What are the chances of having another miscarriage?

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I posted a similar thread over on the conception board but didn’t get many replies so trying again here for traffic. I would be really grateful to hear some positive messages about people who went on to have a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage. I had an early loss in August and I am now pregnant again (very early days) and I am struggling to keep positive and stop worrying that it’ll happen again. I know nobody can tell me what will happen - just looking for reassurance and positive messages to keep me going through these agonising first few weeks. Also any tips of things I can do / not to to give the pregnancy the best chance (I am taking folic acid and trying to eat more fruit and veg and stopped drinking / caffeine).

I’ll also have to deal with the problem of not drinking over Xmas as nobody will know, which will be problematic / exhausting. We don’t want to tell our families because they will be so excited and don’t know about our previous loss, and we can’t handle their disappointment as well as our own if something goes wrong. We also don’t want our private life (which we are struggling with) to be gossiped about amongst the family.

Thanks @PerfectlyDone. I know I need to address my anxiety, I am just not sure how. I wish I could enjoy being pregnant (assuming I am) and not spend every day worrying.

Ive had 2 mc now after my lovely ds. Feel devasted might ask gp for tests but not sure what to do next. Can gp do tests? X

I had a MC last week (I didn’t even know I was PG) thought it was a freakishly heavy period. I cannot believe how much my life has changed in a week. One thing I have learnt DO NOT GOOGLE ANYTHING!!!!!!! You end up with scrappy pieces of information from random sources that make you feel crap.
Deep down I think well I got PG once, wasn’t meant to be this time but it WILL happen and be ok. Remember this world is full of scaremongers, the Internet is full of them. Mumsnet is not like that

I know I need to address my anxiety

Speak to your MW - she is likely to have access to a perinatal MH team. Anxiety is a horrible thing to live with, miserable and exhausting. And pointless...
If the MW cannot help, speak to your GP.

Look up 'anxiety management' online, there are lots of resources such as MoodGym, MoodJuice, MoodScope - I could go on....

Saragossa, so sorry for your loss.
Your GP can certainly do a health check, but there are no specific tests recommended after ONE miscarriage, sorry.
MC are stupidly common - it is estimated up to 1 in 3 early pregnancy actually end. Early testing means that we know v early that we have conceived (sometimes even before a missed period) which makes for more suffering and grieving IME.
1 MC statistically does not reduce your chance of a healthy baby

I had a viability scan at FMC today and all looks good - saw the little baby and a heartbeat! I do feel a lot better having seen that all looks well so far, but have a slight dull tummy ache so am now worrying that I have somehow hurt the baby by having an internal scan! The worrying never ends does it! Thanks for your support

That's great news! I have done a lot of reading up on internal scans and the overwhelming consensus seems to be that they are 100% safe. Easier said than done, but try and put it out of your mind for the rest of the weekend. And then it will most likely have passed.

Thanks @StargazyDrifter I really hope it’s not harmful. I feel terrible that my own need for reassurance could have caused any damage. A warm bath has helped.

I had a miscarriage in August at 11+3 and found out that the scan :-( I'm now pregnant again 5+3 and I'm so petrified it'll happen again .. I suppose you just have to keep positive and keep the hopes up!! Fingers crossed for you. ❣️

Thanks @rosegeorgia21 and best wishes for your pregnancy. It’s a good way to look at it as there’s nothing we can do to control the outcome except trying to stay positive

Do any of you wonder: am I still pregnant? It’s so difficult not knowing if everything is alright in there, especially with very few symptoms.

Hi OP I had an early miscarriage in June and am now 22 weeks pregnant.

I spent the first 20 weeks constantly worrying and wondering if it was all ok, which was really tiring and made me feel very low. I convinced myself of the worst all the time with no reason as I was so terrified.

Really try to be positive and if the anxiety takes over it's probably worth having a chat with your midwife as they might be able to help.

I'll admit that even now I constantly keep a look out for movements and panic if I can't feel my baby for a few hours, it is reassuring when they wriggle that it's all ok so hopefully once that starts for you it will be a bit easier.

Hi
I have a 6yr old boy. When he just turned 1, my right fallopian tube ruptured for some unknown reason! Two years later, after the trauma of a terrible delivery and emergency surgery, we decided to try for number 2. I fell pregnant within 5months. I cheerfully went along for my 12 scan only to discover that I had lost my baby. I was devastated as I had no idea anything was wrong. I miscarried naturally 4 weeks later. Since then (end of 2015) we have been trying in a 'if it happens, it happens' kind of way. I have polycystic ovaries so my cycle can be a bit of a mess (though typically every 6wks). At each cycle I would get pregnancy symptoms and a lot of the time I was convinced I was pregnant, only to get the dreaded disappointment of another negative result. I spoke to my doctor in May and was referred for investigation to find out why I had not fallen pregnant again. While waiting for my appt, I discovered at the beginning of July that I was pregnant!! 😊
My last period was May 16th, but as my cycle is typically 6weeks long, I expected to be 8wks pregnant when I went for a scan at the EPU on July 27th. The scan showed it was definitely not 8weeks along,but possibly 6wks. I have another scan booked for next week to check for any change. I however do not have a good feeling about this. My nausea and tiredness greatly eased a week ago. My breasts remain swollen and tender. I did a clear blue digital test tonight and it still showed as 3+ weeks. Long story short 😉 is it possible for my levels to be high enough to read 3+ wks if my baby passed 2+weeks ago?
I am hopeful that perhaps my irregular cycle just means I am earlier on that expected, however deep down i think I know what is to come. Surely even if it was 6wks,they wouldve detected a heart beat at least?

I know no one has commented on here for a while am tempted to start another feed of my own. I’m 4 weeks post mc and I haven’t started my period yet, I know it can be late etc etc. But me and the hub have been DTD unprotected since I stopped bleeding. Today I’ve woken up feeling sick, I’m getting the weird abdo feelings I had in early pregnancy, but that’s it. I had a bit of bloating a few days ago and thought I was coming on. I’ve been really irritable recently but I thought that was me post miscarriage emotionally. I’m not getting my hopes up but I just want to know where I am period or pregnancy. We DTD about 1 1/2 weeks after I stopped bleeding. Is it too early to do a test? I don’t want to waste one and work myself up if it doesn’t show anything. Thanks xxx