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Conception

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Anyone ever planned to ttc so baby is born on a particular month?

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 09:11

If so did it work? Whilst we are just waiting to see what happens if we actually do conceive dc 3, i am secretly hoping for a baby born in the summer. Just wondered if anybody has ever been successful in getting a birth in the month of their choice. First two dc's were pretty much a surprise. (Appreciate that this is completely irrelevant for those who are really ttc, so don't take offence )

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fortyplus · 01/05/2007 11:28

That's quite clearly not what she meant.

MuminBrum · 01/05/2007 11:37

Isn't it? What do you think she did mean then?

mumto3girls · 01/05/2007 11:38

Look, on an emotive subject such as the sad loss of a baby things can get very heated. Brownsuga did not mean to upset you I'm sure.

fortyplus · 01/05/2007 11:41

Precisely.

Tatties · 01/05/2007 11:54

We weren't seriously ttc with ds - we really wanted a baby but were just happy to leave it to chance whether I got pregnant or not. I did have an idea in my head that I would like a late March / early April baby though - and that's what I got! I would say there's no harm in trying, just don't get too fixated on it iyswim.

AitchTwoOh · 01/05/2007 12:03

don't think she did mean to upset you, muminbrum, but am still pmsl at the thought that we direct our own lives... oh yeah, some of the shit i've had to deal with, i deffo directed that onto myself...

anniemac · 01/05/2007 12:08

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Whoooosh · 01/05/2007 13:07

Lilyloo-I would do exactly the same thing again-would (if I could swing it) prefer an April,May or June baby.

lulumama · 01/05/2007 13:12

one of my friends really tried to, but took a lot longer than expected, wanted to have a summer baby too...but had a winter baby.....

these things can be so unpredictable, great if it happens, but bear in mind, it probably won;t!!

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 13:12

Maybe she was meaning more along the lines that she doesn't believe in fate i guess. Def agree not to get obsessive about it after all any baby is a blessing regardless of month it was born !

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BrownSuga · 01/05/2007 13:21

just seen posts and see how that can be taken the wrong way BIG APOLOGIES LADIES, did not mean to be insensitive or such like.

what i mean is that if i make a choice in my life, ie to move to a certain country or have a certain career, it is me directing my life/making decisions, i did not move there/get that job because it is in my fate. Other things happen with no explanation, they just do, otherwise, what would be the point of living, if everything was pre-ordained, it would be very shite IMO.

APOLOGIES AGAIN

MuminBrum · 01/05/2007 14:31

Ladies, I think we all understand each other. I would love to talk more about how much of our lives we can actually control and may well come back to do so later.
Enjoy your afternoons!

SJLTM · 01/05/2007 14:33

Having had a February,October,November and a December baby, I longed for a Summer one. Washing on the line, no coats etc, and summer parties in the garden. This worked, but the first 2 weeks of her life the weather was awful, and her first birthday was a cold windy day !!! I have now realized that my last baby will also start school just after her fourth birthday ! perhaps I should have left it to chance LOL.

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MrsMar · 01/05/2007 17:45

I did, failed miserably. Wanted to have one conceived on honeymoon... before first anniversary..... in time for first anniversary... before christmas... before my next birthday (37 eek!) Missed 'em all. I'm a strong believer that mother nature lets you get pg when she wants not when you want, hence I'm having a baby in September after what will probably be the hottest July and August on record!! Argh! Still after trying for so long, gotta be grateful for anything I get. Good luck with your summer baby (make it early summer so you can go out and enjoy the sunshine once the baby's born!)

cityangel · 01/05/2007 17:46

Yes every month and so far no joy!

AskABusyPerson · 01/05/2007 21:45

My mum laughed (in a 'you can't be that mathematical about it daughter' way!) at me when I said we were planning to get pg to suit due dates in months we preferred, cos we have no control over whether or not the little egg is actually met by the little swimmers and whether or not the resulting fertilised egg will actually implant and make it all the way to being a baby! Sorry to hear of those for whom this has not happened, most distresing.

We (well, I!) couldn't wait that long and we're already ttc. If we've been lucky this month baby will be due 14th Jan....and yet I remember thinking not trying until due date past April so weather better for birthday parties!

Gangle · 02/05/2007 10:58

I always thought it would be nice to give birth in early spring as you'll be at your biggest during all the long dark winter months when you can cover up, plus you can pig out at Christmas. Think the longer we try though the less we'll care although would prefer not to be pregnant through a long hot summer.

IdrisTheDragon · 02/05/2007 11:03

Didn't plan when DS and DD were going to be born. I think being heavily pregnant through hot summers (they were born in November and September) wouldn't be something I'd necessarily repeat though .

DumbledoresGirl · 02/05/2007 11:05

I have! I had my ds1 on 21st June (longest day) and coincidentally had ds2 on 21st December (shortest day) so I set out to have my next baby in March, hoping to give birth on 21st March. She was actually born on 30th March. I was then keen for my last child to be born in September so that I had 4 children all born on or near the equinox/solstice, but unfortunately, conceiving became a bit harder by then and he wasn't born until February.

nomoremagnolia · 02/05/2007 15:49

At the beginning of last year when DH and I started down the ttc road my sister had just asked me to be her bridesmaid, so we talked about dates and things (would she mind having a tiny baby at the wedding or a fat bridesmaid) and she said not to wait to get pg as that was more important. (I have a lovely sister!)
Fast forward 16 months and the wedding's 3 weeks away and I'm still not even pg, let along huge or covered in baby sick as we worried I might be.
My advice - you can't plan bu99er all

elsieanjoanne · 04/05/2007 11:49

hi im joanne didnt plan a month but i did find out on our 4year anni! best pressie ever! she was early june baby just glad she decided to show when she did the heat was making me ill!
now ttc #2 thinking it worked this cyce so that would be mid jan baby would be 24 weeks ish when go on hols how uncomfi! i did joke with my bf about not ttc next months as then it would be likely to have baby on my b'day he was like alright to be close to my b'day not right! i dont care as long as my baby happy an healthy. good luck

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LilyLoo · 05/05/2007 13:46

Just to remind you all i started op saying i would love a summer baby well today got 'bfp' due date 6/1/08 7 days before dd 2 birthday and am over the moon never mind the weather. Good luck to all you who are trying.

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cece · 05/05/2007 23:47

I wanted Sept babies both times.

No 1 ds was April - no idea about my cycle or how it all worked

No 2 dc was October - got a bit better at it

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