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TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

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Daffodil77 · 21/03/2018 07:06

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Daffodils86 · 04/04/2018 07:59

Also dont you just hate that stark whitness, its like a massive 🖕🏻

Cakelaur · 04/04/2018 08:01

@Daffodils86 yeah it really is an "up yours" kind of stark white!! Haha not too sad yet. We'll see what tomorrow brings. I got a bfn last time at 10dpo but I thought I was out that cycle so hadn't tested before

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 04/04/2018 08:14

@cakelaur it's still early so you're not out yet !!y husband last night fell asleep on me new it was a mistake to give him a nice Chinese for tea !, I dont think I'm ovulating just yet and we had a good talk about TTC again and he said he's happy to do it on command so between now and next week he's going to be tired

Daffodils86 · 04/04/2018 08:15

@BabynameEdie
Me too i feel I bounced back fairy well after a few days. I feel relatively ok emotionally and mentally, and sometimes it seems longer than 2weeks ago. However i have moments i feel deflated and frustrated. I would have had my first midwife appointment today and on my way 9weeks. So thoughts like that tend to dissolve the positive and generally piss me off and make me disappointed.
It does help being able to say how you are feeling on here, and listen to others all in the same boat!
Getting back to TTC definitely helps take your mind of things!

@PumpkinPatch000 how are you feeling this morning?? X

dulwichdays · 04/04/2018 08:19

@cakelaur sorry to hear about the bfn - but you’re not out until AF shows.

I seem to be very out of sync with everyone, just waiting for FW which begins on Fri/Saturday. Trying to stay relaxed and not think about the fact I would have been 23 weeks, this week. It’s so difficult not to let it be the focus of your mind 24/7!

Fingers crossed for positive OPK/BFP’s for anyone testing soon x

Boboelephant · 04/04/2018 08:34

@Cakelaur sorry for the bfn but definitely early days. I think as well it's rare to get a bfp so early on an IC. I'm looking forward to seeing your bfp in a few days!
@Lovewinemorethanhusband glad DH is on board!! No more Chinese! 🤣
@Daffodils86 and @dulwichdays I know how you feel. I've been thinking alot lately that I should either have a 9 month old or be 27 weeks pregnant. Tough not having either. But on we go and keep hopeful!
So @Cakelaur I downloaded ff app and it says the same as you! So according to temps I might be 5dpo! Not sure what to believe as the opks and cm doesn't really back that up. Hmmmm guess time will tell. Although it's going to make my blood test difficult as i don't know when to go!

Martydog · 04/04/2018 08:39

I'm dpo 4/5 today and this morning i feel really nauseous (if I'm not eating biscuits) and bloated. Is it too early to be getting symptoms? 🤞

DaisyMay25 · 04/04/2018 08:41

Bfn here too but no sign of AF but have all the symptoms like last time so I'm off to the doctors. My worry is that I could be and it's ectopic again.
Last time I didn't get a positive until I was a week late and even then it was faint so hopefully they'll do a blood test.
Anyone else who had an ectopic, when did you get your positive?

Cakelaur · 04/04/2018 08:46

Thanks ladies. Hopefully bfn will turn to bfp,

@Boboelephant my first cycle after mc I didn't get a +opk. My second cycle I got peak the day after I O and this cycle it seems back in sync. So maybe the mc just threw you a bit! Welcome to the TWW!!!

Boboelephant · 04/04/2018 08:57

@Martydog I have no idea as I convince myself of everything and am always wrong. But fx for you!!
@DaisyMay25 hope they do a blood test for you. My EP I got a clear positive about when af was due. I hadn't tested earlier and wasn't really sure of cycles as I'd just stopped breast feeding. To be honest though I had no idea anything was wrong with that pregnancy until it ruptured. Hope you're not having an EP!
@Cakelaur thanks. I'm still hesitant as this is my 4th cycle post MC and last month seemed normal but maybe this will mean I won't obsess as much!! Fx hey!?

Beck1988 · 04/04/2018 09:52

I would of been having my 3month scan today😩. The hospital sent me the appt after I had been in their epu for the miscarriage!

Cakelaur · 04/04/2018 09:57

@Beck1988 so sorry babe. It's really shit when salts rubbed in the wound!!!

DaisyMay25 · 04/04/2018 10:22

@Boboelephant they said they won't do tests until I'm a week late! They also said test again in a week, or everyday if I want to, we all know which it'll be...

Boboelephant · 04/04/2018 10:35

@DaisyMay25 that's frustrating. Hope you get some answers soon! If it's any consolation, in my experience once you hit 5 weeks and if there is any question that it could be ectopic they whisk you in for a scan quick smart. Mine was organised the same day as going to the GP!
@Beck1988 that sucks. I'm sorry!!

hayleyfx · 04/04/2018 11:55

@PumpkinPatch that sounds normal to me, my first af after the mc was heavier and quite like how you described. However if you’re worried then definitely phone the EPU, that’s what they’re there for, put your mind at ease! Smile
@Cakelaur sorry, it’s always rubbish getting a bfn even when it’s early but you’ve still got plenty time to get a BFP! Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼
@Beck1988 I know how you feel, it’s awful Sad every month that passes I’m always thinking “oh I would have been 6 months now” it’s a really hard thing to think about. Hugs to you Flowers

Sloeberrygin · 04/04/2018 12:59

@Cakelaur it's still early, you're not out yet.
@Daffodils86 @dulwichdays @Boboelephant @hayleyfx it's so rubbish, I've tried to make myself stop counting how many weeks/months I should be, but it's hard not to. I keep just thinking about e.g. how big my bump would be now. It's such a strange empty feeling. But yep, on we go.

Patienceofatoddler · 04/04/2018 13:34

Why is the TWW so long?

Only 5 days post ovulation and I'm driving myself crazy.

We had so much sex this last fortnight I'm thinking crikey if this doesn't work nothing will BlushSmile

It's such a emotional roller coaster of a ride.

Anyone else find as they'd get further into their TTC journey they become worse with waiting Blush

ek78 · 04/04/2018 16:40

@PumpkinPatch000 Just to add to the other comments on here. What you describe was exactly my experience of af after my first mc. It gave me such a fright. I was out and about and had to run to a cafe toilets and there was such a lot of blood and clots that it was almost like a second mc. It never happened like that again for me. In fact, my periods post-mc became shorter - the one plus!
@laney79 am I right in thinking you were back a the EPAU today. How did it go?
Fingers crossed for you all waiting to test/testing this week!

Laney79 · 04/04/2018 19:01

Hi @ek78 yep-had my appointment this morning. I was a mess but I somehow managed it. Scan showed what I expected-bean still measuring just 3mm safely tucked in his sac Sad so it's now confirmed as a non viable pregnancy, officially a MMC.

The staff were amazing with me, and did everything they could to help me with my phobia. Have decided that as I am having some bleeding, all be it very light, to give my body more time to try and let go on its own. If not I'll try the pills two weeks today.

I am desperate for it all to be over and done by the time we go on holiday on May 31st. I'd really like that to be the holiday where beans little bro or sis is conceived. Have to hold on to hope.

Thankyou so much for asking. How are you doing? Any more bleeding? Xxx

Beck1988 · 04/04/2018 19:30

@laney79 sorry for your news 😢 Hopefully it will be all over with soon & u will have holiday to look forward to then! 🤞

Laney79 · 04/04/2018 19:50

@Beck1988 I hope so too. I need to look forward. I hope to be posting on here soon pestering for your advice about opks and ttc.

I need to send my little bean, my test pilot on his way so I can create my rainbow, knowing that bean was our trailblazer X

Daffodils86 · 04/04/2018 21:04

@Laney79 sorry you are going through all of that. I dont know how you made it through the wait. I hope it goes quickly and smoothly from here, and you can hopefully start ttc on your holiday.
Xx

Llondbol · 04/04/2018 23:27

@hayleyfx @Cakelaur @Boboelephant AF showed up 😭

Cakelaur · 05/04/2018 07:41

Oh @Llondbol I'm so sorry!!
I think I'm heading that way too! My temps are sky high, but I think that's the progesterone cream masking everything. I'm 10dpo and bfn on IC. 😭

TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies
ek78 · 05/04/2018 08:06

@laney79 I’m glad that they were kind at the hospital, such a hard appointment. I’m back at EPAU tomorrow after no real ‘progress’ just light bleeding. This morning I’m feeling thoroughly fed up and all set to get medical management tomorrow - the day when I should’ve been 12 weeks. ☹️
@cakelaur sorry to hear about bfn. New cycle soon...