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Anyone ever planned to ttc so baby is born on a particular month?

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 09:11

If so did it work? Whilst we are just waiting to see what happens if we actually do conceive dc 3, i am secretly hoping for a baby born in the summer. Just wondered if anybody has ever been successful in getting a birth in the month of their choice. First two dc's were pretty much a surprise. (Appreciate that this is completely irrelevant for those who are really ttc, so don't take offence )

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MuminBrum · 01/05/2007 09:13

I can't help feeling this is tempting fate ... I knew a woman who planned to have her baby in the summer vacation (she was doing an undergraduate degree) and was so pleased with how super well organised her life was, and then the baby was born prematurely and didn't survive.

mumto3girls · 01/05/2007 09:15

Muminbrum, thats terrible, but unfortunately that could have happened to anyone, regardless of whether they 'timed' their conception or not. I think saying it's tempting fate is a little OTT.

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 09:16

How awful mum

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wheelybug · 01/05/2007 09:17

I liked the idea of a April/may 07 baby - I got pg rather more quickly than expected and was due in March 07 but unforetunately lost the pg. So far, we have not managed it again yet so have wwwwaaayyy missed April/may 07 ! maybe April/May 08.... but whenever would be good .

Conversely though, I know someone who wanted there children at the start of the school year and planned accordingly. Her DSs have september and october birthdays.

So it is possible but setting yourself up for heartache if it doesn't work !

Wotzsaname · 01/05/2007 09:18

I am sure some folk do, but some just enjoy trying all the time, so it doesn't make a difference.

My dd is a late August b'day and in although she is coping very well at school, it does make a huge difference when they are little. She was 2 weeks early and would have been a September baby, so the oldest in her class.

But I wouldn't change it, just a thought.

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 09:19

true wotz never thought about that.

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Whoooosh · 01/05/2007 09:22

I did becasue I was determined (well as much as one can be) to not be pregnant through the Summer.
I wanted my maternity leave to co-incide with warmer weather and lighter mornings so that the early feeds weren't too bad.
DD was born in April-was due May so nearly got what I considered ideal.

MuminBrum · 01/05/2007 09:27

Well, Mumto3, you can think what you like, but I think tempting fate is a pretty dangerous thing to do. We are all accustomed to thinking we can control every aspect of our lives, but actually we really can't control much at all, and fertility issues particularly are more or less completely outwith our active control. Far better to just get on with trying and be happy with what the fates send you.

Wotzsaname · 01/05/2007 09:29

I must admit whoooosh I agree. After having dd1 in hot, hot August, my second pregnancy and dd2s birth in April was more enjoyable.
FWIW neither of them were planned for any reason.

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 09:35

Whoosh would you try this again if you had the opportunity ?

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lulu1414 · 01/05/2007 09:52

I totally agree with muminbrum. One thing this whole TTC thing has taught me is that you can't control any of this. I got pregnant right away and was so pleased at the perfect timing ie spring baby, and it meant I got generous materinity leave because of the nature of my work. Well, I lost that baby at 13 weeks and was devastated. I kept focusing on how the timing was so perfect and it wouldn't be again.

mumto3girls · 01/05/2007 10:43

i have never tried to time it...my only point was for people who are doing so it may have seemed mean to say it's tempting fate..no offence intended.

peachygirl · 01/05/2007 10:50

I though about this I'm a teacher and a sepetember a baby would have been great - summer holidays paid before matleave starts.
It didn't work out like this though. I did avoid months though, as I worked out that the due date would be on another family members birthday (DH's side)and We would never have heard the end of it.
It's bad enough That DD is born in the same month as grandma and she claims she is special as they are both aquarians

fortyplus · 01/05/2007 10:51

Yes - both mine were conceived first month. ds1 is a Christmas baby, so we planned ds2 for 1st July - he arrived on 7th!

Aloha · 01/05/2007 10:58

Sort of....meant to have dd at end March, start of April, but did the adding up wrong! She's a Feb baby. Ds was Sept and that was a nightmare really - no sooner was he born than autumn arrived with a bang. Lots of rain and very dark.

BrownSuga · 01/05/2007 11:01

I planned for a late June baby. Went off the pill about 6mths before TTC, then threw out the condoms at the appropriate time, and voila. Baby due early June, that's good enough for me.

btw there's no such thing as fate, we direct the outcome of our own lives.

fortyplus · 01/05/2007 11:02

I did wrong adding up, too! I knew you're pg for 40 weeks so counted on from the date I thought I would conceive and worked out that even if I got pg 1st time ds1 would be due on 14th Jan - I didn't want a Xmas baby. Then I got pg 1st time and was told the due date was 40 wks from day 1 of my period so he was due on New Year's Eve. OOPS!

prufrock · 01/05/2007 11:04

Oh yes definately. That was when I was young and naive and thought that I could still control everything in my life. As it happened I conceived 2nd month of trying (And it's only now that I realise how incedibly lucky I was) and then had a condition that meant I had to deliver at 37 weeks, so dd arrived exactly when we had planned. Exactly the same thing happened with ds (Birthdays May 8th and April 27th) though I had wanted to have him 2 days earlier so I would have acheived my life plan of having a wonderful husband, greta career and 2 kids by my 30th birthday.

AitchTwoOh · 01/05/2007 11:05

what is it they say? the surest way to give God a laugh is to tell him your plans?

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 11:07

glad few of you have managed to do this. i know it is impossible to expect to know when you will conceive but i would just like to avoid certain months if i can i guess. dd a jan baby and ds an april baby, that was much nicer as weather was much better and i feel that we don't really get xmas out of the way before dd has bday, hence preference for a summer baby. I completely agree i am lucky to have dc's whatever time of the year but it would be nice to have an element of planning this time round.

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fortyplus · 01/05/2007 11:10

Because mine were both conceived 1st bonk I still think it's weird that if I'd bothered finding out when to count from I would have 2 completely different children.

My mum and dad went one step further - in the 60s you got a tax rebate for a year back to the previos 6th April, so my brother and I were planned to fit in with that. Our b-ds are 28th & 31st March. My mum & dad said they were so naive that they just thought you had sex exactly 9 months before you wanted the baby! It worked for them!

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LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 11:13

lol fortyplus you were both tax rebate babies

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anniemac · 01/05/2007 11:17

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fortyplus · 01/05/2007 11:19

LilyLoo - lucky I got them a tax rebate cos I cost a fortune after that

MuminBrum · 01/05/2007 11:20

Gosh, Brownsuga, so my acquaintance directed her baby's death? Must remember to tell her that - now where's her e-mail address - and I'll refer her to you for an explanation, shall I?

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