Anyone going for a third? Whats your age gap?

[Mamabear12]

I have two dc, 20 months apart and age 4 and 6. I have been debating to have a third since my son was 12 months. Actually, I was talking about having a third while I was pushing him out :) The midwife said she never seen that before! Lol. But after having two dc, I realised it was a lot more work then I thought. However, it has been on my mind and whenever I was ready, my husband was not. And then when he finally was, I got cold feet. And now finally he has agreed again to try, so I think we will go for it. Am I crazy? My two dc are finally at a place where they are independent and it has gotten easy. However, I am worried if I do not go for it, I will regret it later. I am 35, so now is the time if we go for it. It is on my mind every day literally for the last year.

Oh so happy to see this thread exists! May I join, please?

I'm 39 and have two children already. DD1 is 3 and DD2 is 1. I'm dead set to try for a third, though my husband is less keen just because we are so sleep deprived. I would rather get the baby years behind me (physically so to speak) as biologically my window is closing quickly.

I'll be so happy to check in on this thread and see how everyone is getting on.

Is anyone in their upper 30s or am I the ancient one here ?

x

@MrsAmelia I'm 35 so definitely heading into my upper 30s. My Dad called me middle aged the other day middle aged!

@MrsAmelia hi we're in the same boat. Dreading turning 40! Ovaries are screaming at me!
I'm recovering from a miscarriage so will hopefully be able to try again. Not sure how long I'll try for tho.

I have 2 DD’s with a 20 month gap (they’re 4.5 and 2.9 now) and have just had my BFP for number 3! So they’ll be 5 and 3 when this one is born (all being well).
We always knew we wanted three but had a really tough time when our first 2 were younger (2 horrific sleepers) so have only just felt ready for number 3. Started trying in Feb!

May I join too? I’m ttc#4 (although it’s #3 with DH)

I’m 38 (39 in a few months) with DC aged 17,8&7. We are on cycle 11 now.

@EverythingNow have you had any success?
I fell pg first time. Sadly it was not to be.
Waiting to try again. Not sure I could go as long as you. I doubt my husband would want to either.

@L1zz13 no we’ve had no success, although I’ve had crazy line eye/wishful thinking.

Dc 1 was unplanned.
Dc 2 took 5 or 6months ttc
Dc3 was the only time we dtd after dc2.

I also had a chemical 2 years ago when we were using condoms so I was really surprised it hasn’t happened but I guess I’m older now.

May I join? I’ve just got my bfp a few days ago and conceived my 3rd. My other children will be 5 and 11 so big age gaps.

Can I join too? Another ancient mum of 2 and TTC #3. I will be 39 in a few months, and my DS is 5.5 and my DD is 3. Have been trying for 4 months, and no luck yet. Am wondering if my ship has sailed and we should be happy with 2. But I can't think of anything else but having another baby at the mo. It's so difficult, as I fell pregnant easily with the first 2.

@EverythingNow I bet your like me. Convinced we're too old but still realising plenty of people of our age have babies.
I'd so love to experience it all over again. Taking my time to take pleasure in everything.
My 1st AF has just finished after the mc so I'm waiting see how this cycle pans out all whilst ttc. Not sure if my hubbo is still keen. I daren't even ask him. We were only going to give it three months to try.

@L1zz13 yes absolutely. I don’t feel 38, and a number of school friends are just having their first now but then my mum told me recently she finished the menopause at 46, which really doesn’t leave me much time.

I remember saying to her when we started trying last summer that we’d give it til Christmas - because of course I thought it would be instant. But when (understandably and realistically) that didn’t happen I keep telling myself just one more month of trying. I didn’t tell DH about the deadlines I ‘imposed’ on myself because it took sooooo long to convince him that I didn’t want him to change his mind!

Lol 😂 we'll just have keep everything crossed.

I wish I hadn't imposed a deadline. I'm hoping there's an unspoken agreement that the last three months don't count.

I really want a third, OH is on the fence, I have an almost 5yo and 2yo. Both boys.
I don't know I just feel like I want another does anybody know that feeling?

@HeartCurrent I know that feeling! My DH was on the fence at first too but is quite keen now. I just knew I wasn't done at two. He said he'll definitely be done at three

@heartcurrent yep I definitely do. 3girls here, youngest is now 7! And dh only agreed to try last summer.

Op you are me a year ago!
I am 35 and I now have 3x dd.
7yo, 5yo and 4mo 🙂

No regrets AT ALL!

On month 4 of ttc#3
Ds1 is 5, ds2 is 3.

@HeartCurrent I know exactly what you mean, DS is only 7m but I just know I'm not done. Whilst I was pregnant DH kept saying we would stop at 2 but here we are already ttc #3, he has said we will def be done at 3 though! I think DH just realised how much having a 3rd means to me (I've always wanted 3) whereas he wasn't totally against it and wouldn't regret it if we do, iykwim?

There is two and a half year between dc1 and dc2 and 3 and a half between dc2 and dc3. Imo the jump from 2 to 3 children is so much harder than 1 to 2. The age gap between the first and last born makes finding things to do to please everyone so much more difficult. I also had a school run, half day nursery run and a newborn to juggle which was really hard for a while

My older two were 7 and 10 when my youngest now 6 came along.
My 10 yr old daughter was a brilliant extra pair of hands. Just like having an au pair.
It was a bit of a faff going to two schools and a horse with a new born but we managed. Must admit horse found a new home 😢
If we were late it wasn't the end of the world.

If I succeed with #4 I've now got two teenagers to babysit!

That's it! I picture my family with 3 kids I have the names picked out, I keep getting this feeling in my stomach like I'm craving to be pregnant again, spoke to OH again after I posted and he said he's more than happy to start practicing, it's a scary but exciting feeling!!

Love practicing ❤️

Oh Ladies ... you’re all making me smile 😊. Seems we are all in similar boats. My DH said he’d agree in principle but isn’t ready yet and that we should wait. He’s one of three himself. He doesn’t seem to understand the biological clock which “waits for no one” and my body doesn’t like being pregnant (pre eclampsia and severe edema during both). Some may find me dishonest (& I don’t disagree with that judgment entirely), but I’ve made the decision to begin the journey for baby #3. I’m not preventing is my method. And just for clarity the only reason my DH has doubts is because both of our DD were non sleepers (my one year old (today’s her 1st bday!!) is still a terrible sleeper). I keep reminding him that these moments will pass soon enough. I’m more pragmatic and I’m the sleep deprived one. 🤨
Anyway, I’m wishing all of you lots of baby dust and positive thoughts!!
PS first fertility acupuncture appointment on Saturday - need to rebalance my hormones.

What does fertility acupuncture do?