TTC #2 (November BFPs)

[Cariad2014]

If anyone is ttc2 and expecting their AF/ BFP in November then this thread is for you.

Let’s all give ourselves a fabulous excuse not to drink at Christmas!

My stats are as follows:

Age: 35
DS: 2 (in late November)
Cycle: 13 (lucky for some?!?!) I have short cycles so this is month 11 (yawn!)
AF/ BFP due: 2 November

Trust me I was as surprised as you are now. I had come off the injection as advised by my doc as i had been on it for 10 years and my body wasn't happy with it anymore. I was transitioning onto the pill and so they suggested to get my periods to a regular status before going onto the pill. I had not been for my injection in August, not had any period and naively assumed I was still covered by the injection for another couple of months or at least until i had a bleed and so we still weren't using condoms. I got caught in the October, less than 7 weeks after coming off the injection. They told me it could take up to 18 months for my body to get back to normal. So there we go.

I'm starting to wonder if there is a direct link between how much you think about it and how likely it is to happen. In which case, I'm never going to get pregnant, . I'm obsessed!

I'm only on cycle #1 but I feel like I'm already reliving TTC my daughter which took a fair amount of time.

@lopey completely understand the need for a 2nd. I’ll be honest before DD I could never understand how people could be so desperate for subsequent babies. After all they already had one. But this is just as bad as TTC first time around. It’s different worries than with the first one, like age gaps and what not but it’s still heartbreaking that it’s not happening. In some ways it’s worse because you see your only child playing alone and know they they’d love a sibling.

@ems sorry for the BFN, fingers still firmly crossed for you. I have no idea how people get pregnant by accident, I hope those that do realise just how blessed they are.

@cariad don’t stop trying my lovely, miracle babies do happen and if anyone deserves one it’s you! I’m so glad you’ve had a fab girly weekend, sounds like just why you needed.

@ Lopey, I feel your pain wanting a 2nd... it’s about all I’ve ever thought about since having DD1. I wanted a small age gap so I could stick them in a double buggy, they’d go to same activities etc. Seems that my body has other plans... Good luck with the tests, I hope you get some answers xx

@ mynameis pregnancy announcements are so conflicting, two friends have announced and whilst trying to be happy for them I can’t help but feel a bit gutted. Both started trying after me and I just feel like it is highlighting the issue to me (not that I needed anything conception related highlighted!).

@cariad my fingers are crossed for you!

Anyone else ever feel like giving up? I’m not sure how much more of this I can realistically take 😓 xx

Two of my friends have just had their first scans, felt like crying. My partner did and didn’t understand, only on 3rd cycle so hopefully it’ll happen soon, but this is my second and my two friends are having their first so maybe the second just takes a little longer. Stay positive ladies.

@missy yes I often feel like giving up and accepting that we’ll be a family of 3 but I can never quite bring myself to do it. Not yet anyway. I think realistically if we haven’t had any joy after 18months of trying then we’ll have a conversation about where we go from there.

I'm very much an optimist in all things and get very sneeped if things don't happen but I will keep trying until I'm physically not able too. When I found out I was pregnant with my first I was in utter shock, so much so that I went home from docs and just cried, my OH thought i was seriously ill so it could have been worse. He was over the moon so that was my biggest worry gone. I read all these stories and knowing my experiences now going through this, I know how utterly blessed we were. I just feel like it happened so easily last time, why is it so hard now. Big hugs to everyone yet to poas this month!!

@mynameis that sounds like a good plan. We are cycle 10 or 14 (I never know what to count as I breastfed constantly and through night until March!).

We’ve been offered NHS IVF appointment but I’m just not sure once got that in me. I know people who’ve gone through it and it certainly is not the easy option!

@ Kit, it’s hard in any cycle I think but #3 still early doors, don’t despair and good luck xx

I know it isn't helpful to symptom spot but I can't help but ask. I have really sore, but I now tingly, and sometimes burning boobs. AF due in 2 days (wed) Does anyone know if this is encouraging from their previous pregnancies? I don't remember having this with DD. It certainly hasn't been an AF symptom up until now (Although I am quite aware it is most likely to be a new one sent just to get my hopes up!).

This speculation had lead to ordering 4 FRER's off amazon next day delivery. Just the £35 on tests this month then 🙈

@missy we discussed IVF this time around at the beginning. We both said we didn’t think we would do it. But who knows. It’s great you would get NHS IVF, in our area as we already have DD we wouldn’t get the actual IVF on the NHS. It’s so expensive and invasive I just don’t know if I could do it with a toddler and a full time job.

@ems my boobs have never hurt at all during pregnancy so not sure. But it can be a sign of being pregnant. It could also be a change in hormones due to af being near, that’s the kicker about all this isn’t it. That most symptoms can either be pregnancy or af related.

@Ems1986 really sore Boobs was what made me take a test day before AF with #1! So hoping it's a symptom for you so so bad! 🤞🤞🤞

Ems1986 sore boobs were definitely a sign for me with my son. When did you say you can you test?

xx

Fertile window time from tomorrow and I'm so not in the mood, stinking cold thanks to DS and crap sleep the past few weeks (again thanks to DS). I suppose I could just lie there, go to sleep and hey magic might happen haha (just cough my guts up in the process!!)

@Secondtimelucky1980 I have been testing each morning but wasted my FRER's with my obsessive daily testing so it was a tesco cheapie I used this morning. AF is due Wednesday. FRERs will have been delivered by the time I get home from work tomorrow so will test again then.

I got my BFP with a FRER on the day AF was due (14dpo) with DD. I went to the doctors that same day and they wouldn't confirm because it was so faint so I feel quite comfortable about the fact I've been getting BFNs up til now. Comes with the terrority of being horrendously impatient I suppose. But I think I cope better testing each day rather than waiting.

My boobs feel so strange.... Tingly, sharp pains, tender to press or if I jump or move too fast. But it's mainly the tingling and lighting bolts that seem to be going through them that's getting my attention. But surely if I have enough HCG to create symptoms then I'd have a BFP by now too?

@miniminions I can sympathise with you there. There is nothing worse than the worry of missing the window but just not feeling up to it at all. I rarely feel up to it

Sending enormous hugs to everyone struggling.

Missy - I’m not ready to give up just yet but know that I’m not one of those people who can try indefinitely. We’ve been trying since last December (this is Cycle 14). I’m gearing myself up mentally to doing a couple of IVF cycles next year and then perhaps a couple in 2019. If I’m not pregnant by the time DS is 4 at the end of 2019, I think we’ll have to draw a line under it (although I’m mindful that if IVF goes badly, we might be advised that further goes are futile at a much earlier stage).

Mynameis - I’m totally with you on not fully appreciating how tough secondary infertility would be. I did a deal with the devil whilst pregnant with DS (my third pregnancy) and experiencing endless weeks of spotting. I essentially said that I didn’t care if that pregnancy ended up being high risk as long as there was a healthy baby at the end of it and that I was willing to trade in any future pregnancy taking a long time to happen for a healthy pregnancy with DS, as I naively thought at the time that trying for a second would be much less emotionally charged than trying for a first .... My pregnancy with DS did end up being high risk, but he was born healthy and it’s now evident that ttc this time around will end up taking much longer than last time (11 months in total)

@Ems1986 also doesn't help that DH has been growing a beard for a year (yuck yuck yuck) and it looks awful and I hate to say it but hate kissing him now so kinda putting me off/not finding it attractive at all - although love him obviously!! If it was short like couple weeks not shaving length fine but this is like Gandalf and makes him look old ughhh

@Cariad2014 big hugs to you xx

@miniminions had a real chuckle at that. It taken my mind off the suspiciously AF type cramping and heaviness I'm having tonight.

I'm so back and forth from positive to negative. It changes every hour. The waiting is such torture. Although I realise how silly that probably sounds on cycle #1 when there are some of you on here who have been trying for so long. The time it took TTC DD gives me a small understanding of heartache and frustration but I suppose what I'm trying to say is I'm sending all my luck and good wishes to you all x

Well...got my day 21 results which were 32.5 so I'm told that that is confirmation of ovulation, whoop whoop!!!! The issue I have now is the fact ive probably been using a shitty thermometer not a bbt one (which I didn't know had to be 2 decimal places) so I feel like I've wasted the past 8 months! Plus opk's dont pick up my ovulation.

Oh that's good news and bad news there Funkyemzie how frustrating about the thermometer!

@miniminions that is so funny. Maybe you should stick a wax strip to one side while he's asleep and in the morning just say something like 'i wondered where that had gone' then he will probs have to shave...i literally feel the pain though, for you I mean not him!
Ems honestly babes, even though you are on cycle #1 you have already been through this so it's prob as bad as being on cycle 12! Xxx

@dinomania thank you and yes, its really frustrating but at least I know what's gone wrong and I can rectify it. I'm very pleased about the results and even though another BFN this morning, it's cheered me up alot.

@cariad it’s so strange isn’t it, how things work out. I’m sure nothing you did last time with DS has affected anything this time at all.

DH has totally surprised me by just saying that he’d actually like 3 or more children! Erm can we actually manage to conceive No2 before we think ahead. We had always said two but I think he is enjoying DD much more than he ever thought he would. If we do ever get to no3 I think it will just be a try and see, if it happens great, if not then it’s okay.

@cariad, I feel your pain but as @mynameis said, I’m sure it’s nothing you have done... my fingers and toes are crosses for you!

@mynameis... I’m like your DH, I’d have 10 but at my age and all these probs this time I’ll be lucky to have another 1!

@funkyemzie congrats on your day 21 progesterone! Xx

@funkyemzie that is such great news.

@miniminions as soon as you are pregnant you can just say it's making your sickness come on so he'll have to shave