Staying Sane - Positivity during TTC journey

[KnitKitty]

Hi ladies,

So, TTC is an anxious and sometimes heartbreaking time and is just a constant roller-coaster of emotions:
Some of us have been trying for a long, long time and just feeling like it will never happen.
Some of us are trying after a previous pregnancy loss.
Some of us aren't seeing eye-to-eye with OHs.
Some of us don't have an OH to lean on and are going through it alone.
Some of us are trying with fertility treatment.
Some of us are trying for our first, and some our fourth
Some of us want to be trying but can't yet for one reason or another.
Some of us are dealing with health issues which may affect fertility or mental health.
And some of us are about to, or have just started trying and might be worrying about how long it will take or if this or that will effect fertility etc etc...

It's just not the funnest journey to be on and I thought we could do with a thread just for positive messages and thoughts.

SO, no negative messages on this thread, but feel free to post:
A positive mantra or affirmation you use or think someone else could use
An idea of how to relax or pass the TTW time
A nice thing that happened to you recently
A success story despite the odds
A picture or word of hope (rainbow pictures most welcome)
A positive message to those who are going through one of the above scenarios at the moment even if you're not on the same journey as they are right now
A nice/positive quote you've read or heard
Or something which brightened up your day

The idea is that anyone having a wobble for whatever reason can come here and soak up some positive energy to help them feel better.

I'll go first:
A mantra I have been repeating to myself at the moment is "Good things happen to me. I accept miracles in my life."

A word of hope for anyone thinking of coming off the pill or who has just come off the pill and who has a history of endometriosis; I have suffered with endo in the past and was very worried that the moment I stopped taking the pill I would get all clogged up with endo again, but I conceived in the second month after coming off the pill and I have a colleague whose wife conceived two children (one the first month after coming off the pill, the second the third month after the pill) without a problem even though she has endo too.

Right, who's with me? Any more positive stuff to share anyone?

Thank you ladies!

@KnitKitty you literally just made me get off my butt and get a drink. 😂 My plan now is just to see this as an exciting opportunity to see my baby a bit early.

@Angelmiracle that's so exciting! It's going to be amazing to see your baby. There's so much waiting isn't there? The 2ww could just be nature's way of getting us ready for all the waiting in pregnancy...

@KnitKitty This is this morning's one. I'm feeling less like I did this month. Not really any cramps. Just feeling a bit run down and had a weird taste in my mouth earlier. But not sure if that's just me getting a cold. I promised myself I wouldn't test early and get myself worked up but I figured I'd rather find out what my body's doing. Glad you had a good day today xx

That's so exciting @Chanel05! It may not feel like it now but having a wedding without morning sickness is a great silver lining. It'll happen to you soon.

Thanks @CookieWaffle. 😊

Yep my temp has dropped. I'm getting ready for it.

There's definitely a line there CookieWaffle! When will you test again? Friday? I have everything crossed for you. Feeling run-down can often be an early pregnancy sign.

Chanel05 how exciting! Hope the last bits of preparation are going well. A wedding baby would be lovely, but don't worry if it doesn't happen either. Your bubba exactly when it's meant to. xxx

Glad you're doing well AngleMiracle!

I should test Friday but right now I wanna know if its over or not so probably tomorrow :)

Fair enough lovely. Let us know how it goes in the morning then. I'll be thinking of you and cyber-holding your hand. xxx

Bless you, that's very sweet xxx

@ChaosMoon that’s very true! I’d have been due af anyway had I not stopped the pill so that’s a bonus at least!

@KnitKitty thank you that’s a lovely message and you are so right. I want to be brewing the little seed when the time is right for him/her to be nice and healthy.

Any news this morning CookieWaffle?

Hope everyone has a lovely day today. I'm going to get my hair cut later.

Hey @KnitKitty, I'm going to wait a little longer to be sure, but my temps are still high (highest even) and some unusual symptoms so am feeling cautiously confident. Am going to try and hold out til Saturday...

Enjoy your haircut, they always do a nice head massage with mine, very relaxing :) xx

How exciting CookieWaffle things are looking really good!!!
What unusual symptoms are going getting?

Well done for your patience with the testing. You should get a much more obvious line on Saturday so waiting is good as it'll give you more peace of mind...

I think this must be a lucky thread!

@KnitKitty I've definitely been rushing to the loo alot this week, I've been feeling really run down, like having a cold but no cold, and I've had some weird smells and tastes. I had to go find something to drink to try and get rid of the taste. I fell asleep on the sofa at 8pm last night, I'd not had a busy day at all. Plus my boobs are killing me today, that's not a usual AF sign!

That's great @CookieWaffle. Your hormones will have more than doubled by then so it should be much clearer.

It really is @KnitKitty! But we also help make our own luck here. All this visualization really makes a difference.

At the moment I'm trying to visualise myself focusing on my work - how do you fancy my chances?

I hope everyone else is doing well too. And happy haircutting KnitKitty.

Hi ladies, just wanted to jump in today and give an affirmation for anyone who might need it. I think we have a few bfps on the thread and others who are waiting so I thought this might help:

I am free of worry and at peace with myself. I am not afraid of what comes next

Turns out I'm now going away for this weekend but I think this is conclusve proof....

:)

Oh my god! @CookieWaffle this is amazing, congratulations! I am absolutely thrilled for you. 😊🌹🎉 How are you feeling?

@TedLife I think that's the perfect affirmation at the moment. How are you doing my dear?

DP was pretty sceptical at first after last month but I explained this ones definitely getting stronger. Still a little worried but it looks good so far xx

CookieWaffle That's incredible. I don't feel like I have to tentatively hold it back now... CONGRATULATIONS!!!

TedLife you have a knack for giving me the right affirmations and quotes for the day. Thank you for the one you posted yesterday (only seen it this morning).

ChaosMoon I totally agree we're making our own luck by being positive and trying to stay calm about TTC, and allowing our bodies to do things at their own time in their own way and not resent them for it. This thread is a real help for me to keep me trusting nature and when I'm feeling low or impatient I can come here and see the wonderful BFPs some of you ladies have already had and be reminded that this attitude is the best way to be.

I'm on my 5th cycle since MC now and part of me is feeling like it's never going to happen again. But another part of me knows that the further away from the MC I am the more mental healing I've done and the more prepared I'll be to welcome another pregnancy without panic. I was thinking about this... If I'd fallen pregnant immediately after MC I think I would have been fraught with nerves and worry, whereas I feel more ready for pregnancy again now, whether it works out this time or not.
I just need to be patient.

And the funny thing is; we wait and wait and wait for that BFP and then suddenly we find ourselves having to be patient again. Pregnancy is just one long lesson in patience too. So my quotes today are for both those of us still TTC and those of you who are now expecting.

@CookieWaffle congrats on your deepening lines. That's wonderful news, keep up the positivity!

I'm ok. On day 7 of flashy smileys so it doesn't look like my static is in sight this month. Guessing i missed it. Have a feeling i may have ov'd earlier this week from physical symptoms but still have ewcm so just don't know. Annoying because I won't be able to tell how many dpo I am/will be. I was really trying to be so positive and zen this month and my body is now playing tricks on me so it's hard not to feel a bit cheated.

I've just come across this thread and love the idea of it! It's easy for us all to feel down and negative so love this thread for keeping everyone upbeat 😎

I've had a tough week as my Nan is in hospital and has had to have a high risk operation and they had to keep her asleep for a few days before waking her up. The good news is that the operation went well and they are hopefully going to wake her up today. I can't wait to see her, I just want her to be awake so I can give her a big hug!

Thanks ladies, I still feeling a little worried but I'm trying to be as positive as possible! Patience is definitely needed today :)

@Virgo89 hope everything goes well with your nan today! xx