FW as one or other of us has been away. It's been really frustrating not being together at the right times and if this isn't our month I'm going to have to start scheduling our lives around my ovaries!!

When we're not TTC we're not super frequent so we really need to make a special effort.

It's not letting me post a pic but have dtd everyday since about the fourth day after my period finished. Not sure if it's my actual ovulation day today even though the flo app says it is, I tried using strips to see but only got faint lines and starting over thinking it 🙈