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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying for first baby

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user1499705962 · 11/07/2017 08:10

Hello I'm 23 and I've just had my implant removed last Monday. I'm taking pregnacare supplements, is there anything else I can do? Also when I started having sex at 16 I had about 2 years of unprotected sexual and never fell pregnant. Which looking back worries me a bit because my periods were always irregular and sometimes I couldn't go to work because they were so bad like sometimes I had sickness, extremely heavy bleeds, very painful, a temperature etc. I went to the Doctor but they said it was normal. Thanks in advance Smile

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Stardustandicecream · 11/07/2017 08:20

You need to work out when you are ovulating - you can only get pregnant by having sex in the 4 days before or day of ovulation so you've a 5 day window - the rest of the month doesn't count.
This will be hard to do if you don't have regular periods - this indicates you aren't ovulating regularly
Most people ovulate about 10-14 days before their period starts
Signs to look for include increased cervixal mucus /discharge etc or you could start charting your temperature
TBH tho I think the first thing you need is an std check so get to a well woman center. Why on earth did you have sex at 16 for 2 years unprotected?! STDs can impact your fertility and cause serious damage to an unborn child so you need to rule out having one before you start trying. Good luck

TTCI · 11/07/2017 08:34

Yes I have been checked I'm actually 23 now and I did t I had unprotected sex constantly but I was young and stupid. I realise my mistake and I have been checked thank you. I was In two minds about joining things like this for the simple fact it's always nothing but negativity. " Why on earth did you have unprotected sex!?" So you were never young and dumb? Why are you using past errors to make me feel like shit. Isn't this supposed to be for advice?

Pibbee · 11/07/2017 10:58

By the looks of her post, Stardust was indeed offering advice. No need to be so defensive towards people who are trying to help you.

sadmum2017 · 11/07/2017 11:03

Heavy painful periods and unprotected sex would make me want a chlamydia test. Not be judgemental at all, it's very common but can lead to fertility problems further down the line. You may already have been checked out, but if not, probably best to sort that as part of the pre-pregnancy plan.

Spam88 · 11/07/2017 11:04

You might find your periods are regular now that you're a bit older - mine were always all over the place before I went on the pill at 18, but when I came off 9 years later they were regular as clockwork and much lighter and less painful.

I don't think there's any more advice to offer really. Except to say whilst ttc you only need to be taking folic acid, so if you find the pregnacare make you ill then you can just switch to folic acid on its own (much cheaper too!).

BoredOnMatLeave · 11/07/2017 11:15

As above it, you can download apps which track your temperature, cervical mucus etc to pin down ovulation day. I had irregular periods as a teen, came off the pill at 23 to TTC, since having DD I have had very regular periods and less painful than when I was younger.

Assuming you are all clear for STI's just see how you get on for a few months. You also only need folic acid at this stage.

Stardustandicecream · 11/07/2017 12:06

I did give you advice. Not trying to make you feel bad - just that unfortunately some of the mistakes you made when you were younger may impact you now - you need to have another std check before trying for sure - seee link. most important thing is to work out when you are ovulating and to time sex accordingly.
www.cdc.gov/std/infertility/default.htm

TTCI · 11/07/2017 12:16

Sorry think I was straight in the Defense xxx apologies xxx

TTCI · 11/07/2017 12:17

I can promise I have been checked.

TTCI · 11/07/2017 12:18

Also I had a check this year when I was screened at my last check before that was 2years prior and everything came back negative.

demirose87 · 11/07/2017 12:19

Do you have regular periods now? It's easy to track your fertile days if you know your own cycle, but ovulation sticks can give more accurate result. clearblue digital with the smily face are good. Apart from that, take folic acid and make sure you're having regular sex throughout your cycle, but focus on your fertile days x

Stardustandicecream · 11/07/2017 12:23

Don't worry- things can come across wrong online - I wasn't attacking you - sorry if it came across as that. I wouldn't worry about the not getting pregnant at that age - chances are if it was just the odd times then you would have been doing it at the wrong time of the month.
As another pp see how you go for a few months and then go to gp after 6-12 months if it hasn't happened. Most people it'll happen for in the first 6 months but for me it was first attempt for my first child and my friend took 2 years! My second child took much longer - it's just chance sometimes

TTCI · 11/07/2017 12:25

I'm just worried I can't conceive that's all. Very sorry again xx i had an implant for 2 years then I had it removed last Monday. And they stop you from having periods so I've not had a period in two years xx

demirose87 · 11/07/2017 12:48

It's definitely chance. My first and fourth children I got pregnant with on first month of trying. My second and third took over a year, so don't be disheartened x

MouseLove · 11/07/2017 14:08

Don't worry you're going through a complete body change and it's normal to doubt your fertility. It's good that you are taking folic acid, ideally you need to be doing this for 3 months before you start to TTC and in this time use it as a way to track your cycles. The first one off birth control is always a hard one as you will have every pregnancy symptom going. Good luck!! Try to chill. 😎

TTCI · 11/07/2017 21:42

Thank you everyone for your kind advice and words. It's just hard when you want something as bad as this and it's so strong that I'm just desperate to be a mum. I watch OBEM just to get some sort of mum fix lol xx

TTCI · 11/07/2017 21:44

This is what I'm taking x

Trying for first baby
TTCI · 13/07/2017 21:55

Also does stress affect fertility as much as they say or not really? I'm going through a big work problem just now so was just wondering x

Aneta553 · 13/07/2017 23:27

What TTCI is pointing out is something that has haunted me a lot since I notice that I was having difficulties trying to have a baby.

Having a lot of stress accumulated is something that has become kind of natural since I work as a lawyer. I even sometimes on some periods of the year suffer from a hair lost due to the amount of stress I'm handling at the time. But I now have to question more directly, because if it is that way, I'll have to change things in my routine.

If someone knows anything about it please let me know! I read some texts in internet but none give me an answer.

Lots of hopes and the best of lucks to everyone! xxxx

Aneta553 · 13/07/2017 23:36

Anyone who has had experience that can prove it could tell me their experience about it, Thanks!!!

TTCI · 14/07/2017 08:06

I know @Aneta553 I think about it a lot too. I'm sure on some level it does though. I have a meeting later in today with my boss so I think I'll bring it up to her because it's affecting my home life (I'm getting bullied at work). Xx

Aneta553 · 21/07/2017 03:25

@TTCI omg, really darling? that sounds even worse :(

MunchyMunchkin · 21/07/2017 03:34

I really wouldn't worry too much about your fertility based on all that unprotected sex in your teens. You may just have been avoiding the crucial 5 days every month. Particularly if it fell midweek. That plus your irregular periods would make it less likely to get pregnant anyway.

Might take a month or two for cycles to settle post implant. Just have lots of sex and try not to worry.

LouLouB1987 · 21/07/2017 11:23

@TTCI I worried just the same. I was on the implant for years, started the pill two years ago to (in my mind) try and take back some control lol! I also had unprotected sex with one parner when I was younger and never got caught (luckily as I think back). Stopped my pill in January and have haf regular periods, like clockwork. It wasnt until then I started to wonder why I have never been pregnant. I was checked for everything with swabs and blood tests and all clear. Although I just just turned 30 so have my worries. Last cycle i was 8 days late, unheard of for me, so when AF came I felt so upset and like my body was letting me down. Someone at work has just gone through and abortion and another in early stages of pregnancy. I fell apart. I talked to my GP who gave me some great advice and a note for a few weeks off work. I found talking about how i felt, reading posts on here and trying to 'relax' about it has helped. It's very hard to relax, as its ALWAYS in the back of your mind. But speak up, vent, use the GP if needed. Just know your not alone Smile Hope things go well for you xx

TTCI · 25/07/2017 17:08

@LouLouB1987 sorry! Just seen your post, that sounds really overwhelming! Hope you're dealing with it all ok. I'm on week 4 of having it removed and still no period lol. All ovulation tests negative aswell. Trying to have patience lol xx

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