June Bus anyone?!

[Barefootcontessa84]

Hi all

I thought I'd start the June bus as I'm getting impatient!

I'm 31 (for a bit longer anyway), TTC#1. DH and I agreed to start TTC in May, but won't be ovulating till about the 24th. ETD 8th June! Feeling terrified and excited at the same time.

Join me if you will!

Hi all.
Can I join?
I'm 34
TTC#1
Cycle 10

Just in the middle of fertile time right now so we have been going every other day since last Sunday.
Usually ov on day 18-19 so thinking of doing every day for the next three! (Well nothing else has worked so far!!)
Should be due a test in about 10 days. Fingers crossed...

Welcome newbies
I have a perhaps tmi question. I'm on cd 13 here of a usual 30/31 day cycle so my predicted ovulation date is Friday. I just went to the loo and my cm has gone from none at all to a long string of clearish stuff. Does this mean I'm ovulating now or is it my body gearing up to ovulate in a few days? I haven't got any ovulation tests unfortunately and I haven't been able to do the temp thing as most nights I'm woken up every 3-4 hours so was planning to just monitor mucus. This is the first time I've taken any notice though!

Good news and bad news this month... bad news is that I think I have missed my FW. I have been using different OPK this month (with lines rather than smiley faces) and had a dark line on sat afternoon and the line was much lighter yesterday and today. Unfortunately hubby was away thurs-sun so if I did ovulate sat/ sun I may have missed my chance (DTD last night and will again today in case!) but GOOD NEWS is Sat was CD14 and I have been ovulating day 17/18 in previous months! This time would mean I would have an LP of 10 days rather than 8...so moving in right direction!

Friendly get shagging NOW. That CM is that best type for sex. Is the most fertile and best for sperm surviving.

Most women have about 2 days of it per month.

Hopefully DH will be up for it tonight. We never dtd during the week so he'll know exactly why I want to. I didn't want him to feel any pressure so I hadn't planned to tell him when I was fertile. He started a new job today so maybe I can pretend it's to celebrate that. Hope he's not too tired!

Well after a chat with DH today it transpires he thought I was using the OPKS to prevent pregnancy, not cause one!! He thought I was doing it so we only had sex at 'safe' times...

Oh dear....

Hi Ladies
Can I join on? Me and my husband are TTC 1. This is my first real cycle. I came off the pill (cilest) at the end of March and have just had what I think is my first 'real' AF. Sorry for the tmi but can I ask what anyone else's experiences were of the first proper AF after the pill? Mine happened after around 26 days and just appeared with no warning. Usually I would get crampy and have really tender boobs but this time nothing! It's also been pretty light and nothing like what I remember them being like. Do you think that classes as an AF? I've just bought some opks from Amazon and also wanted to ask your advice on when is best to start checking? Wishing you all lots of luck and hoping to share lots of BFPs on this journey with you X

Oh dear writer,are you both on the same page now?
Friendly Ghost looks like you two have things to be celebrating tonight.

Welcome everyone else and good luck.

DP now on nights for the rest of my FW if it hasn't happened yet then it's not going to :/

mizzis - the brief chat only happened with DH because he popped in to see me at work so we couldn't have a proper chat about it. I've just finished my shift and am about to go home so I guess I will have to talk it out with him. I can't believe this, how can we be thinking such opposite things, a total communication breakdown

Hi Poppydm, I was on cilest too and also have had quite light periods. They've gone back quite regular quite quickly though which I was pleased about. Wishing you luck this month too

Hope your ok writer X

Oh no writer. DH and I had a similar issue a few months ago when after a split condom he said it didn't really matter because it just brought forward what we were planning anyway. I took this to mean that he was ready to start trying and he saw it as a lucky escape when I didn't get pregnant. There were lots of tears when we finally discussed it. I hope you're ok and your DH comes round to your way of thinking soon. At least the idea's in his head now.
I failed to persuade DH to dtd this evening. Despite being exhausted and me trying to persuade him to go to bed early he wanted to stay up and watch game of thrones. I still think I have a couple of days so I'll have to spell it out tomorrow!

Well, he pounced on me and willingly had unprotected sex with me so he can't be too fussed. When things first started getting heated I stopped and said that we should use condoms so as not to risk to pregnancy and he said he was happy to just see what happens and that if a pregnancy occurs then that's fine. It was a very much "What will be, will be" type of attitude.

I don't know if that's an OK attitude to have when it comes to a big life changing event of having a baby but I prefer that to a stance of him not wanting one at all.

So we DTD the day before ovulation and the day after ovulation so it's time to get symptom spotting

Welcome newcomers! I'll update the stats tomorrow.

Hi Sunshine, thanks for your reply. Hopefully it was an AF then. Have you been trying for long? It's strange when you're first off the pill and no clue about your cycles. I'll prob start checking opks soon as this is CD5 if that was an AF and don't want to miss FW. X

Poppydm this is my 5th cycle but I would say the first one didn't really count as weren't properly trying! Yes defo start with opks, I usually use them from cd10 as I ov quite late, they're good for helping you to u first and your cycle X

Can I ask a TMI question?

I hear people talking about their cervix being low and it being a good thing during the FW, does this make having sex more painful?

When we were DTD it was really uncomfortable, it felt like my cervix was being jabbed quite hard and it really hurt at some points to the extent I had to ask DH to stop.

Maybe your Dh is just keeping himself grounded writer mine wouldn't cope with active trying FW, OPKs etc. though he was the one to suggest it was time to start trying again.

butterpuff - that's why I was so confused by his reaction to possible pregnancy yesterday as it had been him who'd wanted to start TTC again straight after my miscarriage whereas I wasn't ready.

A few days ago he passed a comment about being happy with one child but then the next minute he's saying we should put all of DS's clothes in the loft in case we need them again.

I just think he's really conflicted. I get the impression he does want another child but can't bring himself to say it - it took me a good 8 months of regular discussions to get him to agree to TTC for DC2 as prior to that he was adamant he didn't want anymore.

The miscarriage hit him really hard and I do think he's worried about it happening again.

When I do get a BFP (whatever cycle it may be) I think I will keep it from him for quite a while and probably only tell him when I'm about 8 weeks as that's when I would feel in a comfortable stage that an early miscarriage was less likely.

Glad you managed to get DH on board writer. Not sure about the pain but hopefully it means your body was ready to get pregnant. Sounds like you're in with a good shot!
Mine is the same butterpuff. Unfortunately I'm going to have to tell him I'm in my fw because it's completely mid week this cycle and we normally only dtd at weekends. He didn't get my hint last night about coming to bed early with me so I will have to spell it out.

Thanks friendly - although I have just googled about cervical positioning and a low position means the cervix has closed after ovulation there TTC sex last night was pointless.

I thought that once ovulation occurred the egg could survive 24-48 hours but after reading about it it seems the egg can only survive for 12 hours before ovulating.

I had a really sharp pain in my right side on Sunday morning so I'm assuming that was ovulation and now I know about the short life span of the egg I'm now super gutted that we couldn't DTD that night. So all I have to rely on now is the one episode of sex we had the night before ovulation.

With my previous two pregnancies I conceived on cycle 1 but we were having a lot more sex during my FW.

Sounds like we have similar DH writer mine wants then panics then wants. I can imagine he would be even more so if we had suffered a loss as it would really hit him. I hope you get back on the same page.

Interesting about cervix. I wish I had the patience to put all this information into practice! Maybe I will if we don't conceive right away.
I'm off for a sad day. Got to go round to see my lovely nana and tell her her sister has passes away. 😓

Sorry to hear that butterpuff
I think a day before ovulation is the perfect time writer because it gives the sperm time to get to the right place and ready to pounce on the egg when it's released. Fingers crossed it worked and that it's a sticky one.

Oh butterpuff