TTC problems :(

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This is my first post.
We’ve been TTC for 8 months. I know that’s not long but I’m 32 with a history of endometriosis and this is our first time trying. So I went to the GP about a month ago as since coming off the pill my periods have been insanely painful again. I also mentioned about TTC and she looked through my notes. She gave me some forms for bloods test for rubella, cycle days 1-4, 21 and a transvaginal scan as the pain is particularly on the left.
So I’ve had all done. I’m not showing up as immune to rubella, cycle day 21 shows I’m not ovulating and scan showed a 23mm endometrial cyst.
I said to the GP could the ovulation test be wrong as I had a particularly long cycle last month. She said it’s chicken and egg, is it negative because it was taken at the wrong time or are my cycle lengths all over the place because I’m not ovulating....
So where do we go from here....
I’ve got to have the rubella vaccine and a chlamydia test (110% that’ll be negative so not worried about that) and GP will ring hubby tomorrow re getting his swimmers tested. Once all that’s done she’ll refer us to the fertility clinic.
As an aside, some years ago, maybe 6 or so for some reason, I really don’t know why as we weren’t TTC and I was under gynae just for painful periods, I had an AMH level checked and it was very low. Add that to the mix and I’m feeling very low and negative.
Anyone had anything similar and had a success??
Thanks for reading. Sorry it’s long! X

Anyone...?

Sounds like what I'm going through apart from I've been told I'm normal....whats amh tests? I can't offer advice but I can offer a hug and I know what you're going through xx

Sorry I can't offer any advice either 😓 my husband and I are also going through the stress of TTC after I went off the pill in Oct 2015 and still no baby. Not even a hint of a positive prg test. We have been actively trying with timing and opks since Dec. I hope we and all others struggling get out BFP one day. I am sure you will have some treatment options right? X

@Owlpatrol thanks for the reply. Sorry to hear you're going through it too. Sucks doesn't it. Amh is a test for your egg reserve. Thanks for the hug. Right back at ya 💛

@DontCareBear sorry to hear that ☹️ what do the docs say? I was on the pill for the best part of 12 years before finishing it in August. Wonder if that has anything to do with it as well. Gp says once vaccine and tests are done she'll refer us to the fertility clinic. I just hate the thought of more prodding and poking. One of my friends has 3 and had the nerve to say, we didn't get preg straight away, took us two months!!!! 😫

@spugy82 yeh that is the most annoying thing isnt it? The people that were lucky enough to get pregnant so easily just cant even comprehend the situation we are all in 😣 it is not their fault ofc and I am sure if tables were turned we would be the same (but maybe not say that 2 months was so long lol!). Docs said everything is normal but I dont believe that, as I am pretty sure I am either not ovulating or I have rubbish eggs. My periods are irregular and can vary from between 32days and 50days - clearly that is a sign that something isnt right? Mt husband and I are gonna keep trying for 6 months while I temp this time so if it doesn't happen then I can give the charts to docs and demand some kind of treatment (if my temps show ov problems that is). Ah hope all goes well for you and you get your bfp soon! X

@Owlpatrol @DontCareBear
Just wanted to stop by and say hope all is well (username change)
Got my MMR first vaccine on Friday. Next one booked in for a month so looks like end of August we can start to try again x

@squirrelnutkins1 hey, good to hear things are moving along for you. August is just around the corner so no worries (I know this doesnt help when you feel like you are missing an opportunity but we gotta stay positive!). Same position over here - still trying and we time it really well but no luck. Im in my current tww atm, 5dpo but not a symptom in sight (although I know it is super early for symptoms so nothing unusual there). Just went to a baby shower on Sunday too and it was a little tough not to fixate on my friends perfect bump and wish I knew how it felt to have one. I really hope I we all get the chance to experience a big baby bump. I am 31 this year - time is running away! But its ok, we will keep soldiering on

@DontCareBear aww sending baby dust your way x hard isn't it. I had to go to a little work baby shower on Monday and slapped a smile on 🙄 and had a friend announce last night she's preg. Fortunately via social media so I didn't have to do my pretend face. Of course I'm absolutely delighted for everyone but just wish it was me and everyone else on here who is struggling. I'm 32 so feeling the pressure the get cracking to make it happen 😂🙈 really really hope you get your BFP soon

Sorry to hear you’re all struggling. I was in your situation too until earlier in the year. For anyone with long irregular cycles I’d really recommend giving reflexology a go.

I had bloods, ultrasound, & hycosy which showed no problems however my cycles fluctuated between 35-60 days. I did 6 months on clomid which did regulate my cycles and make me ovulate regularly however still no baby. I decided to give reflexology a go after a recommendation whilst waiting for my next appointment with the consultant which I already knew would result in IVF referral. I did 1x hour long session a week for the whole of January, dropping to every other week in Feb. January I had a 30 day cycle and we conceived in February. I am now 20 weeks pregnant and all going well so far.

Obviously I know it may not work for everyone but for anyone with long irregular cycles like me it might be worth you doing a bit of research/looking into it to see if you think it’s for you!

How is everyone getting on? X

Hi @squirrelnutkins1 - I am still in the same position 😣 baby shower friend is now due any day, another friend is due early Sep and just had a baby announcement today from another friend on their second one. It is feeling a little more unlikely every day. Sent an email to IVF clinic to start the process. I feel so hard done by but I know it is a numbers game and seeing as only one other couple I know if going down the IVF route it seems the laws of probability put me and my husband in the "1 in every 6 couples will struggle to conceive" camp.

I hope there is more positive news at your end? X

Ah so sorry to hear this 😞 really sucks doesn't it 😢
Got a fertility appointment end of sept so the fun begins 🙄 @DontCareBear

Any news anyone? 💐

I plucked up the courage to chase my lap date and blood results.... lap is provisionally early Jan but I'm on the cancellation list... so hopefully it'll be sooner. Also my AMH level is apparently normal!!! It's quite the miracle as it was very low when I had it done before.....!! I've asked the secretary to go back and check for me!!

Hey @squirrelnutkins1 I'm still in the same boat I'm afraid. No little miracles as of yet. Had AMH test results back, came back very high (67) so pretty much confirmed I am polycystic. Still not diagnosed with PCOS but I am now on metformin (and taking co-enzyme q10 200mg, B vitamins, 5mg folic acid and I am going to order some Inofolic) as well as on a PCOS diet. So basically no processed sugar, no carbs, no gluten, no soy and no dairy for 6 months. Our last push before seriously considering IVF. After this we can safely say that we tried EVERYTHING.

That's great that your AMH level is normal. Thats a good sign! Hopefully your lap results come back normal too!

We visited friends over the weekend that just had a new baby boy. He is so gorgeous and tiny. I do hope we can all experience holding our own little baby in our arms one day soon x

Hey. How are you getting on? Got my lap in a couple of weeks so pleased about that.
How's the alternate diet going?
A friend has recently had a baby so been for a few cuddles 💔 hard isn't it @DontCareBear

Hi @squirrelnutkins1 glad to hear things are moving forward for you. Sometimes the waiting for appointments can be so torturous in themselves! Still not preggers even though I followed the diet to a T and lost 11lbs in 2 months. Got fed up and started eating whatever I wanted throughout Dec. Had LOADS to drink on NYE. Today is day 1 of fertility diet again. We have an appointment with IVF clinic at end of Jan were basically if we arent preg we are going to just pay and start the process. I have decided that 2019 is the year that it all ends - I really cant be doing this forever. Either we have a baby this year or we stop trying come Dec (and just never use protection). I would rather take control of my life again than keep trying with no result. Hopefully it will happen for us (either miraculously naturally this month or through IVF whenever that may be) but I am under no illusion that the odds are in our favour. I am going into this with my eyes wide open.

My sis is now 22 weeks too. It was tough at first but now it has just become the new normal like so many other times friends and family announced their pregnancies. Tis life and somebody has to draw the short straw in this respect. I look forward to a life of travel if Plan A doesnt work out.

Sorry if that was not the post you were hoping for! I hope things turn out much better for you

@DontCareBear
I like your positive thinking, let's get our stuff together for 2019!
I hope you get on well with your IVF appointment.

Ah that must be so hard seeing your sis but congrats auntie 😊 I always find the announcement part the hardest. I can cope going for new born cuddles but the announcement cripples me for days.

I'm looking forward to getting this laparoscopy out the way. I'm starting to worry about it now and what they may find but let's take control and get ourselves preg one way or another!!

Well done with your weight loss! That's amazing!!!

@DontCareBear @Owlpatrol hey. Just checking in wondering how things are? Xx

Hey @squirrelnutkins1 - nice to hear from you again! A lot has happened since I last posted. Good and more recently bad unfortunately. My husband and I took the plunge and went for our first round of IVF in March. We were so blessed to have it work first time. Early scan went well and 12 week scan was good apart from baby measuring 3 days small. So we had another scan scheduled for the following week. Growth rate was fine but baby still measuring very small. Just on the line for lowest percentile. Then we got the devestating news that the screening blood test came back with low hormone levels for HcG and PAPPA-A, which gave baby increased risk of Edwards syndrome which is fatal to babies. We had a 1 in 99 chance. So opted to pay £500 for the more accurate private blood test that looks at baby DNA fragments in my blood that they test. It came back as a 99% chance baby has Edwards - not what we wanted to hear as everything on the scan looked fine apart from the baby being a bit small. I am booked in for a final invasive test to test the amniotic fluid to get the baby's DNA to test for Edwards. If this comes back positive (which is likely given 2 bad results from previous screens) my husband and I have to decide whether to continue with the pregnancy and potentially have stillbirth (or the baby will die within 2 weeks after birth if it survives) or to have an early termination. Life is very unfair. After all the struggles so far, we almost got there. In a few weeks time, I may not be pregnant anymore and will have to start all over again. Unfortunately this rare chromosomal abnormality is rare and happens randomly in some pregnancies during the cell division stage. We were just very unlucky. To make it worse, we have 3 sets of friends who just announced their pregnancies, which would've been perfect if we were having a healthy pregnancy.

But as ever, I am ok (thankfully!). My husband and I have adjusted to the fact that it will likely be bad news. It was easy to do considering we have worried that something may go wrong throughout the whole process. This diagnosis must be SO hard for people who dont have fertility issues and get this bad news out of the blue with no warning. I feel very lucky to have grown stronger through the infertility issues to be able to deal with this.

Sorry for the long post. I really hope news is better on your end xxx

Oh my goodness, what a traumatic time for you. I'm so sorry 💔 when will you get the next lot of results? I can't even find any words to say. I'm so gutted you're going through this. How are you both holding up? Silly question really. Hope you are managing to support each other the best you can.
Ah man, that's even harder with your friends announcing pregnancies as well. I wish i could magic this all away for you ☹️💕

What a fabulous attitude you have, to see how you've grown stronger as a person. It certainly is a trying journey and then when you think you've finally got there you've got this to deal with 💔 so many hugs coming your way

No better news over here tbh. I had my lap and HSG in Jan. 7 weeks later I conceived naturally, just as I was waiting for af to arrive and to start on Letrazole. A little miracle. It was short lived tho and I mc at 7 weeks. It was beyond devastating. We've been very up and down emotionally ever since. Went back to the clinic last week and have gone back to the Letrazole plan for three months so we'll see what happens on that.

You're in my thoughts lovely lady. So sorry again you're going through this. Here if you ever want to chat xxx  @DontCareBear

I'm so sorry @squirrelnutkins1 that is also such a devastating thing to have to go through. I really hope you guys manage to have another little miracle when you are both ready xxx

Yes this journey makes us stronger and I believe we will be better parents because of it (if we are lucky enough to have our own children one day). I will definitely keep you updated with what happens - we wont know for another 3 weeks as my appointment is not for another 2 weeks yet. Unfortunately I am abroad at the moment so cant do it any sooner.

I am off out now so will leave sending good wishes and luck your way for now. I pray we both get our happy ending one day soon xxx

@DontCareBear Yes me too 🙏🏻 xxx

@DontCareBear hey hun just checking in to see how things are? Xxx

Hi @squirrelnutkins1 - still not had the final test yet. I have that booked in for the beginning of next week. I will update you once I have heard back - thanks for checking though . Still just enjoying each day of pregnancy while I can, in case I never get to experience it again. Hope all is well with you atm x

@DontCareBear you've got such a fabulous attitude 😘❤️ all the best for next week 🙏🏻

Had my follicle scan earlier in the week and there was one mature follicle ready to pop any time so been dtd a lot so we'll see what happens. Xxx