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Share 'How it happened' - not literally but how you went from a TTC-er to a BFP-er!

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BloomingImpatient · 07/09/2017 19:53

Hi,

Been here a while and thought, I don't see many posts how one got their BFP!! So in the name of TTC-ers, would the newly BFP-ers share their successes.

Were you planning, strategically trying, been through the hsg/bloods/ivf meetings/had ivf/clomid, addicted to ovulation testing, random night out, thought 'fuck it' then it happened...

Share your BFP love guys...

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Pickle0 · 07/09/2017 19:57

Love to follow this post.

Also i'm new here so learning abbreviations i've picked up TTC but BFP?

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BloomingImpatient · 07/09/2017 19:59

Big Fat Positive (positive pregnancy test) 👍🏼

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Pickle0 · 07/09/2017 20:04

Ah make sense, thanks!! Grin

cailisto · 07/09/2017 20:06

Not a new BFPer, but someone who went through nearly 10 years of issues whilst TTC first baby.

First BFP came after a hycosy. For some reason that worked after IVF had failed on the first round and we'd had years of early miscarriages or unexplained long bouts of infertility. Very strange, but excellent.

Second BFP came after we had tried everything again, but this time everything had failed. So we gave up; started the ball rolling on buying a new house; went away and had lots of alcohol... and.... BFP.

cailisto · 07/09/2017 20:07

First time round - addicted to Clearblue ovulation kit.

Second time round - had given up!

cailisto · 07/09/2017 20:09

Oh! And a TMI, but both times were massive orgasms and a position where my legs were raised after sex! Think I may have had an issue with the position of my cervix, which wasn't helping!

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BloomingImpatient · 07/09/2017 20:14

Oh! Congrats!!

What a bloody nightmare, but then a great ending (of your TTC journey) and beginning of your BFP!!

Don't think it's ever tmi here ha ha!

Big congrats x

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BloomingImpatient · 07/09/2017 20:15

Strange when you finally let go, how magic can happen!!

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Loosemoose28 · 07/09/2017 20:15

Think mine was luck. Set myself up for a long time TTC due to endometrosis.
Started as meant to go on got OPKing did the deed...

Up duffed. Not much advise im afraid. I did just have a operation which cleared my tubes out and I fell immediately after that. But was only trying a month before that.

SchnitzelVonCrummsTum · 07/09/2017 20:19

Baby 1: charted, used preseed, OPKs and timed intercourse. 3 pregnancies in a year & 3 miscarriages. 4th time was the charm. Frigging stressful and full of grief.

Baby 2: DTD randomly when baby 1 was 9 months old. Upduffed.

Baby 3: DTD randomly 5 days before what turned out to be ovulation. Upduffed.

Current pregnancy (might be baby 4): charted without temping in order to avoid pregnancy for 5 years. Added in temping and timed intercourse (ovulation minus 1 and day of ovulation). Currently (crosses fingers, toes, everything) very slightly upduffed - 5 weeks.

DH firmly believes he has super sperm. I firmly believe we are very lucky (and were very UNlucky for the first year!)

LovePinaColada · 07/09/2017 20:23

Marking a place to follow all the lovely BFP stories!

AdmiralSirArchibald · 07/09/2017 20:31

First time it was Valentines day, my birthday and half term. Had been trying for 5 months since our honeymoon. Taking temperature helped and so did a lot of booze! Second time was a total surprise. It hasn't happened in 2 years of trying so we assumed it wasn't going to. So we booked and went on a really expensive summer holiday. And then had a BFP 4 weeks later...

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BloomingImpatient · 07/09/2017 21:30

loose my old boss is 11 years older than me, had endo, tried for ages then was successful... then a second one came not long after and endo eased!

crumms it's like 'first-the-worse'!!! that sounds STRESSFUL but glad you've almost got a 4-side going! What is it and men and 'sperm'? ha ha mines worried at the mo because on paper (so far) we're 'NORMAL' , he's got a 3% moph but it's been 4% before so they're not worried about either of us.

We have our next app in 2 months, 2 stone to lose or "I will have to stop this journey for you, if you're not in the limit, we won't help'... we had one appointment. I felt like the doctor was a head master!!

Admiral bloody love the booze element! Had two nights drinking this year. My mate has said with all the stress i'm under atm, with ttc on top, i'm not myself and she's right, in fact i've been trying to hide how tired I am. Arranging a low-calorie drink (we'll see) but defo a weekend away with DH to chill and have a good laugh really.

It get way too stressful!

Have acupuncture booked too.

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Cloudwalk · 07/09/2017 22:40

I was told at 18 the chance of us conceiving a child was very low due to PCOS after a series of ultrasounds.

At 29 we conceived second month of trying and had a chemical pregnancy, got lucky the month immediately after and so far it's stuck 🤞🏻

My husband and I were so ready to adopt, we had discussed it and we thought we would try for a few years first.

Still in shock Flowers

cailisto · 07/09/2017 22:50

Some lovely stories! Thank you, Blooming, for your lovely comments! We have had a bloody difficult 14 years in total, but we got there! I was actually at the stage where I would have been very happy to adopt and we were sorting out the initial paperwork for that when I got the BFP no. 1!
Getting drunk (at the right time) definitely seemed to help us massively! I also found that I got to be an expert on EWCM the first time round, so just giving up/stopping caring/getting hammered seemed to help.

KittyKat73 · 08/09/2017 10:08

Hey!

Im currently 16 weeks pregnant but had been ttc for a year. I was on microgynan pill for over 10 years. stopped June 2016 and my cycles were irratic ever since. It was always different total nightmare to track, at one point my AF disappeared for 3 months and i had to take provera to kick start it!. In march my GP took blood which showed my hormone levels all normal and put the cycles down to stress/ my body still adjusting to life after the pill. my first cycle after provera was 59days.

During my 2nd cycle after provera I went on a holiday to Greece and took clear blue ovulation sticks. DTD around the time of the static smiley but as we had been trying for a year I didnt hold out much hope. When we got home I felt a bit unwell thought it was just 2 weeks of drinking and eating lots of bad food. Coming up to AF time I even had stomach cramp so thought I was definately out but did a test anyway and it was positive!

Along the way I lost count on how many times I was baby bombed, had friends give birth. Definately made me feel blue espically when it seemed to happen so easy for others while months of frustration had went by for me. but I knew one day it would be me. Never give up its going to happen. It took a year for me and it will happen to everyone here xx

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BloomingImpatient · 08/09/2017 10:44

I think it's important to share, I'm grateful to hear how it happened for guys! Especially when you have a break or generally think, all this effort is too much... then PUFF.

Also I think it's a general consensus to when you feel you need a break to have one, hopefully on holiday with a cocktail!!

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TinyBarista · 08/09/2017 10:52

Really like reading these, great positive thread Blooming

Oysterbabe · 08/09/2017 11:11

With my first we got engaged in December and booked the wedding for early May. I was 34 and been on some kind of hormonal contraception since 16. We decided to stop it and start trying straight away. I don't do anything by halves so went down the whole temping and opks from the off. It didn't do me any good though and I didn't get pregnant until our honeymoon in May when I'd left all that stuff behind. I went back on the pill after DD was born.
We started trying for our second when DD was 13 months and I was 36. Again I started using OPKs from the start. They seemed more important this time because I was so knackered from running after a toddler that I could barely be arsed to have sex. It only took 2 months this time and DS is due 2 weeks before DD turns 2.
I'm very excited for him to arrive but we are definitely done with babies now :)

EastDulwichWife · 08/09/2017 11:40

This is such a lovely thread. Keep 'em coming!

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BloomingImpatient · 08/09/2017 12:11

cloud 'so far its stuck' it's a post-it down there!! Big congrats!! Bloody years of crap to have an amazing outcome!

kitty I had to Google provera!! We're told to 'look after ourselves' and how the pill can help, which obviously a great resource to have but then when you're ready, you have to get your body back on board!

Oyster I'm looking forward in having a break. If I'm still too chunky end of Oct and have a shit app at the hospital, I'm coming out of there and booking a week in the sun. You, a PROPER holiday!! Big congrats too! Ha ha you'll probably a have surprise third!! Ha it happens!!!

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BloomingImpatient · 08/09/2017 13:49

Thanks for sharing so far ladies btw! I know it's not always easy, even when you've had a bumpy ride it can hurt sharing with the world but I'm grateful 😘 and BFP are achievements and shows that we're all different sharing the same goal!

Reinforces my ongoing rationale... relax!

Really, try to enjoy my own journey!

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cailisto · 08/09/2017 21:23

Sending massive sticky hugs to all of you. I know how horribly hard it is, especially when it seems like other people are getting their whole families made during the time you're trying. Been there, got many t-shirts and it sucked.

Whatever way you end up getting to be a parent, it'll be amazing! Be it through eventual luck; ivf; surrogacy or adoption. I'm a strong believer in positivity and I wish all of you so, so much luck and love.

Lovely thread!!!

WineAndTiramisu · 08/09/2017 22:14

TTC for 8 months, religiously peeing on ovulation sticks, timing DTD etc
Then I buggered it up for a month, was away so didn't pee on sticks, thought ovulation was a week earlier than it actually was (was on night shifts during actual fertile period and don't think we actually DTD on the peak days).
Tested a week early as well due to this, bfn.
Suddenly realised I'd got it all wrong, thought I'd do a test and there was the BFP Grin

Tattybogle89 · 09/09/2017 12:41

1st pregnancy happened first attempt, after a few goes at unprotected sex and legs up in the air after.(no idea if this theory works but certainly feels like it stops semen escaping for longer..)

2nd pregnancy , currently 29 weeks. Three months of trying ( I know compared to some people this is NOTHING.) but I started to panic and bought clearblue digital ovulation sticks.
Stressful peeing and waiting on a smiley.. finally got smiley and had had sex few days before it, same night and few days after it. Legs up after again ( what's the harm right?!) and was very surprised to be pregnant!

Had read about men's sperm being better quality if you don't have sex everyday or too often, so just tried to cut back a bit and the opk's were what helped me for sure. I was ovulating very late in my cycle.. totally unexpected . Turns out I had been having sex at all the wrong times the months before.

I wish everyone the best of luck.

I still get a kick in the ribs from baby and can't believe it x

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