Young and ttc

[ThoughtHurricane]

I'm just about to turn 18 and my partner is 32. We're engaged, about to move in together and we're trying for a baby. We both want this. I'm not looking for lectures about how I'm to young instead I'm just looking for general advice? Or anyone in the same boat as me? Thanks x

OP, what does it matter what advice is given to you - you evidently don't want to take it on board as its almost unanimously against what you want to do.

If you were so "mature" you would see how much your, and more importantly, your child's lives would be if you were to wait 5 years.

Right now you appear to be a 17 year old child buying cute baby clothes.

If you're serious about sacrificing everything for the well-being of your child, then make a real sacrifice - sacrifice the idea of having a child until you are in a good position - until you've finished your education, and are in a solid relationship. And by solid relationship I mean you've been living together for some time, and your finances are sorted. A few months while pregnant is not enough.

You could get a doll instead?

Op, I don't know if you're reading, but please put the brakes on for a minute. Stop TTC, if only for 6 months. Look into the reality of pregnancy and parenting- read threads on here. Ask questions. Ask yourself what you really want out of life and who you are. If in 6 months the need is as strong then go ahead, knowing that you thought about it and that you didn't just get carried away by things.

At 18, I thought I knew it all- we all did. I got married at age 20 because I was so sure I was so mature and ready. Everyone told me to wait but I thought they just didn't understand us. Thank God we didn't have a baby, because we divorced three years later. After that I finished university, went on nights out, travelled, read, worked out who I was. I'm now 29, very happily married to a man who I would never have picked at 20, but is so right for me. Now is the time for a baby, not at 18.

My pregnancy was good by most standards, but it was still hard. I needed my husband and I was grateful he understood my behaviour wasn't typical for me. My temper was short, I was unable to even open the fridge without throwing up... Bring pregnant restricted both our lives for the whole 9 months, from what we did to where we went to what we ate.

My baby is now 2 weeks old and I am soooo grateful that my husband is here and that we know each other so well. It's been hard, emotions running high, stressed, tired etc.

Now, I didn't live with my husband until we were married, and we got married quickly too, so I can't comment on that. But I didn't get pregnant for over a year and by the time DD was born we'd been together 3 years, married for just under two. I am very glad it took us a while to TTC, because we got to spend time just the two of us.

I would reiterate... Don't rush. I know the impatience, believe me (TTC took a liking time) but really, knowing DH better is worth the wait.

I have a fabulous DH of 10 years (3 married) and a DD (6 weeks) - all is great in my household, own our house, good careers and yet being a mum is TOUGH! I can't imagine doing this as a teenager. I'd be a desperate mess.