Getting Ready For Baby Challenge Thread 5

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The fastest moving TTC thread where we are all trying to get ourselves ready for our bundles of joys. Come and join the madness.

HB that's exactly what DP thinks! We "knew" she was a girl really really early, and this time DP thinks it's a boy, I'm leaning that way too! Babybond have a little calendar where you can check the dates for different scans, according to my DD we can find out on the 18th June

orange So sorry to hear about your family friend. Totally understand that you’re not sure whether you would like to test but maybe decide on the day itself and what you feel emotionally you can cope with. I’m going to test on the 14th I think. It’s really hard not to symptom spot, but we’re entering possible implantation territory I think in terms of DPO so some of the symptom spotting may be harder to ignore! (hopefully!)

glitters that’s such good news, so pleased he’s bounced back! Wonderful. Thank you for the good luck vibes :)

parnsips fingers crossed it is something significant. Are you testing again tomorrow?

Lovely day out with my mum.. lots of pregnancy chat. I’m definitely going to tell my parents in the early stages when I get my BFP as their support will be invaluable. Can’t wait to tell family members full stop!

Sounds like a lovely day Jupiter I'd also want to tell my family straight away when it's my turn, but DH thinks it's better to wait... what's everyone else's thoughts on this?

Hi ladies (and men, in case we have lurkers haha)

I haven't checked in in a few days - as I'm not on the same starting block as you girls I don't really feel like I have much exciting to say or no periods to monitor :/ But it's nice to read what you're all saying.

confused we've just moved house, completely unplanned, and already had a holiday booked! So we've had to put some house stuff and a holiday on card and that makes me feel uneasy! It's a fair bit too and a can guarantee it's probably more than you have! But my mum keeps telling me as long as it is interest free pay the minimum and just keep saving the money you would pay off into a savings account for now, then pay it off in one go. Also, my mum's motto is 'we're here for a good time, not a long time' and keeps telling me credit cards will be ok... I'm also a worrier. I worry about everything, money, work (I'm convinced at the moment I'm terrible).

Jupiter I also work in the NHS but didn't realise they could do that? I have to have been there a year before I am entitled to the extra mat pay so trying to time everything around that!

Penguin Depending on the route we go down, I would probably tell my parents. If we go naturally+CSV I will tell them as I will need their support depending on the result. If we do the IVF+PGD I will also tell them as will need their support through the meds! But nobody else as both could be so uncertain and I wouldn't want to explain either to just anyone. However, I did read recently on a group about a girl who had a miscarriage at around 6 weeks, just after telling her parents. She wished she had told more people as when she lost the baby people just didn't understand why she was sad. If people knew she could have just told them and gleamed their support.

What is this Ovia?

Hi cocktails, my understanding is that in the NHS they can move you anywhere as long as it's the same agenda for change banding and the job descriptions hits 80% of your current job description (if that makes sense?) Other than that the NHS maternity arrangements are excellent and worth getting your year in so you can get your extra mat pay :) Always lovely to read your updates even if you aren't frantically symptom spotting etc yet. It's all a journey and really interested to hear about yours.

Ovia is an app that tracks your cycles and symptoms. She comes out will all manner of slightly irritating facts. Oh and if you ever even whisper than you are feeling bloated she will have you booked in with the midwife.

Penguin yes, will definitely tell my parents but not DHs until the first scan. We've decided this after discussion - he's much less close to his family and they wouldn't offer the kind of support we would need should I miscarry or something dreadful.

Oh god cocktails can you imagine if a man stumbled across these threads!! Probably best that they're in the dark about most of TTC & just step up when needed! 😉

It's such a dilemma about telling people penguin I think ideally I would wait 8 weeks to tell anyone (longer for work/public!!) but folk are defo on baby watch & if I don't drink more than once we'd be busted! If by some miracle we fall this month we'd find out about a week before a big family trip to Italy... AKA land of prosecco... So that would be a very tricky one!! I was randomly thinking could I buy some fake antibiotics online??? But my sister's boyf is a Doctor, so again might be busted!! The crazy things TTC leads to...!

Oh go down I am so tired. Shitty day at work, I had to beg someone to stay late so I could have my break at 6pm 😑 I didn't get a break on Sunday and couldn't face it again. I could sleep for a week, unfortunately DS will be awake at 6.30am tomorrow.
No real ovulation symptoms and it would normally be due tomorrow.. god knows what's gone on this month. Should have continued temping this cycle!!!

I hate predictive text.. I meant 'oh good god' not 'oh go down' 🤔

Oh no Mummy you need to make sure you have some sort of break! I know it must be hard being a midwife as you are in demand so breaks must be short but your health is important too!

Hmmm HB thats a hard one!... is there any way you could say you are TTC and in the TWW so feel it inappropriate to drink and then leave it at that or are you better off just spilling the beans?

Cocktails Ovia is a necessary evil if you want to track your cycles... however she will one day tell you that sore boobs are deffo a bfp and the next day she is your totally geared up for AF! Its so annoying and an emotional rollercoaster with her! Also thanks for your reassurance its nice to hear about other peoples debt (it makes you feel more normal!) i actually have a £7K baby fund to bridge the gap between mat and normal pay i could use it to pay the debt but then what do we do if something goes wrong... we'll only borrow again and be in as bad if not worse position with a baby and no savings!

We got forced to tell immediate family because of hospital trips etc but its the best thing we have done... we have really leant on them emotionally and no one is asking questions that could upset or dancing around the elephant in the room etc etc

Orange I am so sorry for your loss hun

Jupiter I had a classic Ovia comment yesterday... apparently if you're lactose intolerant you should avoid dairy... erm, thanks! (I'm not, so...)

Hb have you been drinking around family recently? I've given up alcohol for lent... might be too late to start it now though!

We told parents and one close friend at 7 weeks. It felt like the right time for us, as it felt like I was lying before then. I don't think there's a wrong choice though!

Hey ladies I am feeling the money pressure too - DH is considering becoming SAHD to support my career but just still feel really down at the judgemental baby questions from my boss's boss (my actual manager is super nice and right on, I told him the questioning was making me uncomfortable and he was very shocked i had been asked).

On the positive side CD3 and period very light now, exactly like last month - day 1 excruciating pain and heavy, day 2 medium flow, today almost nothing. I swear AF is a lot shorter & lighter these days than I remember pre pill - think possibly mooncup makes you think there is less flow as it doesn't fill up as fast as a pad or tampon.

Sorry mummy that sounds super tiring. for you, hope you get some good rest tonight!

Do you rate mooncups grumpy ? Have read quite a bit about them on here & they've intrigued me?

Dancing I wish i'd just given up alcohol for lent (did fizzy drinks instead)... my birthday was at the weekend so wanted one last knees up before we kick off!! I can't believe how things are speeding along for you!! (I bet it doesn't feel like it your end tho )

I was about to buy a mooncup too! Will do after all this has finished I think. I've read some really positive things.

Hb I have one friend who's doing the last consecutive 40 days as her 'lent' rather than skipping the Sundays. Might be pushing it a bit too far though! Hope you can decide on a plan and that you need to put it into use!

Grumpy is your dh excited about being a sahd? I think it may end up being an option here... I don't know if oh would like the idea though! (He'd be amazing, I'm sure!!)

I think I'll cross the bridge once i get to it & not get too ahead of myself!!

confused we don't even have savings! It all goes on holidays. I'm feeling a bit bad now and worried 😕

Ah jupiter I never realised they could move you. Although I think they would struggle to find anything on 80% with same job description!

CD14 today but I don't know when I ovulated. I had pelvic twinges on CD10 similar to ovulation and got a positive OPK on CD11 & 12 meaning I should ovulate 12-36hrs afterwards. I didn't have any pain indicating OV as I usually do, and usually I OV on CD14. I got a very negative OPK on CD13. Very confused and don't know when to start my TWW 🤔

Morning ladies, have a manic couple of days with work and workmen in and out of my house! Think first AF made an appearance through the middle of the night so my poor white and pink pj bottoms are currently in soak! 😪 if it was my proper AF since coming off the pill that puts my first cycle on a 24 day one. I've got a pad in just in case 🤞🏼

Hey guys,

Sorry to hear your cycle is messing you round mummy...You'll just have to keep humping throughout xx

We have little savings too but DH will be sahd which is lovely. I'll be back to work after a term. I think that's all I be able to afford to take off.

CD7 and absolutely knackered after not getting home until 10 last night. But diet going well and nothing else to report!
Other than one of my schools saying they want double the amount of time next year which is fab cos I love it and it will mean more money!! Wheeee

The red tide of doom got me.

Had another negative this morning and all clear on the knicker front then felt the tell tale cramping during a meeting and whaddya know, sure it's me old AF over for a visit!

Ah well.

That's us out of trying until April or so as we have lots of visitors with us until then. Suppose it would be hard to hide an early preg while people are staying with us so it's probably for the best.

Pub quiz tonight so wine o'clock for me

Sorry to hear that Parsnips. Enjoy thein March xx

Join the red club parsnips so much fun..NOT!! 😔 I should've known like you because I had mild twinges last night whilst I was eating dinner but just ruled it out because AF wasn't due til Sunday. Enjoy your glass of wine or two tonight..don't let it get you down. Gradually approaching April so that will be your month girl!!!

Sorry for AF parsnips! Hope you enjoy the wine and are not too disappointed.

Hope it's not too painful Laura and you save your pjs! Hate unexpected AF!!!

Congrats on the double time seven!

Morning all. Thank you for your lovely comments I do love our thread and all you brilliant supportive lot

parsnips oh no - so sorry Aunt Bitch turned up. I am starting to hate her! Enjoy tonight though

mummy maybe just a couple more days' humping to make sure you catch it?

I am definitely starting to symptom spot woke up with the tiniest twinge in the pelvic area in the night and thought 'implantation???' obv likely not, but I think I've just never listened so hard to my body! Amusing times in the Orange household this morning - Mr Orange is singing Kate Bush in the shower right now, haha!

Oh rubbish parsnips 😭 although you have some small silver linings... hope you win the quiz to makE up for AF!

Great for the work success seven Is a term three months? That sounds short but I'm thinking I'll be similar Are you self employed?