TTC first baby cycle one! Anyone else out there?

[rosesandponies]

So.... first baby 🤞🏼🙏🏽🤞🏼🙏🏽 Meant to be ovulating tomorrow. Main challenge atm is keeping things fun with the husband and not making him feel like a baby making machine 😂 How’s it going for other hopeful first time mummy’s?

@Fredthespider Hi! Welcome 😘 I think my other half finds it hard to being scheduled takes any fun and being spontaneous out of it! Defo worth not trying to schedule but just doing it and not planning it. ( maybe as a woman keep an eye on it and know when to!) I'd say get some supermarket ones in before Sunday and see what it does! X

Thanks for the warm welcome @Delilah7 :) Using the Clearblue ovulation kits has prompted OH to ask each day what the result is, so he's showing an interest which is great, but also means I can't be sneaky. As it was the first cycle we didn't know how many 'high' days we would get before 'peak' and we ended up with 6 high plus 2 peaks days so that was a little more than we'd expected! Onto symptom spotting for the next 10 days haha

@Fredthespider I've considering them! But is it much off what flo says? Great that he's showing interest! I didn't mean be sneaky I meant just try be spontaneous more! X

@Trying1stBaby I'm so so sorry, sending lots of love and hugs your way, cant imagine how it must feel x

@Fredthespider welcome! Pregnancy tests and OPK are 3 for 2 at Boots atm, didn't completely understand your message because new to this so sorry if that's not what you meant

@OrcinusOrca Omg I miss the pill - the one I had, Femodene, is really good for skin apparently. Took it all through my 20s, never spotty, now I'm like a pizza!

Thank you @rosesandponies

Hi everyone,

It’s so nice to read this thread and see so many others saying out loud what I’m thinking/wondering!

I’m also sorry to read some of the disappointing news though and wish you the very best of luck moving forward.

We’re in to month one of ttc. I came off my pill last year in preparation for us to start trying this year but due to a house move we’ve only just started.

I’ve downloaded the Flo app and love how insightful it is! Fingers crossed it helps as I have no clue after being on the progesterone only pill for so long (it meant no cycles pretty much for most of my adult life).

I’m 34 and although from a family of women who tend to have lots of children even in to their 40s, part of me can’t help but worry about the late start.

The first month of trying was interesting and didn’t feel natural - more ‘forced fun’. How on earth can we spice this up?! 😄

I had tender breasts and stomach cramps the last two days so got excited, only to AF today - 1 week early!! Was so disappointed! Bought chocolate and prosecco to console myself... I promised myself I wouldn’t obsess about it, but it’s tricky isn’t it?

I know how you feel @ErikaSt! If AF comes I have a bottle of white in the fridge waiting for me 😂

The only upside I tell myself! 😄 One day I’ll actually be excited that I can’t open one 🤞🏻

@ErikaSt hi Erika! Very very hard not to obsess I'm with you. Are you sure it was a period, I know that sounds silly but all I read about is implantation bleeds. They can seem like periods aswell as withdrawal bleeds can. Lovely that you are interested in Thai thread. I love talking to people about it. Spice it up by trying not to schedule that's one thing my partner hates hahaha. So I have to just get sexy once I know my good week is in 😂😂 x

@Delilah7 Hello 😃

Sadly, I don’t think it is. I did at first because it was different to usual - that pinky brown spotting I’ve read about.....which also didn’t help the excitement! Kept telling myself not to get my hopes up, but then it turned into the usual stuff by lunch time 😏

21 days is about right for me. Last month I went 28 days and got my hopes up thinking we’d inadvertently nailed it without ‘trying’. Even did a test! I’ve been reading other threads and apparently it can take up to a year so perhaps I’m being impatient.

Is anyone else using the Flo app? I’ll try your ‘get sexy’ tip @Delilah7! I tried that last month but he knew what I was up to, so I obviously wasn’t that good at it! 😂😂

@ErikaSt I'm so impatient too so if it doesn't happen quickly which I know it won't anyways I'll feel disappointed. I use flo and do find it very good. Just whether it's reliable. Trust me for me to be sexy is a big deal hahaha. I had bad experiences in the past so I have a lower sex drive than my other half which has caused some rows. But now we are baby making he loves it hahaha x

@ErikaSt Flo seems good for me so far and seems accurate, @Delilah7 uses it too. I've also started using ovulation strips - which horrified the husband when he found my 'pee cup' in the medicine cabinet (thoroughly bleached I hasten to add) further adding to the feeling that trying for a baby is about as erotic as a G8 summit... I've tried doing some light massage - got some nice massage oil, dim lights and 'see what happens' sort of thing which also helps him relax into it a bit. Trouble is weeknights suck because he is massively stressed and tired from the City and the commute... the struggle is real! I'm also in my early 30s and it's weird after having spent my 20s terrified of pregnancy, guzzling morning after pill etc to now feeling like it's so hard

@rosesandponies I could have written all of that!

@rosesandponies have to let me know how they work. I wonder if flos accurate with them?! Oh gosh the pee cup. I find it hard to pee on a pregnancy stick so it's gonna be a difficult one for me when we need to! & weeknights are just a chore I find sometimes anyways because if we are both tired or had a bad day that's the LAST thing on my mind. I hope it gets easier for you x

@delilah7 I haven't downloaded an app yet, we're part of the clearblue study at the moment so just using that. I don't know how it compares to an app, but as I'm not long off the pill I didn't think the apps would be able to cope with the lack of a proper cycle if that makes sense!

I looked into the different apps originally, but couldn't decide on which one was the best one to get, how are you finding Flo?

Settled on some Asda pregnancy tests today, they say you can test four days early... then I've just made the mistake of reading the reviews and apparently they're rubbish... ugh. Never mind, if it's an ambiguous result then I'll be rushing out to boots to get an expensive test!

@Fredthespider I find flo good, just have to adjust when your period is normally ( well for me I do as t can be a few days out ) then it starts to remember!

I wouldn't buy a massively expensive one yet but that's because I'm tight 😂😂 I've bought some FRERs for when I need to... when you say dpo does this mean after you've done the fertile week it's days past your ovulation day? As mine was yesterday x

@Delilah7 DPO is days past ovulation, mine was on Wed, so you're only a day behind me :)

@Fredthespider how exciting! So when's the normal time you'd take a test? I wonder if it'll work. I didn't go toilet straight away. 😂😂😂 x

@Delilah7 oh I know that feeling, it was weird not doing the ceremonial waddle to the toilet 😂

I'm planning to test next Sunday morning (11DPO). From reading the boards here there are some who will test at 9DPO with a FRER, but the chances of a false negative are really high so I'd rather wait a little and have it be a little more accurate. Even then I'm thinking 11DPO is still early, I might see if I can hold out a little longer, but I'd prefer to test on a day when I don't then have to rush off to work so the bank holiday Monday would probably be the latest lol.

@Fredthespider my other half was like why aren't you rushing to the toilet like normal 😂 the waddles so embarrassing.
I have heard 12DPO is a good time to test too. So maybe try hold out till Monday morning if you can?? I'm excited for you! X

@hamandpease hahaha - good to know I'm not alone!

@Fredthespider @Delilah7 I just use cheap tests - I'd definitely recommend waiting I tested 9 days P.O. which was stupid - I just feel rubbish now because it was negative but then there's still a part of time that's hopeful and wondering if PMS is pregnancy symptoms, period due in about a week (5 week cycles) Where are the best deals for tests? I can't find less than about 4-5 quid each

@rosesandponies I got my frer ones from amazon. Two for 7 something I think!