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Since coming off the pill and NOT getting pregnant, I just keep crying all the time

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:27

It might just be because I am upset at not getting pregnant, but it feels a bit more uncontrollable than that. It's stopping me working effectively (I'm a teacher - although teenagers are not the best people to work with when you are upset generally). Is there anything I can do to sort my hormones out a bit? Diet, exercise, supplements?
I had to put on sunglasses on the train home this evening, I just kept tearing up.
I realise some people have real problems and this is somewhat inconsequential but I wonder if anyone can help?

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scorpio1 · 30/04/2007 19:34

Bella, honey

TBH, i think what you are feeling, we have ALL felt and do until we get pg. it does and will affect our whole lives, because we cannot escape it.we are in our bodies all the time.

I try to do things that i will look forward to, such as meals out to take my mind off it.Exercise is a good one, because it raises endorphin levels and can only benefit you.try to eat well, maybe take a multi-vitamin designed for pg (im taking santogen)and a fish oil.

are there other things in your life that arent that great for you at the moment? normally when i feel this crap its because other things are rubbish too.do you enjoy your job??

I hope you are ok, and as we have known each other for ages, im always here!

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:36

i'm not enjoying my job at the moment, tbh. it has been noticed. I'm usually so happy and motivated and it has all gone.
thanks for replying.
I'm off to pilates in a few minutes so that will be good.

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scorpio1 · 30/04/2007 19:38

see, maybe it is really the job that is dragging you down and this is adding to it? what about a new training course, change of age of pupil, ?? i don't know much about teaching, sorry just wanna help

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:40

bless you! no, mainly the pregnancy thing I think.

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:40

bless you! no, mainly the pregnancy thing I think.

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:40

bless you! no, mainly the pregnancy thing I think.

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:40

i just want to stop crying

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:40

posted three times, no idea why!

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chilledmama · 30/04/2007 19:41

Bella, How long have you been off the pill?

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 19:42

since october but had miscarriage early feb

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HelloMama · 30/04/2007 19:45

Are you sure you're not pregnant already, thus the reason for all the crying?! I know how it feels to suddenly be desperate to be pregnant - you really can't focus or think about anything else. It is really hard. Do remember though that it is normal for it to take 6-12 months to conceive if you are aged under 35 years.

You should definitely already be taking folic acid if you are TTC, but a general pregnancy supplement (containing folic acid) like pregnacare, or pregaday, or whatever Boots / superdrug own brand formulation is called, is a good idea. Good luck!

chilledmama · 30/04/2007 19:45

Sounds like your hormones are a bit out of whack...GPs don't like 'interfering' until its been at least a year. My hormones didn't settle down at all when I came off the pill. Took me 8 months to conceive; it took the pg to sort me out! You probably just need to give it some time.
If you don't mind me asking...Are you trying again?

Chloe55 · 30/04/2007 19:47

It took me over a year to get pg with ds but I couldn't accept that a year to conceive was average, friends of mine had gotten pg overnight more or less - I used to take a test practically every other day (spent a bloody fortune) and would cry my heart out when it was negative. It is a huge emotional drag constantly worrying about it, I used to snap at dh for no reason, would cry myself to sleep convinced I was infertile, my job was crap etc etc.

Exercise will help, can you take up a sport with a mate perhaps?

Can you book some holiday off work? I actually fell pg on holiday in the end!!

HelloMama · 30/04/2007 19:48

x-posted. Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Perhaps thats also why you're feeling a bit low?

lucykate · 30/04/2007 19:52

there are so many ups and downs when trying to conceive. i think this feeling like you do now, is more than likely down to your recent miscarriage. that was only a few weeks ago and will have sent your hormones all over the place. plus if you are trying to conceive for the first time, its hormones your body is not used to.

i took me 6 months to conceive after coming off the pill, and after dd, i had 2 m/c's so i know what a rollercoaster it can be. take care of yourself, let yourself relax in the evenings. give the multi vitamins a try, i took them after my 2nd m/c, when i was really low both physically and mentally. funnily enough, after that we stopped ttc so actively and thats when i got pg!.

plibble · 30/04/2007 19:52

My hormones went totally out of whack when I came off the pill too and I felt dreadful. It took 7 months to get pregnant and, after the birth of my daughter 10 months ago I am a hormonal wreck once more.
I'm taking starflower oil (which is like evening primrose) and having acupuncture to regulate my hormones. I'm not yet sure if either of them will work, but I feel better to be trying to take some control iycwim.
I really hope you feel better soon.

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 21:15

Thank you all. Am crying now! It is definitely not just feeling sorry for myself (and I am guilty of that too).
Am on prepregnancy supplements.
Can't book time off work as teacher.
mc was three sysles ago! Feels ages. Not really in the scheme of things I suppose.

I just well up at the slightest thing. I don't feel in control.

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 21:15

*cycles

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 21:18

and got a negative test on saturday followed by my period starting today, so def not pregnant.

I think I am wallowing now.

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pesme · 30/04/2007 21:26

ok, take a deep breath and really think about what is happening. i had to reassess everything last summer when i just wasn't getting pregnant. it was really hard but i was in a complete state (much like you sound now). i decided to actually acknowledge teh fact that it might not happen and then take a break. i stopped 'trying' for about 4 months and concentrated on getting some control back in my life. i am back 'trying' again and it is still hard but not all consuming. your mc has taken its toll and you need to give yourself a break. you will in all probability get pregnant v. soon (i really hope you do). take care.

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BellaBear · 30/04/2007 21:30

thank you. I just had a big cry on my husband's shoulders. feel better for it. still don't want to go to work though.

deep breath.

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chilledmama · 30/04/2007 21:42

Bella, Don't put so much pressure on yourself...your body needs time to adjust after a MC. If you've conceived once then you know you can again...it will happen. Just try to smile and tell yourself that while you're not pg that means you've got to practice more.

PinkElephant · 01/05/2007 08:56

Oh poor you Bella I know exactly how you feel. I always feel great whilst being on the pill but as soon as I stop it I always suffer with bad PMT and get very cranky, weepy and very paranoid. I also get a lot of crampy pains which I never get on the pill either and skin always breaks out. I'm taking prenatal vitamins but may start mumomega again up to ovulation which is EPO and fish oils, anything to help hey? I don't think you're alone sweetie

PinkElephant · 01/05/2007 08:57

oh and the not getting PG is enough to set me of weeping

LilyLoo · 01/05/2007 09:02

Bella know what you mean i just came off pill and my normally calm hormones are all over the place without the added pressure of trying to conceive. I am just trying to get out and do more exercise esp in the fresh air whilst it's nice. Completely agree about the school thing as well it is a complete nightmare as you can never book a few days off when you really need to without going sick. Hope you get a bfp soon

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