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Don't know what I expect anyone to say or do but just need to put this in words for my own sanity!

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 13:59

Please forgive me if this is a ramble but I've got so much stuff going round my head at the moment I just needed to spill it out somewhere.
DH and I have been ttc no.2 since January and to be honest I wasn't expecting it to happen soon, was expecting it to take a few cycles. Long story short, did a pregnancy test yesterday and got a faint positive line, but been having cramps for some time and spots of blood. AF is around 4 days late. I've had flu for a week and have taken all manner of cold medications that say you shouldn't take them if pregnant, plus Dd has chicken pox (isn't this harmful in early pregnancy?). Now I'm quite resigned to the fact that, if I was pregnant, then I'm probably likely to miscarry but what's bugging me is the fact my body won't make up it's mind! If AF is going to start I just wish it would I feel like I'm hanging in the balance. Don't want to do another test incase it confirms and says not preganant, even though I'd be surprised if I still was, does that make any sense?! Sorry - end of spouting

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scorpio1 · 15/02/2007 14:07

its fine to have a good rant

a line is a line.maybe you should do another just to know what is going on?there a few posts on here lately from others that have had spotting too,maybe have a chat with them?im sorry i dont have any experience of that.

maybe do a test and then ring your GP ref chicken pox and cramping?

hope you are OK

MrsMcJnr · 15/02/2007 15:01

Hi Milly, sounds like you are in shock a bit because it happened so soon for you. As Scorpio says, a line is a line and rarely wrong. As I?m sure you know, spotting and cramps don?t spell the end. I think you should see your GP to get peace of mind. Hope you feel much better about everything soon.

I?m 6+4 weeks and I had spotting the whole week before my AF was due. I also had some spotting yesterday and my MW says that it is common though I am being referred for an early scan next week and am hoping and praying all is ok. There have been a lot of people with spotting (and much more than that) and cramping recently and it?s been mixed as to those whose babies were ok and those who weren?t.

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 15:06

Thank you ladies, I'm pretty naive about all things pregnancy related I'm afraid. With dd I took the approach of burying my head in the sand for nine months. I thought bleeding and cramps spelt the end, will do another test tomorrow and see. Have booked doctors appointment but they can't fit me in till Tuesday so suppose I'll just have to wait and see. MrsMcJnr I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, it's great they're giviing you an early scan.

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TotalDream · 15/02/2007 15:17

Hello

When i found out i was pregnant my dr said i 'could' go to the hospital for a preg test (as you get the ans there and then) because of the treatment i had just finished. I was being treated for Endometriosis and the treatment could have really harmed the bubs.

He didnt send me - but when i was there i said my dr had told me to come to the A & E for a test because of the above & i have epilepsy. (they dont check)

Might be worth booking an appt with your dr and ask to go to the hospital.

Or just go to A & E and say the dr sent you because ....say all of what you've told us. make sure you say about the Chicken Pox also. Should work

MrsMcJnr · 15/02/2007 15:20

Hope that makes you feel better Milly though be prepared to be sent away for a few weeks but at least the GP can advise you on the impact of the medications (if any and doubt there will be) and the chicken pox.

Thanks for wishing me well. DH and I are desperate for this baby to be ok, it's our first and we tried for 8 months for her/him. At the end of the day though nature decides what's right and what's not and I truly believe in that. I do feel quite positive today, might just be my nature but I know that babies are quite hardy really

Maybe see you on the due in October thread soon?

TotalDream · 15/02/2007 15:24

Sorry me again

I would call your dr back and say you need to see a dr either today or tomorrow because of the following ..."your sure your pregnant and are having cramps and bleeding & DD has chicken pox, Tuesday is to far away."

If they still say no then call back as soon as the drs open tomorrow morn and say the same.

All drs have emergancy appts for each day, norm at the end of am & the end of pm. Trust me.

Hope you are fine and it all works out

MrsMcJnr · 15/02/2007 15:31

Or you could see if your local hospital has an EPU?

funnypeculiar · 15/02/2007 15:42

I had spotting with both my pregancy - and really bad cramps with the first one ... kids now 3 & 10 mths! Apparently about 1/3 of women have some bleeding in pregnancy.
The doc probably won't be able to do anything hugely helpful other than refer you to the EPU ... and you can self-refer to that (or if you want to look more official - ring NHS Direct -t they're really lovely & sympathetic I found - rang them everytime I bled pretty much in my first pregnancy (& I bled about twice a week most of the time!)

I wouldn't wait til Tues - you'll just be worrying - if you want to see the doc first, ring the receptions and stamp/cry/explain the situation as appropriate!!

I think there is a very very very vague chace of complications if YOU have chickenpox in early pregnancy ... but dd having it shouldn't affect, I don't think. My best mate had the pox when 7 weeks preg, and her babe was absolutely fine.

good luck

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 15:42

I hadn't thought of any of those things - see I really am useless at pregnancy . I will ring dr's tomorrow for emergency appointment (they normally say come at 5 and be prepared to sit around!) Dd has appointment tonight so I know there were none left today. Isn't it awful when you just daren't hope ? I hadn't expected it this soon so am still burying my head aren't I?! At least you ladies are there to speak sense to me! Thank you so much
MrsMcJnr - I'm with you on what will be will be, I'll be keeping an eye out on the october thread for you, even if I can't join you!

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 15:49

funnypeculiar, that is really reassuring, thank-you . So pleased that both your pregnancies turned into smiley little ones. Happy stories like this keep me going!

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 15:50

Just a thought, incase I am / ever was / continue to be / whatever (!) pregnant, does anyone know of any flu / sore throat stuff it's ok to take? Everything I see has 'consult your doctor' emblazoned all over it.

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MrsMcJnr · 15/02/2007 16:03

Funnypeculiar - you've made me feel much better too, thank you

Milly - I wouldn't take anything if I were you.

FurryFox · 15/02/2007 16:05

Don't know of any specific flu stuff you can take but paractemol might help and is safe during pg - hope you feel better soon and good luck

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 16:29

Thank you Furryfox - disolvable paracetamol is one of the few things that will touch my throat when it gets as sore as this. Weighing up the options. . . .Think I'll do a pg test tomorrow am and if negative I'll take the paracetamol -that way, in my addled mind, I'm safe both ways!!

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funnypeculiar · 15/02/2007 16:48

paracetamol, hot lemon & honey ... think that's about it, I'm afraid .... think lulumam posted that anything with a decongestant (eben olbas oil is not recommended as it may effect some pregnant mucusy thing, or something (wasn' paying much attention, sorry, but if you check old threads in health/pregnancy you'll find it
Let us know how tommorrow's test goes

funnypeculiar · 15/02/2007 16:50

Sorry MrsMcJnr - didn't mean to ignore you - hope all goes well at the EPU scan too ...fingers and toes crossed for you both

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 16:59

Thank you! You lot really are life savers! I'm sending Dh off to Sainsburys as we speak (poor man is run off his feet with two of us ill!). Now I just have to foster positive feelings and maybe this could be a happy ending. . . .

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honeyapple · 15/02/2007 17:07

you have to watch out with honey actually when PG. Something about listeria? or some other bacteria? Someone google it for me!

honeyapple · 15/02/2007 17:15

Dont worry dont panic- it's ok- I got it wrong- dont give honey to babies under 1 though. Botulism apparently...

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MillyM · 15/02/2007 17:29

Oh my god! I sometimes wonder how Dd has survived! I'm sure some recipie or other told me to put honey in it when she was about 10 months . Phew on the honey ok for me though, am strangely (and sadly) looking forward to a hot honey drink!!

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MillyM · 16/02/2007 09:16

Ok..... for any one out there, I've done another test and it's definitely positive. It is only one of those cheap ebay type ones though, does that still count?! A bit more blood last night but it's only ever been light pink in colour (sorry for tmi). Blast, do I allow myself to hope then?

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londonlottie · 16/02/2007 09:28

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scorpio1 · 16/02/2007 09:45

YAY!!!

Congratulations!!

keep your chin up

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MillyM · 16/02/2007 09:47

Trying to be positive, really I am, but just been to loo and there's been more 'blood', but not blood iyswim, more like that stuff you get just before AF arrives

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