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Physical pain after MC

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Kate8989 · 20/02/2018 22:56

I had a MC 7 weeks ago and I’ve been getting pains on left and right side near ovaries on and off since MC.
Just coming to end of period which was fine, not very heavy had the occasional cramp.
Has anyone else had random unexplained pains since MC?

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Kate8989 · 20/02/2018 23:17

Anyone? Could do with someone to talk to x

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Daffodil77 · 21/02/2018 07:12

It might be signs of any infection or something left inside, possibly. I think the best thing to do is to see your GP if it's worrying you.

There's a very supportive thread for those of us TTC after a MC if you need people to talk to who've been there.

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Kate8989 · 21/02/2018 08:14

I’ve got an appt at 9am, seeing the same dr I saw a couple of weeks ago who thought it was connected to my bowels. But that was when the pain was one sided. Now it’s shifted over I’m not so sure! Also my chin I can’t touch it for the amount of painful cysts on it- I’m so so down x

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Kate8989 · 21/02/2018 09:22

SO just got back from the doctors. I’m being sent for an internal exam which I suppose is some result.
Don’t feel any better though, as just made to feel like a silly hypochondriac. It’s scaring me how low I’m feeling mentally...

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lemondrizzlecake448 · 21/02/2018 09:58

Hi Kate, I'm sorry about your mc.

It's good that you're having a scan so they can find out what's going on. Have you got long to wait? Please don't feel like a hypochondriac, it's so much better to get checked out rather than be left in pain and wondering what it could be.

Did you talk to the doctor about how you're feeling mentally? Xx

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Kate8989 · 21/02/2018 10:12

Well I have a history of mental health problems and I feel it’s working against me. As people think I’m being irrational about the pain or over dramatising it because of my anxiety/depression.
I have a counselling “initial assessment” next week, so will see how that goes.
I’ve got these awful cysts on my chin and I mentioned that to the doctor (as I know chin acne is hormonal) he basically laughed and said it’s nothing to do with that I’ve just got acne!!!
I cannot tell you how much I feel like running somewhere and screaming at the top of my lungs. Sorry for ranting on, I feel so self absorbed which is not me but I’m
so bloody fed up.

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lemondrizzlecake448 · 21/02/2018 10:29

That's awful that the doctor responded like that. I had an mc nearly 3 weeks ago and have had 3 giant, painful cysts on my cheek - and I'm certain it's to do with the mc and hormones being all over the place. What an idiot.

Rant away, you've got to let it out. I hope your counselling session goes well next week xx

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Kate8989 · 21/02/2018 10:34

I’m so sorry to hear you have been through a MC. It’s just the most harrowing experience. How are you feeling emotionally/physically?
Have you felt comfortable speaking to people about it? I was astonished at the amount of people who’d said they’d been through the same thing. I know it’s no consolation that it’s common, but it’s of some comfort others have been through the same xx

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lemondrizzlecake448 · 21/02/2018 11:48

I'm feeling better than I was, thank you. Physically I felt OK quite quickly, but emotionally I'm still up and down. We started ttc again straight away, which I think has helped me.

I know what you mean about having comfort knowing other people have experienced it, not that you want others to have that pain, but it's such an isolating feeling that it helps to hear how others have felt. xx

MagicalCreatures · 21/02/2018 23:09

Hi OP
I too have been having the exact same pains and it’s been 4 weeks since my miscarriage. I thought maybe my body was trying to ovulate but not quite getting there, since hormones were all be out of whack.
But I was still getting faint positive pregnancy test and so went back and they think they found some left over pregnancy tissue and I had it scraped out today and sent for testing. I have no idea if that was causing the pains but I’m pleased to hear your checked in for a scan just incase.
Also, whilst I was pregnant, my skin was gorgeous. As soon as my hormones started dropping, spots galore!!!! It’s got to be hormonal.
Also, I have bipolar 2 disorder. And have come of my medication to ttc.
When I first started experiencing pains at just over 4 weeks, I went to the doctor who took one look at my notes and told me I was being too anxious. She obviously thought I was having an episode since recently coming of my medication. 3 days later I ended up at the out of hours with a really serious bladder infection.

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Kate8989 · 22/02/2018 18:39

@ MagicalCreatures- thank you for responding to my thread and I’m so sorry you’re going through all this.
It really shook me up yesterday as I was feeling fragile and didn’t need that kind of experience with my DR. At least he has put me forward for a scan.
May I ask how long you’ve been trying for? Are you going to have a break now or continue TTC?
Mental illness is one of the most debilitating, lonely illnesses in the world. So hard for people to understand if they’ve not been through it themselves xx

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MagicalCreatures · 22/02/2018 18:49

I know. Fragile is a good word to explain it. That exactly how I’ve felt through this whole process and yet things still keep pushing me back everytime I think I’m pulling through it. It’s like it’s determined to break me. It’s hard enough for someone more mentally stable let alone someone who isn’t.

I was one of the lucky ones, or so I thought, I conceived first month trying.
But I found out I was pregnant on the 14th December and only just yesterday did they clear out the rest of the pregnancy tissue. Well I hope so anyway. It’s been a lengthy process.

At first I wasn’t ready to try again but it’s taken so long for the whole thing to come to an end that I don’t want to wait any longer and I think we will be straight back on it once I’m not feeling so sore.

Have you taken pregnancy tests since your miscarriage and have they been negative?

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Kate8989 · 22/02/2018 18:58

Bless your heart, that’s exactly how I am feeling at the moment. I said to my husband, “I just want life to give me a f break!!!!

Exactly, a MC is hard enough as it is, let alone for someone with a mental illness. I’m hoping time will ease things, but we shall see.

We were lucky as well and got pregnant quick, I took a pregnancy test a good few weeks ago and it was negative. My period arrived on Saturday, that’s now coming to an end. I haven’t had sex since this all happened so I’m hoping over the next couple of weeks I get my confidence back.

Happy New Year to us hey!!! 😢

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kaytees · 22/02/2018 19:14

Hi @Kate8989, so sorry to hear you're finding it all so hard - even more so that it doesn't sound like the doc has been very supportive. I hope the scan at least gets you some answers. It's really frustrating when you have to put yourself forward and talk about MH vulnerability and you get met with a lack of understanding.

I had a CP in December and noticed this cycle of ttc I've had similar pains to what you've described (on CD5 so not period pain as I first thought). Was at doc myself today about it and am starting on the hormonal blood tests to find out what's going on x

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Kate8989 · 22/02/2018 19:44

@kaytees- thank you for your message and I’m sorry to hear you’ve been this through.
It’s great that your Dr has taken you seriously and giving you some tests.
I’ll see how it goes after my internal exam, it’s just so weird and mind boggling I never got these pains before the MC 🤔 xx

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kaytees · 22/02/2018 19:59

It sounds really confusing for you Kate - I hope they get the internal exam sorted quickly!

I think I lucked out with doctor - she's new to surgery and was willing to listen to my history and check my natural cycles app etc. Definitely makes the difference if you don't feel you're being thought a hypochondriac, as you say xx

Primrose16 · 22/02/2018 20:44

I had quite a lot of pains after my mmc. In Aug 15. I went for a internal after a couple of months. Think the pain was caused by cysts on my ovaries. They disappeared and apparently common. Not saying that it’s this but try not to worry, and get tested

Anxiousfeelings · 22/02/2018 21:41

Sorry for your loss. I have had similar pains since my MC 3 weeks ago. It was my second loss in a row. It’s been a difficult 7 months! I went to the doctor this week who tested for infection, I’ll find out results tomorrow. It takes its toll on the body and mind. I hope you get the support you deserve.

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Kate8989 · 22/02/2018 21:48

@Anxiousfeelings, I am so sorry to hear what you’ve been through. It is such a strain physically and emotionally, I hope you get the answers tomorrow 💜
@Primrose16, I did wonder if that’s what it could be. I know they’re very common and tbh, I wouldn’t mind if that’s what was causing the pain, as at least I’d know. The unknown is the freaking me out the most. You don’t have to reply to this, but did you continue ttc after your MC? xx

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Kate8989 · 24/02/2018 20:23

@Anxiousfeelings did you get your results? I’m feeling so sore and just yucky down there today. Roll on my internal!!!! X

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Kate8989 · 25/02/2018 18:24

@kaytees have you had your blood test yet? I can’t wait for my appt to come through I’m so fed up with these pains x

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kaytees · 25/02/2018 18:59

@Kate8989 the waiting is very frustrating, isn't it! I had one set of tests last week and have another in a couple of weeks to ascertain if my cycle is being anything close to normal. I ended up chatting to a friend who went through the same thing and she's advising me to push for an internal scan after the next bloods so hopefully that can happen. Hope you've had some rest over the weekend, though it's hard not to be stressed or anxious when you're in pain x

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Kate8989 · 25/02/2018 19:08

Absolutely! I mean I appreciate the world doesn’t revolve around me lol. But there just seems to be a long wait for everything and whilst I’m waiting, I’m googling and self diagnosing the most scary things!
Did the doctor say what could be causing your pain? Or just to wait for the tests?
I cannot believe how much my life has changed in 7 weeks 😢. It makes me so
emotional x

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kaytees · 25/02/2018 19:25

@Kate8989 eek, Dr Google is so hard to resist but I always find it makes me feel worse! I really hope you get some tests / scans soon, and a doctor who is a bit more compassionate - sounds like you're overdue for one who listens.

Doc is wondering if theres cysts (as primrose mentioned) or any leftover stuff from CP. whatever it is will be easier to deal with once I know, just trying to be kind to myself in the meantime!

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Kate8989 · 25/02/2018 19:30

@kaytees, can I ask how are you so rational? Ha ha I wish I could be like you! My mind just goes off on a tangent. Every niggle I get I worry xx

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