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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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AF due next Tuesday- faint BFP

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bluebell82 · 14/03/2007 20:24

Stupidly took a test today as got back off holiday and feel rough... faint bfp- had a bit of colour- is this too early antyone else had this???

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wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 19/03/2007 18:46

you wouldn't get a bleed before implantation, however it's not uncommon to have spotting at around the time your period is due, in fact gp said to me that some women have spotting throughout their pregnancy at around the time their period would be due every month.

I would test again tbh. sore boobs are often a sign of impending af.

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 08:09

of course it came with avengence last night the most painful one I have ever experienced- do you think I could have been and it was blighted because I did get a bfp- I will never test earlier againbecause the mix of emotions are terrible...

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lissielou · 20/03/2007 08:12

oh im sorry.

its entirely possible that this was a "chemical pregnancy" where the bean just didnt implant. very very common

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 08:18

it's a shame because you can't help but get a touch excited.. but it is naughty of me to test because I am not late this month in fact I amjvery on time, so if I had waited like every said I should have I wouldn't be in this situation.

Is it ever going to happen to me!!!!????

My dh is pushing for us to see the fertility doctor but I just don't want to yet, I want to do it 'naturally' - do you think I am mad and almost biting the hand that may give us what we want???
I am just emotional x

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FCH · 20/03/2007 08:20

I am so sorry to hear this. Exactly the same thing happened to me in January - and I really wished I hadn't done the early test, which I took because I was sick in the morning for two days. My sister who is a MW said chemical pregnancy. On the bright side had better luck in Feb and am now nearly 8 weeks so better luck for next month.

lissielou · 20/03/2007 08:23

how long have you been ttc? are you charting?

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 11:20

Thanks for the kind words and inspiration... FCH- Hope all goes well x

Lissielou we have been trying for 18 months (since Sept 05). I have had a miscarriage in Oct 06 and an ectopis in Jan 03 where I lost my right tube.. my miscarriage is Oct was when I ovulated from my right ovary and the little bean sat outside my womb and didn't implant properly it tried though!
I am having reflexology at the moment and I am a size 10 so I am not overweight and my husbad is fit and healthy. I have also tried agnus castus in sept o6 and I did fall preg in the oct so I am trying that again. I only take up until ov.
I do chart but it drives me insane and I have missed ovulation when I have been testing with the sticks because I think I fretted about it too much..

I feel gutted and sobbed all night last night, my dh is pushing for the fertility doctor, but we had loads of tests last year, lap and dye and sperm counts and I just don't want to go throught that just yet.. plus I have a very stressful job which is why I am trying to relax myself with reflexology...

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rahrah1 · 20/03/2007 11:37

Bluebell I feel your pain so much... we have had all the tests as well and all are normal.. We have been trying for 29months now, but also conceived naturally which result at pregnancy loss at 24 weeks(Nov 2006). We have been to see the fertility consultant who have said they are not prepared to do anything or another 18months. Its very pressurized getting involved with the fertility clinic, but often it takes some of the pressure off when they say they will treat you as it gives you hope. Wish you all the luck and hope you and DH catch soon. X

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 12:01

you too rahrah- sorry about your loss last year..
Its just so frustrating and doctors don't seem to appreciate how hard it is. I have booked an appointment for both me and my dh with our doctors and they could only fit us in for a 'routine double appointment' in May. When I called the doctors to say that I had miscarried and have a letter for the hospital they didn't even call me to see how I was...
I just hate it

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FC2007 · 20/03/2007 12:23

Blueabll I would defiantely go and ask to be reffered to a fertility specialist. I am assuming the previous tests were ordered by your GP. You don't need a double appointment in my view as you know waht you need and you have been trying for long enough. Your partner may want to come with you to the GP but you can go on your own to ask for this as the reality is that it will be you that will be refferred rather than as a couple.

As for what the specialist may say when you get there ther are so many variables. I always see the specialist option as giving a wider perspective on the options that are relevant for your specific case. In the meantime you will (of course) continue to TTC naturally but for some people knowing that there is something else takes the pressure off enough to help you relax in the meantime.

lissielou · 20/03/2007 12:43

thats awful! dh and i are in a simillar situation, ttc ds for 6y been ttc again for 18m and had 3 mc 1 ep last month, try seeing your gp and tell him how this is affecting you, they may be able to push for an earlier appt. we see the specialist tomorrow

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 13:12

good luck lissielou and thanks for all the advice. They are just won't budge and do not seem to care. Last time they asked me to go and have bloods every 21 days to see if I am ovulating and so I did but I knew I was ovualting as I was charting and the results came back and they were fine, they don't seem to listen and just look at you blankley. I hate it I might just refuse to leave until something is done. Good luck tomorrow let em know how you get on x

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rahrah1 · 20/03/2007 13:44

Totally understand that feeling... I have my next appointment in June with my fertility consultant, we had lots of tests, some concerning why we lost the pregnancy and they will not even tell us that they have had the results back and what the results show. I had them done in Jan! I have been told to wait until my next appointment which was originally in July, but they pulled it forward for me as I was getting pee'd off... Then low and behold a bout a week ago I got recalled for some more tests as some of my originally tests could not be analysised! It is just crap that this is way you are treated when you are already feeling so isolated and down.
In my next appointment I am going to insist on seeing a plan for my treatment... If he won't help I am going for a second opinion.. I am even thinking about going to a private clinic to see if money will make any difference. These people really just don't understand... which is such a shame!

lissielou · 20/03/2007 13:51

ive got a list of qs from mners that im using tomorrow that you can both use if you like!

pirategirl · 20/03/2007 13:52

HI just wanted to say a feel for you, as we tried for 3 yrs, and I went thru so many many emotions.

One thing I know now is that it happened at the right time for us, given the gift of hindsight. It happened naturally. The times when i most wanted it to happen werent good, and i even came to the conclusion that maybe I just wasnt ever going to get pg.

My dd was a shock conception, and the one thing I remember was that I was having sex too soon b4 the ovulation, the ovulation I had worked out, it was actually a little later based on my 31 day cycle.

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 14:00

Hi lissielou can you send me the questions that would be great because its like a needle in a hay stack and you always feel really rushed when you in with the GP.. I want to know exactly where I stand because I have been in touch with a speiclist at Bupa finding out whether he would see me without being referred by my GP and he advised that he definitely would on the basis that I had an Ep and lost a tube and also a MC... I want to almost shock the GP but when I've tried that approach before I feel liek they think I am a silly little girl!

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lissielou · 20/03/2007 14:04

after my 3rd mc i was told that they would refer me if i had 1 more, but i was quite aggressive and told them that id wanted 4 children and 3 of them had died... oddly enough i was rushed an appt thru then

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bluebell82 · 20/03/2007 14:08

I might do that- my dh can be quite assertive and he doesn't like to see me so upset- he was mortified yesterday as I came home from food shopping in floods of tears because there was a woman I used to work with with in the super market and she had just had twins... after saying hello I cried through the whole of the checkout queue. I just feel like a failure and that no one wants to help me

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rahrah1 · 20/03/2007 14:44

It's just horrible feeling like that!! I hope you can find someone that will help. XX

FC2007 · 20/03/2007 16:50

blubell
have I got this right. It is your GP that is refusing to take this any further and won't refer you? if this is the case I would definately change doctor!!!

Or is it that the fertility clinic has said that they can't fit you in before then?

lissielou · 20/03/2007 17:27

blubell, you can cat me any time

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