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SEEING FERTILITY NURSE/SPECIALIST ON WEDS..... WHAT TO EXPECT?

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lissielou · 17/03/2007 18:29

most of you know my story but if you dont, here goes.... ttc ds for 6y then awful birth ending in a crash cs during which they put my bladder too low down. since then awful pain, group b strep in uterus and 3 confirmed mcs at between 6-9w and 2 more suspected mc and last month an ep which resulted in the removal of my left tube. what q's do i ask, what do i expect from the initial consultation, need help here!

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Sunshinedays · 17/03/2007 18:37

Hi Lissielou - you've really had a nightmare haven't you.

Your situation is quite different to mine (unexplained infertility) so don't think I can really help - but wanted to wish you all the best for Wed.

Do you know if you remaining tube is OK/patent? Can they help you reduce your risk of m/c?

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lissielou · 17/03/2007 18:52

my tube is covered in adhesions (so is my womb) so not in great shape!

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gothicmama · 17/03/2007 18:55

what they will do, what the alternatives are,
types of medication
timescale for it all
what sucess rate different procedures offered have
what can be done about adhesions,
what can be done about strep B in womb to maximise chances of IVF working

HTH hon,

Sunshinedays · 17/03/2007 18:56

Blimey - you've got it rough. Yet you have managed to convieve and implant... have you had a specialist investigate what can be done to help reduce the miscarriage risks?

Have you thought what outcome you would like from the consultation?

Sunshinedays · 17/03/2007 18:57

Looks like we're having to seperate conversations! Sx

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lissielou · 17/03/2007 18:59

thanks gm,
SD ideally would like them to say everythings ok, know thats not likely tho.

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beansprout · 17/03/2007 19:00

Lissie - I don't have any advice but I just want to wish you all the best and of course, please let us know how you get on xx

Sunshinedays · 17/03/2007 19:08

know what you mean about hoping they tell you it is all ok... except that is what they have told me... and so I'm now in this frustrating position of being "unexplained" ....

Guess you know a fair amount about your condition - what treatments or tests do you think you need?

gothicmama · 17/03/2007 19:10

lissie take anote pad with you to write down long words / procedures etc. I could never remember whatthey said to me.

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lissielou · 17/03/2007 20:44

i think i'll need a lap & dye

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LatenightOwl · 17/03/2007 20:55

Hi Lissie, firstly I want to wish you all the best for your appointment. Is this the consultant from the same hospital that made the mistakes? If so then how confident are you that they will deliver this time? As this will clearly have a bearing on your trust with these people and the sort of questions that you need to ask. I have never been in your situation but if I were I think I would ask the following as well as what others have said:

You could find out what the stats are for your chances of a natural conception given your situation - depending on that - what can they do to help you improve these stats and how soon can they start/you start.

What care are they going to offer you given your medical history? and if they cant offer you the right care - who can? and again when? Have they identified the reasons for m/c and if not why not and when you conceive again what care will they offer you - weekly/daily scans?/bloodtests? so that they can identify any potential issues and sort asap.

hope this helps?

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lissielou · 17/03/2007 21:01

thank you LNO, it is the same nhs trust but if ivf is the way to go we will move to a different HA. great q's all! thank you

any more?

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gothicmama · 17/03/2007 21:05

focus on the strep b infection as this will need to be addressed which ever route you take to get pregnant.

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lissielou · 17/03/2007 21:24

good point gm. with everything thats happened i tend to forget about that!

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 06:53

any more hot tips?

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 12:06

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 19/03/2007 12:15

Do not attend this appointment on your own if at all possible. You need moral support from your partner/husband who can also ask questions.

Write down everything you want to ask well ahead of time no matter how "silly" it may appear to be to you. You certainly don't want to leave there thinking, "oh I should have asked this".

Take notes during the appointment. Ask them loads of questions, do not clam up!.

Sunshinedays · 19/03/2007 12:40

Other tips? - Yep, take something decent to read - the wait is always longer than you hope and the reading material always worse than you remember.
Sx

JillJ72 · 19/03/2007 14:12

Are you going by yourself or with DH? If with DH take three copies of the questions, give a copy to the Consultant, you have a copy to read from, DH writes the answers. Good luck.

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 15:45

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thanks to all, some great qs and tips

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Sunshinedays · 19/03/2007 16:39

Oh... and give 'em hell til you get what you want

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 16:58

lol, will do! am feeling v militant at the mo!

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 21:49

bump for more q's to bombard the poor thing with!

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 21:56

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lissielou · 19/03/2007 22:09

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