Since coming off the pill and NOT getting pregnant, I just keep crying all the time

[BellaBear]

It might just be because I am upset at not getting pregnant, but it feels a bit more uncontrollable than that. It's stopping me working effectively (I'm a teacher - although teenagers are not the best people to work with when you are upset generally). Is there anything I can do to sort my hormones out a bit? Diet, exercise, supplements?
I had to put on sunglasses on the train home this evening, I just kept tearing up.
I realise some people have real problems and this is somewhat inconsequential but I wonder if anyone can help?

Poor you Bella I remember my skin and hormones being really bad after coming off the pill. How about an accuputurist? homeopath or reflexology? Might be better to try the alternatives before trying conventional medicine? (sometimes it can be like using a hammer to crack a nut) I hope you feel so much better soon.

I would also recommend seeing an acupuncturist. They have a good track record with hormone imbalances.

We were ttc for about a year when my hormone levels were tested. The results showed that I wasn't ovulating, due to low progesterone. After 3 months of acupuncture I was re-tested and my progesterone levels were back to normal again.

Oh Bella honey , hang in there! So sorry that you are so low at the moment. Fingers and toes crossed for you. ((hug))

thank you everyone. haven't cried yet today! still not liking my job very much though. obviously, the not getting pg thing is making me sad, but i can normally hold it together without bursting into tears all over the place, but not at the moment. It is very odd not being in control.

ready, we are cycle buddies!

how does one go about finding an acupuncturist?

A bit of light reading for you!

How to find a practitioner .

The one thing I found was so important about my acupuncturist was the time she spent just discussing my feelings with me. It gave me a chance to rage, mourn, cry (lots), laugh and generally let go. TTC can be incredibly stressful at the best of times. I also think that when you're in a job (like teaching), that only exists because other people have managed to have children, it adds to the irony. (I'm a teacher too in case you hadn't guessed!)

Both my DCs took a year to conceive - first after being on the pill, and the second without! I remember the feeling of despair all too well. Good luck x

Bella- hows things today ?

Hi Bella. Just tripped across this and am really sorry that you are feeling so down. I haven't read the whole thread but the bits that I've read seem to be good sense. I know how hard it is when there is something you want so much and you just can't seem to get it, but you will.

Have you thought about speaking to your gp about feeling like this? They might sign you off for a few days. A friend of mine was depressed, not ttc related, a while ago and the gp signed her off relatively quickly. It made a huge difference just to relieve that pressure and she was able to cope with the other things in her life much more easily.

Hope you are feeling brighter soon

Hi, thanks, yes will make an appt with GP - although that is hard enough! Problem with taking time off work is that if I'm not there someone else has to do all my work - teaching, planning, and it is exam season - loads to do and kids to not let down... I've got to stop complaining and just get on with it!

I've made an appt to see my GP in a couple of weeks. Thanks for kind words. x

i hope the appointment goes well, sweety.you need to be de-stressed to get pg, maybe if you are signed off or something that may help you??

i really hope you ok x

Let us know how you get on. Thinking of you chick!

hi im joanne im new to this site i waited 18months to conceive dd shes now 11months an we ttc #2 i too cry my eyes out when im due on i found im just as bad this time as when was trin for dd we mc while tryin for it was heartbreaking in the end my bf said he doesnt like seeing me uset told him i dont like being upset an we agred to stop tryin thats when i fell pg i am taking pregnacare this time, i feel pg this time so tired have nausea constantly needing to piddle its a pain hoping my period come early or nt at all i feelin jealous when you hear all these people pg accidently. good luck

Hi Bella,
I was on the pill for nearly 15 years before ttc. I found that reflexology was fantastic at getting my period back to 'normal'. My reflexology sessions last around two hours, with the first hour basically being a counselling session.
Cycle has been back to normal for around 3 months and I had a bfp last month. Unfortunately I miscarried this week and feeling a bit all over the place, but I am feeling positive that at least things seem to be working! (Have spent many a sleepless night thinking I was completely infertile!).
I am really keen to getting back ttc(ing)again. Have an appointment with consultant at local hospital this week, as was referred previously for clomid.
Have also been using Paul McKenna tapes for relaxation - he is really good for +ve thinking.
I hope you are feeling better and you find some of the things I have tried useful.

Oh scottishcharlotte, thank you for your advice and I am so sorry about your mc. I know what you mean, I thought, well at least I am fertile, but it is only scant comfort isn't it? Here's to both of us sorting it out!

Bella - I really want to give and others in your position a hug. I was in that position too and showed similar symptoms.

I came off the pill as I felt I'd been on it too long rather than to conceive - I found I was pregrant 6 months later but sadly miscarried. This set off wanting a child badly. Year on got my GP to refer us for tests - DP had some issues and they recommended we went on IVF waiting lists in view of that and my age and my pcos. We were in devestated, unbelieving and in tears. Head honcho came in to see us and was shocked that 2 years on from mc we weren't holding it together and suggested berevement counselling.

Bella - It also got to the stage where I thought it might not happen and better take back control of my life as I was getting very down and it was showing at work (like you).

But guys - guess what I had a really full on job, very stressed and worked heaps of overtime. The consultant had told me that testing only really tests the biological and they were only starting to understand the impact of stress on fertility.

I reluctantly went on the IVF lists (crying as I filled in the forms) and took the radical step of jacking in work. Got my health back and generally tried not to give a damn about anything. Still nothing - so did a bit of 'light' temping work for a lovely company. We went on a really boozy holiday and I came back - pregnant and I have a lovely child. Three years on from my initial pregnancy.

You might think that I'm now on the other side of the fence but I still remember acutely the emotions - when I went for my antenatal check ups at the same hospital I had my fertility tests I felt I was in the wrong section and should get back to the fertility section where I belonged! I could barely look those women in the eye.

So my advice - I think your general stress levels are not helping and stop thinking you mustn't let everyone down - don't let yourself down, try taking vitamins (and Vit C and Zinc for your partner) - try to enjoy every moment of your life and love yourself a bit more. Most importantly give yourself time to grieve for your mc (I'm so sorry). I too have heard wonderful things about acupuncture.

I find the fact that you want to cry on the way home from work very worrying - I also used to do this. Please be kind to yourself and you've always got lots of mnetters to give you support.

lots of love and positive wishes

apols - sorry for mcs for anyone who's had one.

thank you bubblymummy.