Thread 11 TTC#1. Let the fertile games begin! May the eggs be ever in your favour!

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Symptom spotters, tww - ers, slightly hysterical hormone laden ladies! Regs, lurkers, intermittent posters! Our raison d'etre is 'am I pregnant?'

Thread 11. Welcome one and all!
We do not judge, we enjoy TMI, we i encourage waiting to poas nobody listens and all the grossness you can find from a group of intelligent, articulate ladies.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I have been dubbed the resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

Congratulations first and yey to runner!

to those whose AF are knocking ...

OH has told me that he plans to work from home for a week which should correspond nicely to my fertile time! He normally works away in the week, which obviously doesn't help us.

I am going to take it as a good omen for this month.... though i might also be researching opk strips and ovulation monitors..... any recommendations for a newbie?
I think it might help me to feel a little bit more in control.

cd 7 today ....

Good morning!! My you guys have been busy!! Pages to catch up on!

Congrats First. 💐

Sorry about the bfn Jem...still crossing my fingers for you though. Could you have ovulated late?

CD16 here. O due day 18-21. Negative opks so far. Finally dtd this morning...it's been a bit sparse recently so I'm glad we're getting a chance in. Fx can dtd tomorrow again...weektime is harder work.

Upstairs neighbours were making noise at midnight last night and started again 8am. Any advice on how to deal with it, how to gently but effectively ask them to shush?! I am a right crank when I miss out on sleep...been teary already this morning! Having to trek to do some extra work for previous employer so pissed off I don't get a quiet day lazing at home 😔

Ni4444
how well do you know them? you certainly don't want to stir up trouble. Is it possible to "bump" into the them in the hallway/corridor/street, and just start a friendly conversation ... and add in a "btw"?

I live in a terrace. I can always tell when the neighbour has her bf visiting, their dtd is always quiet vocal! Our walls are quite thick though, so its more funny than irritating for us. I haven't said anything to her! Though i'm glad she is clearly having fun!

Positive OPK today - so I'm NOT completely broken!

Hope your sickness settles miley, although I would gladly take it over another bfn right now.

hep sounds like a very good window of opportunity!

ni that's so frustrating about your neighbours. Perhaps you could pop a polite request note under their door?
Sorry you are having to work too.

I may have ov later than I thought but I'm not very hopeful. It's baffling, I thought I had so many clear symptoms, I feel like I can't trust myself now.

Popped out for a cup of tea earlier and a woman next to me was holding such a sweet maybe 6 month old. I actually starting crying a bit and had to go. Think I'm cracking up. Plus I'm so fed up with DH :( He had a wobbly last night and said he's not sure if he's ready. If it hasn't worked this month then I'm putting it on hold until he gets his act together 😔

Thanks Jem

sorry about your DH. Perhaps the stress is taking the toll on both of you ? I really wasn't sure about how my OH was going to react when i told him I was 6 days late.... and then when i told him it was a false alarm. Is it terrible to admit that i was surprised how good he was? in a supportive way? It is a different stress for our partners, but it is there none-the-less. Just be honest when you are feeling anxious/hormonal/stressed. He doesn't have to understand why you are feeling it, or even how you are feeling it, just that you are feeling it.

Yes I think stress is probably part of it and he is a worrier by nature. I think I've complained before about how indecisive he is. He finds even minor decision making really difficult. The thing is I know what an amazing dad he'll be and how much he will love it. He doesn't deal well with me being hormonal / irrational - despite being together almost 10 years you would think he'd cotton on! I will try and talk to him.

right, have ordered some ov test strips. - gonna make the most of OH working from home!

Sounds like a plan hep! Glad for your positive opk ipatches may the eggs be in your favour.

On the good side of things sucha it's a positive that he shares these emotions with you. I think they're totally normal particularly for a worrier!
But it is somewhat hurtful nonetheless and obviously frustrating for you when you are working so hard for something. DH was kinda of the same for the first 2 months but has come around now.

Can I ask a TMI question?? What do people mean when they say loads of cm? I normally see it when wiping or checking where Hugh is (cervix) but past week or so its always noticeable on my underwear. It's that loads? Symptom spotting

Congratulations first! always lovely to have BFP news!

This thread moves on so fast that it's virtually impossible to catch up once you've missed a few hours!

Fx for you sucha I'm having similar problems with my DP. They're either ready or they're not??? They can't keep changing their minds and messing with our life's! I don't think anyone actually feels ready until it happens anyway. How do you tell you're ready?! Still no DTD action despite my best attempts. A weird variety of excuses, I've tried talking to him but he says there's no problems, still up for trying, but just doesn't feel like it for whatever reason.... Not helpful to me at all as EWCM and positive OPK today! Feels like such a waste!!! Still at least it's a positive that my cycle seems to be bang on track post pill. One plus point at least! This TTC business is fraught with difficulty!

Suchajem hep thanks for the ideas. I've had a brief friendly chat with the girl when we first moved in so im hoping that if I bump into her again I can have a gentle word! The two guys don't speak English...when I tried to say hi to one guy I think he got really shy and embarrassed at his poor English!! Im using ear plugs, but OH is peeved about it too (but thinks the estate agent should sort it....men!!)

ipatches hurray for your positive opk!! Wonderful news!! 😘

Ladies I'm so glad I'm not alone with the OH ttc issues...it puts such a strain on the relationship...more so for the first one I guess? Presuming the fear that you aren't ready/ won't be able to cope will disappear when you have one and are trying for #2 or #3?!!
That's partly why I was so stressed today at the idea of working...I want us to have some quality couple time so we feel close and happy, not just stressed and worried! Cinema date definitely scheduled for tonight anyway. I might book a kettlebells class for us...he loves to work out so maybe if I join him in that we'll have a joint hobby!
Stark as the swimmers are produced in a batch every 3 months I'm still hopeful that you have a chance in the next few months! But whatever helps you to feel relaxed and happy, do more of that! Xx

miley what is the link for the grads thread. Might take a peek

ni I suggest a note if it persists. Just a 'hi it's ni from downstairs. Not sure if you're aware but we've been noticing a lot of noise through the ceiling. Give us a shout if you're moving, we're always happy to help' or something similar. Allude to the fact that they're noisy, but pleasant in that they're probably not moving, so unlikely to ask for help. But then they know you can hear. On a tangent, I once got a note from my upstairs neighbour asking me to be quiet ad they could hear banging and moaning at 2 am and it woke them up. basically, they ould hear shagging Had to pop one back through saying it must have been a ghost dtd in my flat as I was out 7pm till 6am on a night shift. Turned out next door was a young lad who was having a merry old time when his dps were away!

Woohoo patches

hep make the most it it mate!

jem first cycle is always the worst. It's all the stress that goes with it! Plus, men seem to assume that it will always happen on the first go, so when it doesn't they get freaked out, and obviously a bfn/af upsets us, so they get all flustered thinking they can't be doing with the hormones and worry. He'll get over it by the time your next fw rolls round.

Ahahaha Stark that's hysterical!! The young fella next door!! 😂... I wonder how long they'd been listening jealously to "your" sex life for before they sent the note!!

moose I could have written what you wrote, sorry you're going through this too I know how frustrating it is. I was jokingly insistent with him and very very forward eg got into bed naked and got on top of him - he didn't have an awful lot of choice.

feef fx mine will start to get his head around it now we're a couple of months in.

ni I really really hope he's not like this for baby no 2, I haven't got the energy for it! You're right it does affect your relationship. He's at work this weekend and we've barely spoken apart from one long text from me trying to explain how I feel! Very frustrating. The kettlebells class is a great idea hope this goes well.

starky this is cycle 2 for us, he was slightly calmer more on board then the first month but still not great! That's hilarious re your neighbours 😂

It did make me wonder ni especially as I was newly single from an abusive relationship, working 7 nights a week at that point just to get out of the house- and terrified of my own shadow! They knew all this as I couldn't give my old address to the estate agent in case they sent anything there which would give me away to my ex and ended up homeless on my mates couch for a week because I did a midnight flit from my ex and had nowhere to go as they'd ballsed up the key handover! (Upstairs neighbours were the ones who owned the flat, they were my landlords!)

How weird!! They clearly weren't very insightful if they thought it was you then, eh Stark?! Some people...

Another frustrating experience at the Saturday work (keep getting locked out of my work account and they never seem to sort it so lots of wasted journeys to the office for me!). Decided to take myself off for coffee and red velvet cake though... Figured I'd leave the OH to hoovering and cleaning rather than arriving home early! Really enjoyed my little time out! More of that needed! 😀

I know! I did have some big burly lads knocking about so I suppose I can forgive them in some ways. The doormen of the club I worked in were quite protective of me and when they found out about my ex and what he was like they developed a rota where one of them would pick me up and drop me off every shift for the first few weeks.

That's annoying ni but epic result! Cake and the hoovering done!

starky I'm impressed with the detective skills used to track down the actual perpetrator of the noise! Ha, poor lad. Although he was probably over the moon at his bedroom skills! Ha ha
sucha I may try to be a bit more persuasive tonight! We're actually out at a hotel tomorrow night so maybe that will get him in the mood! If not, it's only month 1 I suppose and I wasn't expecting anything to happen this month anyway.... Just annoying the ovulation signs are so bleeding clear and there's no swimmers at all to meet that poor egg! Lol
Red Velvet is my ultimate favourite ni although I went for Jam doughnuts as today's treat! I don't get why work computer systems aren't better run. Such a waste of resources sitting round for days doing nothing while they fix something minute!

Am I the only one hysterically laughing at feef naming her cervix?!

starky your ex sounds like a total c u next Tuesday. I want to beat the shit out of him.

first sorry for the late reply, but I see you found it! I've been too busy being a whiney, sick mess.

Saturday night takeaway is back on so I'm chilling in bed with some ice water and an ice lolly, surprisingly very content. Total spews today = 2 so much better than the past couple of days.

Milo pooch is off to his grandads tomorrow to cheer him up which is perfect for me so I can be a couch potato

So we have weeping tits, micro-penises and Hugh the cervix. love this thread

moose it was less poirot and more that his mrs was a squealer! They woke me up the next morning so I went and knocked on forthright and told him to either gag her or shut the fuck up diplomatic as if just finished a night shift and was in no mood to listen to him grunting and her wailing like a stuck pig while he knocked a hole through the wall with the bed! I told him I'd tell his mum too! His face was a mixture of horrified goldfish and indignant puppy!

miley ex was a complete shit bag! I dread the day Dh runs into him! Hopefully your sickness will wear off soon!

I hope your DH knocks seven shades of shit out of him. I hate abusive people my ex was mentally abusive, very long story short: he was abused as a child by his mum's boyfriend and had depression etc. I felt sorry for him so let him become emotionally abusive and threatening he was never brave enough to raise a hand for fear of my step dad but he used to lock me out of the house if I went out with friend so I'd have to take my car keys so I could sleep in there, would throw my things around/at me and break them, and lots more. I never thought of it as abuse at the time and just assumed it was because of his upbringing

AF has finished already. Normally lasts for 5 days, not 2-3 days.

Congrats First!