Thread : Lucky Number 13 take 2. TTC#1 The one where AF can kiss our arse!

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount!

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I am resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star

When you post stats, add your predicted test/af date. We are currently running at about 49% pregnant with the grads thread over in ante-natal which we all hope to join soon.

WE SHALL WIN IN THE GAME OF SPERM MEETS EGG! IT WILL HAPPEN!

Vixarooni I hope I have not missed my chance to say that I will miss you! I am so sorry this cycle was not the one. Take care & God speed.

starky I had a bit of a wobble earlier - suddenly got some kind of stabbing/pulling in my womble which really freaked me out! Now I am on knicker watch! I have the early scan tomorrow... very, very nervous but better to know sooner rather than later - they should be able to tell if ectopic, if developing okay, may see a heart flash.

Suchajem fingers crossed it is implantation... for all my symptom spotting though I did not feel mine.

Confession time: I did start lurking on two grads threads... but this does not feel real yet so am kinda in limbo land as I am not sure I should be hanging out on TTC threads anymore either... but MN is just about the only thing that keeps me sane!!!! okay well maybe that is exaggerating slightly, MN is the only thing that keeps me less cray-cray

No Kwik its not! Thanks for your kind words all of you :)

I'll be back in sure of that, just need to do a bit of a refresh! Must have cried about 15 times today, mourning what might have been but I'm feeling a lot better now. My OH is such an amazing support, he's really pulled me through today and got me smiling again this afternoon.

Just look out for me in that grads group all of you!!

Jem I'm sorry to say I had that in my tww last cycle, without a BFP. Although, my temps rose again around 8dpo so I might have had a brief implantation. Bloody typical ttc answer, isn't it?! No..eh, maybe....eh...dunno!!

Aw ladies I hadn't thought of how glacial things are in the first trimester! I guess that's the downside of getting a BFP so early, rather than only realising one is upduffed weeks after AF date. How meh for you all! Midwife apts and scans sound exciting though -I'm sure it will feel more real after those! You see, we need you guys on here to prepare us for what is to come!! 😉
Aw...just realised im not going to have a baby in 2016! Wow 2017 is soo far away. Hurry up ovaries!!

starky stick around here all you need to. I enjoy hearing about how you're getting on - even realising that a bfp doesn't end the worry.

vix glad you're okay and good on your oh looking after you.

ni nothing less than I'd expect from ttc! It's been happening a while now so I'm mentally cheering it on. Bury down little bean! If you are there at all!

Thanks for all the tips ladies am on CD3 so will start today. Fingers crossed! Just want to try and get a better understanding of my cycle really too.

Kwik please don't leave, I feel like it really helps having grads give advice and support. Especially grads who didn't conceive straight away, makes me realise I am normal! But also appreciate we probably stop being much use to you to help with your worries and questions so makes sense for you to move on to grad threads.

Hugs vix you sound incredibly strong and like you have a wonderful partner. My dp was great when AF arrived this week he gave me the space I needed and then cheered me up when I was ready. I think sometimes we forget that they are probably extremely disappointed too

I am writing on both! Grads and this one ha ha thread slut.

I'm not enjoying this so far which makes me feel terrible, I wish I'd read more about early pregnancy before and would encourage you guys too if you want to. I didn't want to read it in case I got too excited/unrealistic when TTC but I was I had now as its all a bit overwhelming.

Think the mood swings are hitting in now too...

Oops I said starky instead of kwick re sticking around. It applies to all grads anyway!

feef I'm so fixated on the bfp goalposts I can't even think about what happens beyond. What would you recommend reading?

vixarooni glad to hear you are feeling a bit better and see you on grads soon!

Feefs so I have mood swings to look forward to? Joy!

God I am getting so tired of the 2 daily injections... covered in bruises and now it is REALLY hard to find un-painful spots to do the stabbing!

Canters you there? As my "virtual" GP , please can you tell me where else can I inject an intramuscular injection? I have already "used" up upper bum quadrants, both sides, plus upper thigh, both sides.

I'm reading "what to expect when you're expecting" but also more online and listening to the 40 weeks pregnancy podcast. I was the same so focused on bfp wasn't thinking about the p!

Well come on then grads, lay it out for us so we're not bowled over by this.... So far you've mentioned the nausea (poor Miley, hows she doing?!), excessive ear wax, mood swings, bleeding gums, gas, glacial time feel, anxiety about everything to do with pg, gassy explosions, tender boobs. What other joys are in store?!

Haha Ni, that pretty much sums it up for me! Bloating too and being stuck in that awkward place of being too chunky for your normal clothes but not wanting to buy a size bigger or maternity before you're 12 weeks. Confused partners who do the wrong thing all the time because they don't understand your irrational hormones. Having to lie to everyone until you think it's safe to announce it to the world.
The worst part is the 'inbetween' lol. I'm bone tired but I can't sleep. I'm hungry but food turns my stomach. I'm really nauseous but I can't throw up. It's so fun! I was desperate for chocolate yesterday so went out and bought tons of it. By the time I got back, I couldn't even stand the thought of eating a bite of chocolate. It's very frustrating!
(And the earwax thing is still happening by the way! Wasn't a flukey symptom, I'm still gross!)

Morning

Am knackered today after being unable to drag myself away from the Masters last night. What a finish!

Fairly certain I'm 3dpo today. Started the TWW with an hour or so of niggling stabbing sensations for over an hour yesterday. So so crazily hopeful it was something getting comfy.

It's also d day today so I'm feeling sick about that. I'm going to stay where I am. The maternity deal at the new place would make things really hard for us, and negate the pay rise I would be getting.

How's everyone doing? Who's testing soon? Shall we have a go at doing some stats?

jam that sound bizarre! Can't wait to join you guys.

Sad news about your job jem but at least you've made the decision now and you can look forward to your 6 weeks off!!

I don't even want to think about pregnancy and giving birth. TTC is scary enough - one step at a time!! Lol

Frustrating week for me this week, ISW and I'm 200 miles away from DP. Trying to use it as a break and a chance to get healthy and chill out, but two weeks eating and drinking in a hotel isn't helping that really!

Good luck for your scan kwick

Morning ladies. I'm after a bit of advice/reassurance/slap around the face with a wet fish. Briefly, Last month (first of TTC), I had really really sore boobs for nearly 2 weeks before expected AF, then had some spotting and AF arrived 2/3 days early, lasted for 4/5 days (couple of days shorter than normal). I'm now CD12 of next cycle, apparent ovulation day according to Clue, but I've been spotting for the last few days, the soreness in my boobs never went away throughout AF or since, although a bit less tender the last couple of days and (sorry TMI) last night the bleeding was a bit more and there were a couple of small clots and some slight cramps this morning. All of this is really unusual for me and I know could be a hormone blip or just me stressing last month about everything but wondered if it's possible it was a chemical pregnancy? I know its too late to test now but any suggestions would be welcome.

Sorry its so long, and hope it doesn't seem insensitive for anyone who knows they've definitely had a chemical or a miscarriage, I'm just not sure what to do/think.

Hi Flash
before ttc were you on the pill? it can take upto 6 months for cycle to become settled after coming off the pill. I don't really have any ideas or experience (to my knowledge) with chemical pregnancies.

all i can offer is an ear and .

Hi Hep. I was on the pill, came off it in October last year, think this is cycle 7 since coming off. If it wasn't for the boobs and the spotting since AF I don't think I would think anything of the rest of it. And I know it doesn't make any difference, I'm just someone who likes to know definitively (which I realise probably isn't possible.) I was secretly hoping that the sore boobs were growing pains and I was suddenly going to develop mega boobs, but alas, I think that's wishful thinking!

Yeah I agree with jam re just being slightly pudgy but not pudgy enough. I'm a size fourteen anyway tho so I think i just look like I've put on a few pounds. And I also have the extra ear wax!!!

I also wake up every 2 hours during negotiations the night!

hi flash

ok, so you can rule out any lingering pill related hormone issues. its the complete lack of control that is tough isn't it ? symptoms can mean something or nothing.... throw a bug or stress into the mix just for fun ..... I think you will never know why one particular cycle is odd.... (my random 39 day cycle compared to my fairly regular 29 days...).

I know this is easier said than done, but my only advice is to try to take the stress out of it. (And yes... it is far easier to dish out advice than take it yourself )

In a funny way, I am enjoying a stress free tww..... knowing when i ovulated means that i know i am not (99.9999999%) pg. just waiting for AF so i can start the next cycle!

I will warn everyone that psycologically next month will be hard for me.... as it is the last before i clock up another year ...

Also, recent grads - please stay around!

Yes, this month we are not trying as have a lot of house stuff beginning and hubby didn't want the stress of that to overshadow TTC, just a PITA to feel like AF is not really going away.

We'll all be here with much cake for you next cycle Hep. I find tea keeps everything calm but not everyone likes tea, and most people like cake.

Also, loving the nighttime negotiations Feef!

flash I know what you mean about needing to know. I think I might have had a chemical on cycle 2 - I felt different and then got my period really early and felt convinced something was different. It's really hard not knowing and not being able to find out!

From what you've said it sounds likely it was - it seems strange you've got this mid cycle bleeding in particular.

If it is then it's not necessarily a bad thing - it shows things are happening and hopefully means it'll happen again and be able to take better hold.

Take care and better luck next cycle.

Flash is it worth taking opk and pg test just to check what the hormones are doing?

Hi ni! I'm still here lurking away. I'm doing absolutely shit, but please don't look at my pregnancy as normal - it's anything but! I'm into my 9th week of sickness now and nothing seems to help me. I'm not keeping a thing down so I may have to go to hospital again for fluids etc. Into my 2nd trimester now and am still holding out for that pregnancy glow people keep telling me about.

Thanks Jem. After years of contraception you want your body to do all the things you've stopped it doing and it decides to do something different.

Ni444 I definitely considered a pg test but hadn't thought of using an OPK. I think I will buy on the way home tonight, sortof do all I can to get any information. If I'm ovulating it could be ovulation bleeding I suppose?

You poor love Miley! What a lie you were sold! Pregnancy glow...Maybe they meant the sweaty faced glow of the nauseous and regularly vomiting! 9 weeks is such a long slog....I hope you get some relief for the rest of the pregnancy. How are your work being about your sick leave?