TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

[Daffodil77]

Here you go

@bobo I think I'm 7+1 so hoping to relax after next weekend I lost it at 8 weeks. No you don't get anything until you've had 3 mc but I am going to book a private scan for next week.

2018isanewyear sorry you're on this thread. I didn't get af so took a test n bfp 6 weeks after a mmc in Feb

@Kingy2910 good luck for the scan. Fingers crossed all is well.
@2018isanewyear sorry for your MC. I don't know as I didn't have a natural MC but I got af 33 days after ERPC. I think it can take up to 6 weeks?

@Boboelephant sadly nothing, if anything I've gone backwards-no blood/discharge/cramps at all now. Today was meant to be 12 week scan so has been really really tough. I'm trying everything I can to try and encourage my body to let go. Just had a hot bath with clary sage oil, drinking buckets of raspberry leaf tea, walking lots, I've also emailed a reflexologist to see if that might help (apparently points between the ankle and feet link to the uterus? I've no idea-I'm normally not interested in alt therapy but I'm desperate now)

I'm on a clock now-I have until the 18th -I'm booked in for med management which I really really don't want. I'm petrified-I have made a decision though, if I have to have the pills there's no way I'm staying the three hours they want me to. My anxiety will go through the roof, and I do not want to lose bean in hospital-I want it to happen at home, where bean belongs. I've researched and lots of trusts allow you to go home once bloods and consent is done-some even allow you to take the pills/insert the pills yourself at home which would be so much easier for me. So I'm going to take a bit of control back and go home as soon as I've had the pills. But I really don't want it to come to that.

So please, any suggestions to get things moving throw them my way.

I desperately want to join you in TTC -we are off on holiday on 31st may and I want to be clear so I can BD like a demon whilst we're away. I'd love to think we might get caught that quickly, and create our rainbow

Really hope your TWW has a BFP at the end of it-you ladies have all been so kind. Really helps to have the support xx

@Laney79 I’m so sorry for how this is dragging out for you. I totally understand wanting to be at home, I wanted that too, however by the end of it I basically went to the hospital and begged them to give me the meds as I couldn’t even move from bed unless I took a couple dehydrocodeine 🤦‍♀️ It was awful. Would have been easier if it was over quickly, it felt so cruel that it had been dragged out for so long, so I completely understand. I hope it happens as soon as possible for you so you can start to move on, my thoughts are with you. Hopefully you will be back to TTC again soon! Hugs to you

Forgot to say @Kingy2910 I’m so glad everything is going well! That’s great. I totally understand the worry, I hope your scan helps to put your mind at ease a bit. Happy for you

@2018isanewyear
We miscarried within 2 weeks of each other.
Mine was 19th, i had a bfn a week after you. Iv ovulated, hopefully within the last few days/today.
Thats as far as i have got in my cycle, so not a whole lot of help. Theoretically id expect a period in 2 weeks ish.
But like others said they say up to 6 weeks.
There isnt any chance the one bd was the lucky one?

@Laney79 sorry iv no advice on getting things moving.
Im really sorry you are having a tough time, i really hope it ends for you soon and your holiday is full of marathon baby making!

@Laney79 have you looked into acupuncture or Arvigo therapy?
They could help...
Sorry it's dragging, I know how horrible it is- you just want it over and done with so you can move on and heal....

@Kingy2910
Ah I know how nerve wrecking it can be just waiting to reach that milestone....
Can you not go to the EPU? After my first miscarriage they told me I can come in for a reassurance scan as soon as I reached 7 weeks. Not sure if every hospital does that? But it's worth a try if you don't want to wait until next week...

@2018isanewyear Usually the doctors say period should return between 4-6 weeks after.
With my second MMC I ovulated about 5 weeks after the ERPC and for pregnant immediately- so it can happen- unfortunately for me it didn't work out again...
With my first and this last one my period arrived exactly 30 days after the bleeding started- so it can really vary
If after 6 weeks no sign of AF, take a test and see! Maybe you got lucky! Fingers crossed

@Laney79 I'm so sorry this is dragging on for you. I don't have any tips either I'm sorry as I never had any bleeding. I have heard too though that your feet are connected to your uterus so reflexology might help. I really hope things start again before the 18th. If not I think it's good to take as much control as you can so sounds like you've thought about that. Fingers crossed for your holiday. And Thankyou, I so hope that this is the month too. It has been so long coming, feel like I need some good luck too!

@Chattein congratulations, that is lovely news. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

@2018isanewyear It can really vary from person to person. After my previous mc, I had a period about 5 weeks after the mc day. It is really hard waiting for your body to go back to normal - you will get there.

@laney79 I'm ok(-ish!). Thanks for asking. The bleeding has been much heavier the past three days but I've been unable to see the clots because of all the blood (sorry if that is TMI folks...) and so I don't know whether I have passed everything properly. I've had a lot more pain and have been taking the codeine I got from the EPAU. I do hope it is nearly over- I feel like it might be. I've had to go away for work which is really not ideal to say the least. I don't feel ready for the real world yet. How about you? Any progress??

Hoping for some good news for those of you in the tww!

Argh, I missed the last page of posts by accident and so missed your latest post before replying @laney79. I'm SO sorry it is taking so bloody long for you. I don't have any great tips. I went for a short and gentle run around the park to try and bring mine on. Who knows if that did anything? I tried hot baths, yoga... I wonder if in the end if mine just kicked in the night before I was due to go for medical management because on some level my body knew - or could just be coincidence...
But you do have another week - and a lot can happen in a week.

@BabynameEdie how are you? Any sign of ovulation yet?
@Beck1988 how are you? Any more symptoms??

Hey @Boboelephant thanks for checking in. Am struggling to keep up to date with all the messages! Was camping in a field near Bath over the weekend for a friend's hen party 😂 so that kept me distracted!
Not sure where I am..temps are all over the place and still haven't had a + opk but didn't test Saturday or Sunday as was in a field! Keeping up the bd'ing just in case it's later than I expected.
How are you doing? I skim read that you poss ovulated later than expected?
Also hope holiday was awesome! X

@BabynameEdie sounds brilliant! Although hopefully it wasn't too wet! Hope you ovulated over weekend and temps confirm soon. Yes I think I ovulated Sat- 5 days later than I was expecting! Temps haven't confirmed yet but pos opk on Friday. Holiday was brilliant thanks! Although coming back to rain and fog was tough. x

@Boboelephant ooh I hope we are in similar stage then, it's nice having a tww buddy or two. Am not sure I will get a confirmation from temps/app this month but I'll just keep DH on demand until AF shows! 🤣

Haha @BabynameEdie I'm sure there will be no complaints! Yep love tww buddies!! Fingers crossed for us all.

@Daffodil77 I guess there may be but won't know for some time yet as it was only 1 week ago and I havnt checked if I was ovulating ect.

Thanks everyone for the responses : ) just a waiting game I guess xx

Another month been and gone - 10 days post ovulation and BFN.

Finding this super tough now.

This coming cycle will be our last chance of 2018 baby and I feel really saddened (and stressed) by this.

Just a moan really to people who 'get it' - I am blessed with two beautiful children yet so desperate for our family to be complete. The longer it goes on the more I worry maybe it won't happen.

Anyway big girl shoes and smile on - Got a 1/2 day off work so having a few family hours.

Good luck to all those still waiting for BFP this month.

Hi Laney79 I had a "natural" mc at 11 weeks but I would say, it was incredibly painful, I had contractions, I had to push, it took at least 6 hours. It was new years eve, so A&E was a mess. About 5 hours in I got some oral morphine. I don't think that is what usually happens so don't worry but you must make sure you get adequate pain relief early on. I think you may get stronger stuff if you stay in the hospital. I will have have my fingers crossed for you. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

So I woke up with a high temp.. and this happened!!!
I'm gobsmacked! And worried it took so long to show up!!!

Another BFN here at 11DPO so Defo out. Plus the AF cramps are coming.....
:(

@Cakelaur 💪🏼😁

Were you expecting that? Thought it was weird AF hadn't shown yet. Amazing xx

Cake!!!!! OMG!!! How many DPO are you??? Congratulations!!! The marathon paid off!!!!
Oh no does this mean we're all gonna have to follow in your marathon footsteps!!!?

Cakelaur !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had a sneaking suspicion that might happen! How exciting! Have you had any symptoms?

How many days post ovulation are you?

Congratulations @Cakelaur that truly is amazing news hoping it's a sticky one x x

@Cakelaur congratulations!!