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Conception

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Struggling to concieve no 2

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Soulcakequack · 02/04/2017 18:32

Hi starting trying for a second child over a year ago. So far I've had an early miscarriage and an eptopic. Finding it quite a lonely process anyone in a similar boat fancy keeping me company?

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sureitsgrand · 02/04/2017 19:13

Hi, I'm the same. Been trying for a year now, had a mmc in August. Sometimes it gets me down. But trying to be positive!

sureitsgrand · 02/04/2017 19:13

Hi, I'm the same. Been trying for a year now, had a mmc in August. Sometimes it gets me down. But trying to be positive!

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Soulcakequack · 02/04/2017 20:20

Hi Sure please to meet you but sorry your going through hard times too.

I'm generally fairly positive and I'm very lucky to have my lovely preschooler. I do find it hard though life isn't what we'd hoped. I worry about my little missing out on a sibling and feel sad that the friends I made when he was little have drifted as those families grow. But mainly I ache for the space in my family.

I'm right between my 2 due dates and I'm sure I'll feel better once these have passed.

I know how lucky I am to have a child falling pregnant and staying pregnant last time wasn't easy either. And for me that was a hundred times harder. I think done of the loneliness is due to feel guilty for being sad about not falling with a second child.

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UnbornMortificado · 02/04/2017 20:23

I know it's a massive cliche but I only fell pregnant when I stopped trying.

It took me two years with one miscarriage whereas I conceived my DD's within 2 months each.

Good luck the trying and disappointments can be soul destroying

feelingold101 · 04/04/2017 14:32

Hiya! Same boat here I'm afraid, I've been trying since Jan last year and have had one miscarriage in September.
I feel exactly the same as you do, as time is ticking by I can't help but think how big this age gap will be when hopefully I do fall pregnant. It's very lonely and I feel sad that I can't seem to do it.

Mummy081212 · 04/04/2017 14:51

Hey - also TTC number 2. I have an amazing little boy who starts school in September. I've had 2 sets of blood tests which have determined hormone cycle is changing which is great news. Also have a scan booked in for the end of April on pelvic area and waiting for results of husband's tests. I'm trying to stay as positive as possible, eating right & exercising. I am using OPKs but I have very long cycles (last one was 42 days) and long periods (11-12 days) so is tough. It's affected my mental health but I'm doing much better this month. Today is cycle day 15 and I've not seen any signs of ovulation yet although the line on OPK is getting slightly darker.

Fingers crossed for all of you xx

Writerwannabe83 · 04/04/2017 16:06

It's really hard.

I had conceived DS on my first month of trying so I had assumed trying for baby number 2 would be just as easy. It took 11 cycles though until I fell pregnant and with each month they passed I was finding it so hard. I too was desperate to give my son a sibling and I was so disappointed when it hurt didn't seem to be happening. My husband was also quite deflated every month too.

It turned out there may have been a reason for my struggles (still BF'ing my first) as when I stopped that's when I fell pregnant, but I just wanted to offer you a hand hold and some sympathy because it's really shitty when you want to get pregnant and it just doesn't seem to happening.

feelingold101 · 04/04/2017 19:57

I also fell pregnant on my first cycle with my first DD and that makes this even harder for me.
I went to my doctor to ask about scans or blood tests etc but they told me that in this borough they will only do that from 18months after my MC as I have proven I can get pregnant and carry a child full term (with DD)

Writerwannabe83 · 04/04/2017 22:25

feelingold - are you much older now than when you were trying for your first baby?

I was 29 when I fell pregnant first cycle with DS and 33 when trying for DC2 and it taking 11 months. I know 33 isn't exactly old but I did wonder if the fact I was older was also playing a part.

feelingold101 · 04/04/2017 22:51

My DD is 4 and a half and I'm now 28 so I'm not sure it's that for me. I am 2 and a half stone heavier but I'm not sure that's enough weight to actually effect fertility, my doctor didn't seem to think it was.

FozBoz · 05/04/2017 06:41

I came on to tell you you're not alone. Everyone above plus me.

Conceived DS1 easily 7 years ago. Second time round it's so much harder. One MMC amd two CP later and we still don't have our second baby.

I think outwardly it's worth remaining positive but it's also ok to sometimes feel upset/frustrated/lonely.

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Soulcakequack · 05/04/2017 14:32

Hi ladies sorry to see we're all in the same boat but nice to have someone who understands to chat to.

Today was the start of my period so another failed cycle. Plus my little boys preschool are worried about him and want to have him assessed by an inclusion officer. I just want to cry.

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ScarletSienna · 05/04/2017 14:35

Me. First pregnancy started in first cycle of trying but this time I've only had one period and I'm guessed breastfeeding is stopping everything.

feelingold101 · 05/04/2017 17:03

Soulcakequack sorry to hear that! I haven't yet come on my period but I can feel the cramps starting so I hold out no hope!

Metalhead · 05/04/2017 20:28

Hi, I just came on here to say I know exactly how you feel, and to give you all some hope. I was on a long-running thread here a little while ago that had a very similar title, and I'm happy to say that almost all of the ladies on that thread eventually succeeded in getting baby #2, including myself. Lots of us had to wait 1-2 years, lots of us had one or more mc along the way, but don't give up hope! Good luck to you all

Wibblewobble100 · 05/04/2017 21:06

Me too. No1 was conceived easily, for number two we are 16 months and 3 miscarriages in...

ScarletSienna · 05/04/2017 23:11

Thanks, Metal

feelingold101 · 06/04/2017 06:33

Metalhead that really does cheer me up!!

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Soulcakequack · 06/04/2017 14:57

It 18 months with my first child and one misscarriage. Mentally being at the same piont but with two miscarriages feels shitty. I worry the clock is ticking as im 37 soon.

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Itsjustaphase84 · 06/04/2017 16:46

Metal thank you for that.

SayenRose · 06/04/2017 18:20

Hi everyone,
Trying to conceive #3 for coming up to a year now.
Conceived #1 & #2 easily 11 & 6 years ago but this was with an ex.

This would be my husband's first child and we've recently discovered we have male factor infertility we've been referred for more investigations and are potentially faced with IVF.
Still ttc naturally but have stopped tracking now to avoid heartache.

feelingold101 · 10/05/2017 17:09

I just wanted to give everyone abit of hope, I found out today that I'm finally pregnant. It WILL happen for you all!!

curliegirlie · 10/05/2017 17:25

Congratulations feeling old! I'm only 7 months in (on cycle 8) ttc#2 but am feeling it very trying. I've been off the mini pill (which I was only on for a few weeks) since my DD was 4 months old, but my periods only returned in September, when she was 13 months. It took 16 months to conceive her, but for much of that time I had undiagnosed hypothyroidism, which is now under control, so I suppose I hoped this time would be quicker. In the meantime, 3 of my NCT gang are now pregnant and I'm desperate to join them!

boatrace30 · 10/05/2017 19:50

Hi everyone. I'm ten months in and cycle 7 just ended with AF arriving today.
I have pcos historically and have discovered this time that I have a short luteal phase and I suspect, low progesterone.
I expected it to be tough with no.1 and got pregnant five months in. Expected it to be a bit easier this time but not proving to be.

Mummy081212 · 10/05/2017 20:21

Can someone explain luteal phase to me please? x

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