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TTC after miscarriage 40 and over

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Raffeylou · 15/08/2018 11:42

Hi ladies! I turned 40 in May and am shortly due to start ttc my second child (again) .. DS is two, he was conceived immediately when I was 37 and I was lucky enough to enjoy a textbook pregnancy. Last month DH and I decided to actively try for a second child. We were aware of the gloomy statistics and anticipated it taking a long time so were amazed and delighted when again I conceived first go. Naively I envisaged a problem-free pregnancy like last time and was more excited than cautious, but sadly I miscarried at 5 weeks which has really knocked me for six Sad. I never wanted to become obsessed with having second child (hubby and I always said if it happened then fantastic but if not, we were already blessed to have our little boy), however the loss of this baby has hit hard and I feel desperate to conceive again. Partly because I want that wonderful, exciting feeling of being pregnant back, and partly because the miscarriage has brought home the fact that I am running out of time (and good eggs)! It has certainly lent a sense of urgency to the situation and we are keen to try again as soon as possible. As much as I’d like to believe I’m very fertile based on getting pregnant so quickly in the past, I cannot assume this is the case .. I am still hopeful it will happen again though, my main concern is chromosomally abnormal eggs as I am aware this is what causes the majority of miscarriages (especially over the age of 40). If I am fortunate enough to conceive again, I’m scared that I’ll be too paranoid about another miscarriage to relax and enjoy the pregnancy. That said, I realise that I may have to go through this ordeal a few times before we hit upon the ‘golden egg’ .. Would love to find others to share this journey with Smile. Oh and if anyone can recommend any supplements to improve egg health, I am all ears! x

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Cleozeta · 15/08/2018 18:00

Hi Raffeylou, come on over to the ttc at 40+ thread, there are lots of us there all in the same boat and everyone is very supportive. I myself had a mmc at 10 weeks in May (I'm 41) so totally understand what you are going through.
As for egg health, I take ubiquinol 200mg daily

Raffeylou · 15/08/2018 20:12

Hey Cleozeta thank you for your message :) I haven't been able to find a recent ttc at 40+ thread so started this one lol, can you please send me the link? Would love to chat to you all! x

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CookieWaffle · 15/08/2018 20:22

Here's the over 40s thread :) come join us!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3323091-Over-40-ttc-August-baby-dust-for-me

I turned 40 this year too, had a CP last month then my BFP this month, it can still be done! xx

Raffeylou · 15/08/2018 21:50

Cheers Cookie, will pop on over - so happy to find this thread [happy]. And huge congratulations on your BFP!!!! xx

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