Is it super vain to try to plan your due date?

[OnNaturesCourse]

For example my partner and i plan on taking a break from TTC so we dont have a due date over xmas/new year. Had mixed reactions to this decision. 😕 We know we cant control it completely, and the months we miss might have been lucky for our TTC journey.. But i know loads of people born in that 3-4 week period in Dec/Jan and everyone hates it. Anyone else try to plan things like this?

People avoid August so that their kids won't be the youngest in the year at school.

I would have preferred not to have a December baby, but actually it really doesn't matter. Having miscarried my prospective July baby just before Christmas, I can honestly say that you won't give a flying fuck when they are born, as long as they arrive safe and sound.

It's completely up to you and no business of anyone else apart from you and your OH. I'd second what the PP has said though - it's not like ordering a takeaway. When I got pregnant the second time, I thought I'd got just about the (in my mind) perfect due date. Three mcs and 2.5 years later, I was very grateful to have an early Jan due date - which ended up being an early Dec baby as he was early! So, I'm very grateful but do still think that early Dec is a rubbish time for a birthday!

Vain is the wrong word. It suggests you are very confident that you will be one of the lucky ones who conceives to schedule though! Even if you're lucky with conception dates, you don't know exactly when your baby will be born. My DD was due in December but born in October!

By all means if i fall unexpected or baby is early/late I really dont mind a Dec birthday, but id like to loosely plan outside of it. Being PG over the festive period doesnt bother me at all.

It's a weird one. People might not like having their birthdays in December/January, but that fact is that if their parents had conceived in a different month, they wouldn't actually exist at all!

You're not delaying your baby by TTC a bit later, you're basically going to conceive a different baby. Which is fine. But most people would prefer to exist and have a Dec/Jan birthday than never have been born.

My DH is a teacher and ideally wouldn't have wanted an August baby but as is Sod's Law I caught pregnant in December and baby is due end of August

It has taken 10 months of trying though, including one miscarriage, so we were just incredibly thankful that it eventually happened.

Watching this thread with interest as previously I thought similar (missing out ttc in March to avoid Christmas baby). I would have loved a spring/summer baby but after ttc for 5 months with 3 chemical pregnancies we're now into winter due dates again! The longer we've tried though makes me realise how much I want another baby & I don't mind when it is. I have 2 DS Feb & Oct birthdays x

I only came off BC in dec so im not far into the journey. Appreciate it may be different if id been trying longer xx

I think it's up to you and your personal circumstances. Nothing to do with anyone else.

I've suffered miscarriages and taken me a long time to conceive so I wasn't bothered by the end I was just grateful for a baby each time we've ttc. But each to their own.

Your friends are misusing the word "vain".

It's entirely personal choice and no one else's business.

Our children were born at an inconvenient time of year but it had taken so long to conceive them that we didn't care in the least by that point.

I talked about TTC with my friends and family especially after it took us such a long time THEN when trying again we had 3 MCs so again helped me to talk about our journey and things like 'prob not pregnant this month as dh was ill...' so essentially 'we didnMt have sex last weekend' but these are my friends and it makes me feel better. Each to their own.

RE timing the babies, i wouldn't because of what we went through (and I knew a couple of friends who'd been through worse) but also no-one would say anything is you said you were putting it off until you had a house, secure job... it's up to you what you think is important especially at the early part of your journey.

BTW I have a march baby and one due in august but am in Scotland so don't think august birthday matters here ????

Good luck whatever you decide x

I dont see why i shouldnt, not like im telling every time n every detail of sex. I just have a tight support group

Absolutely no reason why you shouldn't, I just said I find it weird. And I'm glad I didn't as DD1 took a very long time to conceive. I talked to DH about it and that was enough for me!

All the August babies should move to Scotland, then they'd be boring old middle of the year

Cut off here is end of Feb

Waving back at you m33r as I recognise you too!!!

writerwannabe83 on the topic of dads who are teachers, a summer baby worked great for us. We had a July baby and DH was home on full pay for the first six weeks. I went back to work at the beginning of his summer holidays the following year which meant LO didn't need to start nursery until I was already settled back into work. Hope it works out well for you too!

I slightly planned my second pregnancy. DH is a school teacher and wanted to avoid August. I was heavily pregnant at Christmas with DC1 and was uncomfortable and miserable. I also didn't particularly want morning sickness at Christmas either. Aimed for September. Hit jackpot first time with an end of September due date. Ended up having twins early, and just into September.

If it had taken longer to conceive though, I don't think I'd have cared when they came along.

I have a December birthday and love it. DD has a December birthday and I'll be delighted if the next one does too. We'd probably try and avoid July / August though.

I only ovulate once a year (period on my bloody bday can you believe it!?!) So my children are born in march....not ideal as I had to host my 2 year olds bday with a four day old ! No more lol x

What an odd thread!
I'm in Scotland. Cut off 28/2 for school. Daughter now 24 has a January birthday. Has never crossed my mind that as she was one of the youngest it would be/ should be off concern.
What am I missing?

Hmm.. I think I'd try to avoid having a baby in June/July and December. So I don't see an issue, I think it's being very organized.

We were TTC for three years. In the end my due date was 26 December and he was born on 2 Jan. Couldn't care less that he's got a crap birthday after trying for so long. Don't know how much longer it might have been if we'd stopped trying for that fortnight so he didn't have a festive birthday. It'll sometimes be a bank holiday for him though so not all bad.

My due date was planned to precision so I can miss as little of the hunting season as possible. It's vain as hell - but I have six amazing horses and I'd rather shit in my hand and clap than let my husband have all the fun whilst I'm knocked up and ground bound!

If you told me your plans IRL you'd get a weird reaction too. It's one thing knowing a couple would like to try for a baby, but it's another thing altogether knowing that they will or won't be having unprotected sex in certain months. That's waaaayyyyy to much information. To each their own, but I fear you might be oversharing.

How could that be vain? Convenient maybe, not vain.