SQUARE ONE'ers to GRADUATES - Supporting eachother on TTC journey

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Continuing to support eachother as we move into May! Good solid thread with 25% BFPs** in April!! Hoping for more this cycle

May Testing Dates!
Nimisha - 3rd
Footprints - 6th
Jod - 7th
Summerblush - 10th
Physicskate - 13th
Mimi - 16th
Jem - 20th
Tee - 21st
Radders - 22nd
Toast - 25th

Graduates
Parney
Newhair
January

tee / radders ie my testing pals - cramps are good I think! Seen loads of bfps on here from crampy ladies. I don't have any cramps at all yet and I'm like is this bad? Is this good?

Jem I didn't get cramps as I approached AF date with DS, so to me, the absence of cramps is a good sign. I was crampy when I got a BFP in March, but that ended in mc, so I can't help but see it as a negative... although like you've I've heard lots of women who experience the opposite, so who knows! Another topic we can guess about, but really every women and every pregnancy is different. I just feel very AFy, and I didn't with DS x

Hi all, so sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time Mimi. Men really are a different species! Let us know how we can help, here to listen.
Jod and Nim, you're both smashing it at dtd, well done!
Radders, Tee and Jem I'm looking forward to good news this weekend. My cramps were awful all week before BFP that Saturday. Jem did you say you were hot? Major sign for me!
Lots of luck Summer and Physics on your new cycles.
Footprints hope you're keeping as well as you can in this confusing time.
I'm mildly queasy today, sore boobs, tired and hungry. Will be 8 weeks on Saturday but only for the lack of AF and many, many tests I would have written off all my symptoms.
Hoping to see BFPs over the coming weeks!!

Thank you all so much, you are all lovely ladies. Receiving all the 🍫. Just had a good cry and feeling much better but after the hurtful words H said to me ,for the 1st time I'm appreciating that God has a plan for each of us and maybe that's why it has taken a year of ttc with no luck.l love children, but I wouldn't want to have another child with a selfish person. I'm going to take a break but will continue cheering u on(if u don't mind)) until l know just what is right.

A bfp from our thread will surely cheer me up. GOOD LUCK my friends.

Hello Mummy Parney!! So glad all going well, 8 weeks nearly already!! You have put my mind at rest about the cramps, at worst I can write it off as a neutral symptom. I need to get hot again, I keep checking! Sometimes I think I am then other times it seems totally normal. Will ask DH's opinion later in the week, he'll give me a blunt answer!! xx

Hello parney lovely to see you! Very glad to hear all going well. Do you have any exciting scans or appointments booked?

The hot thing - it's only at night but I've been so roasting I've been booting the duvet off. I do get temp fluctuations before AF so I'm not getting my hopes up too much.

Got in this evening and got dinner on - only to be ambushed by DH in the kitchen ! Got an impromptu shag and it's not even fw!

mimi please do stay, I hope things get better, and I'm so sorry your oh is putting you through this. Take care of yourself xx

Jem that's good - it's better when it's not all round the fw.
We had a discussion last night bout how we haven't done it since the fw! We still agreed we couldn't be bothered last night haha I think if you're open about it it makes it better rather than hiding from the fact. Kind of make sure you're both happy.

Mimi I'm sorry he's said hurtful words and I really hope you manage to sort it out so you are happy again. You are being very sensible and really cuffed you're staying around.

Is anyone else (tmi) constipated?...

I took my tempt again tonight and it was at 36.87! So went way up. So now I really don't know. Looking forward to having my ics tomorrow if they turn up.

Mimi I feel so sad reading how you feel. I'm sure things will blow over quicker than you expect and you can both come to an understanding. Men can be hurtful without intending to be, I hope this was the case with your DH, otherwise mumsnet will be round to give him a swift kick where it hurts!
My DH has a very selfish side. Took me years to persuade him to TTC, and 3 years after DS to try again (apparently this will be the last!!) He just hates to sacrifice any part of his 'lifestyle'. Will feel very lucky with 2, but I just love babies and children, so with a different H would happily have 3 or 4 (that's a very naughty thing to say isn't it?!). Having said that I adore my DH, been together since we were 21 and wouldn't swap him for the world, just a shame we aren't exactly on the same page on the babies front... Next I'll be asking for the moon on a stick!!
Radders no constipation over here. Changes in those 'habits' could be a good sign, it's all linked up isn't it!
Jem good on you! My DH always seems to get extra randy just after FW! Typical, but all good fun x

So sorry mimi- really hope you both can sort it out. I have felt like that as my DH has a very different approach to feelings and compassion. He has a very hard shell when it comes to babies and change. Thinks he doesn't need to get involved until they can walk and talk! So we have had lots of arguments. He's very selfish and openly admits it. Not fair at all. We have been arguing over various things and he withdraws from me. I find it so hurtful and frustrating esp when we are ttc. Even if they don't mean hurtful things they say sometimes they can't admit it. I fall on my friends until it blows over. Hopefully u can too. We are here to listen for you to rant. Xx

Totally sending you hugs and flowers. Fingers crossed he will have change of heart and apologise xx

Tempted at times to have the babies and ditch the DH!

Don't get me wrong - he has a good side, but takes me longer than researching on Google and the tww to find it

Can't remember if we asked this but how old is everyone again??

I'm 29 xx

My DH is similar foot in the change thing - he's scared about how much our lives will change. I get it, it is nerve wracking. It's the unknown for us as we have no babies. Yet!

I think they just don't get the same urge and instinct we do to procreate

Radders I'm 32 x

33 years young over here
Had #1DC @ 29 x

I'm 38

Had my first at 30, second at 32.

I remarried as my first husband left me when I just had 2nd baby. He had been in relationship with someone else. So it will be my first with my husband now. That's why I have a 6 yr gap.

CD2511dpo

Wow Footprints sorry to hear you went through that, sounds like a happy ending in the end

Not long until testing territory for me on the off chance AF doesn't show first. Woke up at 4am with AF like cramps. Got a runny nose (not uncommon for me though!) and had a cold sore pop up yesterday. No nipple sensitivity or soreness at all, would have expected that by now if good news I would have thought.
How are my cycle buddies? Jem/Radders either of you planning to test early?

I'm 32 - not getting any younger! DH has taken a LONG time to get his head round this. We have been together nearly 6 years and married for 2. We just bought a house, so I think that was the last excuse he had. I know he does want to be a dad, just a bit scared about giving up freedom and the additional responsibility. Ideally, I want two sprogs.

His boss recently started a new relationship and the new woman is now upduffed. When I gasped that it was quick, DH's response: Well they have been together for almost a year!!! He still is getting an earful for that!

CD26 12 dpo

Temperature was 36.25 this morning so lowered again.
Still not in pre AF territory but still lowering.

Ovia is telling me to test but I have no tests now until my parcel arrives. Hopefully that'll be today but could be tomorrow.

I honestly think I'm out this month. Just a gut feeling really.

Tee are you still waiting to test??

Footprints sounds like you went through if a bit ... Glad to hear it's better now though

Physics - men definitely take longer than women to get their head around if

Cd 18 - 5DPO

Morning all,

Mimi I'm really sorry Things aren't right with H at the minute. I'm sure you can and will sort it out. In the meantime

I am 31. I had my first at 25 and second at 28. Hubby is 8 years older than me.

Tired today. Finding it hard to get out of bed.

Morning ladies
Had a fit when I couldn't open our thread.

Tee just 3 more days to go ((drumming)) it's getting exciting. Radders and sucha ((waving my pom poms for you too)) in a few days we will have more graduates

Footprints, I'm glad you got a new man and hope he gives you that baby .im in my second marriage too after losing 1st dh. Yesterday I remembered what a wonderful man he was compared to this selfish one

I'm 35 by the way

Tee, cramps had me up at all hours before (and a little while after) AF never showed. Helpfully this is a good sign for you too. No appointment dates yet Jem until 12 week date comes in post. Might book a private after 8 weeks. Oh footprints glad to see thinks worked out for you after a tough start. I'm 26, been with DH 10 years , married late last year.

Oh Mimi, very sorry to hear about your loss. The thread had disappeared for me too!

Seems like I'm the only one who had a baby early @19
Jod, thanks for the chocolate and cake. If I could trade my H, I happily would for a much younger stud .he is 45 so maybe old age is making him sour 😂