Anyone want to join my pity party?

[LuItaliana]

I'm TTC #1 on cycle 19 now I think AF started today & I've had 3 baby bombs this week, 1 of whom conceived on her honeymoon, when she told me that I almost screamed (I'm obviously happy for her too). Anyone else want to vent/moan/scream with me?

I will join your pity party. I am fat and not conceiving and I feel like my body is failing me. Like I'm a failure.

Oh just I'm so sorry, I know how you feel people keep announcing their pregnancy and I just think how can everyone else manage it and not me?! You're not a failure, there's a lot of us in the same boat

Can I join.

Ttc #2, cycle 6. Had 6 negative tests, and my sign of period which is 3 days late. Tummy pains. Had to argue with hospital for scan appointment as they were being difficult.

Just want to start bleeding now if it's a no. This waiting for the period is hell.

Hugs for you both.

Ttc 2 years. Unexplained, really even though I have polycystic ovaries and a fibroid, neither of which should be a problem (not pcos).

I've had two chemical pregnancies. Right after the first, my sil who is the same age as me and already has two tweens became unexpectedly pregnant on the pill. They now affectionately call the baby out little accident.

Same time as my second chemical my best friend who started ttc 6 months after me fell pregnant. Mine would have been due a week after hers was born.

I know three people now trying for or pregnant with their second since we all started trying for our first...

Welcome all! clary I know all the waiting is so hard, especially if AF is late, I hope you get an answer either way soon!

physicskate sorry about your chemicals, I had an MMC in Dec the disappointment when you've tried so long is rough & the accidental pregnancy's are the worst, I've spent almost 2 years charting, using OPK's doing accupuncture, taking vitamins, having scans & blood tests & some people are just like 'oops pregnant' it's infuriating!

The 'oops pregnant' people are so infuriating. I don't understand how it is possible to fall pregnant by mistake when I'm charting and tracking and spending hours with my legs in the air and NOTHING. It's so painful!

Sorry to hear about your MMC Kate :(

I apparently have nothing wrong with me. Neither does OH. We are “unexplained” and have been ttc for 18 months (almost 19 as period is due any day now) and nobody knows why I can’t get pregnant.

I have blocked so many people on social media because I can’t cope with all the pregnancy announcements. The one that made me lose it the most was my horrible cousin who is just a nasty piece of work and is in an on/off relationship with some total douchebag announced her “accidental” pregnancy and now continues to complain about stretch marks and looking fat.

That's so annoying bubblegum what I wouldn't give to be a big fat stretch marked pregnant woman! I completely came off facebook coz I literally could not handle one more pregnancy announcement, it's harder to avoid when it's people at work or actual friends though.

Would like to "vent" - been TTC for 6 months (more actively since my December/January cycle (so on cycle 4 I think now) and it's not so much people announcing their pregnancies (although it is starting to feel a bit unfair!).
But more to do with the fact that DH and I got married last July (been together 6 years before that) and now family and friends (who joked about children in the beginning) have been asking more persistently "when are you guys going to have children" or "don't you think it's time you popped one out".
I'm quite a private person in real life so no-one knows that we are, or have been, actively TTC as I know I couldn't deal with all the questions etc that come with that. We don't plan on announcing anything to our families/friends until we are pregnant and passed the MC risk. But all the expectation and questions about when we are going to make people grandparents/aunties/uncles/godparents is starting to wear thin... 😐

Oh I know MrsM i had a work colleague who I barely know ask me, what's wrong with people?
"don't you think it's time you popped one out". if only it was that easy!

Sorry to hear the kate.

Those people are the worse. Why is it people think they should be able to say 'why aren't you pregnant yet' or my personal favorite ' you don't have all the time in the world'

My bitch of a cousin has just announced she's pregnant too. Wasn't even trying :(

I had to delete la few friends for there April fools pregnancy jokes on Facebook. May come off all together.

@LuItaliana exactly that!
I feel like I just want to tell them all to mind their business, but I'm too nice lol

Urgh! 3 baby bombs in a week. I'm sorry. I'll join in...just got AF three days ago and every month is like a knife to the heart. Sick of people saying "just be positive, it will happen." No, thank you, I feel like being a miserable whingeing cow!

I specifically just came onto MN to see I'm not on my own. I'm almost used to the insensitive comments (not pregnant yet?) And seeing people on social media drinking til they can't stand one week, next they're putting up scan photos.
However tonight someone close to me has just told me she's pregnant with #3 on cycle 2. I'm so happy for her and her expanding family and I don't think I'm jealous but I'm not sure because it definetely hurts! Night in with a bottle of wine and trash TV (as if that will help our chances of conceiving )
In some warped way it's nice to see I'm not on my own!

Can I join? I've had people who have not even celebrated their first wedding anniversary and are welcoming the birth of their babies! How do people get honeymoon babies?? DH and I have celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary and not even a whiff of a BFP during this time 😩 First appointment at infertility clinic in June, in the meantime GP says to relax 🙄

@Juniper; hah, “relax” every time I hear someone telling me that I want to slap them and pull their hair!!

I’ve been TTC since July, longish cycles of 38-42 days, today I’m on day 58 but bfn

DH snoring away next to me, while I’m crying into my pillow.

rokko I atually said to DH once 'the next person to tell me to relax is going to get a punch in the face' not sure that's a good idea with your GP though 24Juniper
owl me too, this is why I love mumsnet, to see I'm not on my own, also I really think that although friends can be sympathetic you really don't understand what it's like unless you are going through it yourself, it takes over your whole life!
Sorry you're upset fluffy
Mrshopefully we'll get our BFP's soon so we can tell those nosy people 'actually I'm already pregnant!'

Hi all

Hoping I can join in too on this rant. @MrsM2017 I’m just like you and on my 4th proper cycle TTC. AF is due on Tuesday and I would rather just know now if my period is coming. I too felt like you with telling people my husband and I were TTC but I did tell a close friend or two and it really helped having someone who understands. In the meantime, you know all the people here can be there to lend a supportive ear.

I do wish you all luck and hopefully we can be there for each other on what feels like this long and emotional journey. Hopefully it’ll be us soon receding our BFP’s.

Good luck

I want to join in. Only 8 months trying but also only 3 periods in that time. Plus I still have to wait til its been a year before I can ask for help and I'm certain they'll just tell me I'm too fat. Fed up

I want to join! Currently ttc number 2. I think this is now cycle... 20 or so.

I had a mmc in November, my due date for that baby is next month... a week before a close family member is due. I feel like if I'm not pregnant by the due date I'll scream! Not sure how I'll cope seeing family members new baby. I want to be happy for her but seeing her just makes me so (selfishly) sad and angry.

I keep hearing "when you stop really trying it'll just happen". It makes me angry, if shagging round the clock isn't getting me pregnant how the hell is not trying going to work?!

Naked exactly how I feel! I work different shifts and have had an irregular cycle since coming off contraception so I really need to make the most of my fertile window. Not worrying is easier said than done and I could easily miss my fertile window every time with being at work for between 12 and 36 hours at a time and just wanting to go straight to sleep when I come home some nights. It's hard to explain the feeling of being happy for someone else's successful pregnancy and being so cut to the bone about it too. I had a very early miscarriage in October and only been trying 9 months so wasn't expecting it to happen straight away but still disappoinment builds every month. I know I need to work on my weight too but it's so hard to get motivated when you're feeling down about your weight and the consequences of it!

@physicskate @Bubblegum89 sorry to see us here again....

Love the idea of thus thread though. Can I join?

Ttc 16 months just starting tests have had a baby bomb today by a friend ttc 3 months and is currently 16 weeks yaay!

Also found out this week we won't qualify for ivf due to dh having children from previous. This sucks majorly as if I didn't hate his previous wife enough!? Argh! Dh has been great though today.

Happy there's a pity party. Currently choosing gin over emotions lol

@owlpatrol
That sounds so unfair about your IVF. Your DH having children from a previous marriage isn’t the same as having one together. You sink that gin and I’ll have a glass of wine on your behalf.

Rant away!

Yeah it's hard because I have accepted being a step mum but the other day I randomly cried because i thought what if I never push my own baby!?

Anyway wish we were all having a girlie evening tonight have nothing planned and could do with some girl time!

Last month I had a few weird symptoms and really thought it might be. That was clearly a load of crap so this month I'm feeling like it just won't happen. Am beginning to regret telling a few friends and my sisters we had started trying in my excitement, plus DP has been struggling to deliver (literally) when he knows it's the best day to do it. We had sex four times one day. I'm bloody shattered! Oh and I hate my job but the maternity pay's great and I feel like I should hold on but who knows if and when I'll get pregnant.