Thread 9. TTC#1 The thread where we unanimously delete Ovia.

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Symptom spotters, tww - ers, slightly hysterical hormone laden ladies! Regs, lurkers, intermittent posters! Our raison d'etre is 'am I pregnant?' Depending on how much Ovia (Whybird/Ovibitch) has pissed us off/messed with our fw she is either the oracle or a sanctimonious charlatan.

Just a warning, we move FAST! Our threads last on average, about a week before they're full.

Thread 9 , Welcome one and all! Group of weirdos, wee hoarders, covert opk or okp, depending on what your autocorrect decides addicts with a side business in CM management!

We do not judge, we enjoy TMI, we i encourage waiting to poas nobody listens and all the grossness you can find from a group of intelligent, articulate ladies. Fart stories make us laugh, stories about cervical mucus, pooing, cysts and nausea equally welcome.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kat, I have been dubbed the resident piss stick queen loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

We like acronyms, we make some up: PET = Proper expensive test. We love the d(h)...which can of course mean 'dearest' or 'dickhead' why, what were you thinking?

Oh skip I didn't know that! I feel it's too early for it to be morning sickness probably maybe so I'm hoping it's not a bug!

jem it's so awful that you feel alone in it. Please give him a kick up the jacksie from me.

Thank you all. Glad to hear that I am not alone. Yes, cycle 3 of trying. But everyone is different and different circumstances and I know that I would not try for over a year for sure. So knowing that most couples take six months to a year doesn't help me at all.It would be too difficult for me and too exhausting, plus I struggle with severe depression and anxiety on and off.
I also kind of know that is not going to happen for me, I can feel it. Even if I time everything perfectly.
Yes, maybe it is the hormones talking. But I feel exhausted and I am the least patient person on earth.
Moggi no, it makes me want it less. I am very much one of those that believe in karma and things happening for a reason, and I think that if it had been meant for me it would have happened already. So pretty much inclined to give up.
I think it would have been different if my partner had been more involved.

Sounds like it's really hard work Ever😞 I have to remind myself that it can take up to a year...but I want it now! So I keep struggling! OH is convinced it'll take ages which feels frustrating then any time I get excited or hopeful! None of this easy. Sending you lots of love xxx

Mog I'm a midwife, so I've known what I would sort of birth I would like ever since I started midwifery. I would love a home pool birth with my DH and possibly my mum there. My friend is a doula, she does postnatal though and I think I would have her as a doula after to help with bf etc.
However, I know the best laid birth plans can go awry, so really that's what I would hope for, but if I needed to go I to hospital or needed more pain relief (which worries me as I get horrendous period pain, so I'm either going to think I'm just in the early stages and end up giving birth on my own or I'll be crying out for an epidural after 1 hour lol), then so be it.

jem I'm glad I can vent on here too, DH doesn't completely get that theres only a few days each cycle in which pregnancy is a possibility, the only people that know we are TTC is my mum, my best friend (who is due in April and had mutiple miscarriages before getting her sticky bean, so she is very understanding) and a colleague at work (didn't want to let my entire team know as they would be second guessing everything I do lol).

I have to go and pick up my new glasses in a bit, now I can add rubbish eyesight to my list of things my body cannot do normally.

Jem I totally understand. I wish there were sticks for men to pee on (I think they'd enjoy it), or 'sperm ferning' (instead of saliva ferning - does anyone do that btw?) but they are a bit detached from the process I think. I am so glad we have this forum, seriously stops me going mad(der!)

Jem, sorry to hear you're feeling lonely. I totally understand where you're coming from. I used to go out with someone who was a bit similar to your OH (though probably much worse as they were generally just negative about everything ) and it can be such a downer when you're feeling excited about something. I now have a very happy-go-lucky DH but still often feel I'm the one trying to come up with new things to do and make life fun (organising trips etc.). Luckily though, he's happy to along with my crazy plans. On the plus side though, you clearly know him very well and know how to approach matters to make him comfortable. That is great and you probably work really well as a couple, complementing each other. Even if it takes a while to get him going! Don't worry, we're here for ya and rooting with you!

ever

Keep your chin up, you are doing just fine. Perhaps a relaxed approach is the best for you (probably best for all of us!), take it easy and don't put any pressure on yourself

I've missed loads!

Glad we have cervix poke only once a day rule, I've been doing it this cycle, more for getting data into FF and being able to ignore Ovia than anything else. The more I use FF the more I actually want to uninstall Ovia

I could not have a water birth, sitting there in all that poo and blood and, goodness knows what else, urrgghh.
I'd love a homebirth but I can't get over the slightly increased risk of harm to the baby if it is your 1st. MLU for me! Pretty much anything other than being strapped to a monitor on a hospital bed, is fine.

co5mo I'm the same. Raveley (and there's another one in can't remember the name of...yarnspirations possibly, it's in my bookmarks, will have to check) but I can spend hours mooching for patterns! Home bargains have some genuinely lovely wools at the moment if you've got one nearby.

Jem are you on cd9? Have you been tracking with opks? Honestly, I'd just aim for every other day until you have positive opk's, then do everyday for a few days. I'm on cycle 2, but my cycles can be 6 weeks a piece, so 2 cycles, but technically 3 months.

moggy I'd love a home birth, pool, candles, soft music. But you have to wait and see. I suppose it's like that saying "when people make plans, god laughs"...its more "when mothers make birth plans, baby chuckles/midwife nods uncommitedly" my dm wanted home births and was told no because of her blood pressure. I think you just have to hope and see how it goes. I'm not a fan of hospitals

ever and kath same thing here, due to circumstances, the next three months will be unlikely to catch so will maybe not do opk's etc. Maybe, I love opk's. But I know what you mean about life seeing to be in blocks of orange, green or red!

miley flowers for you, sicky girl, sorry you're feeling peaky mate. I've heard lollipops and ice pops are good for sicky feeling. Sugar and fluid without being actual food.

elle ooh, you'll have to share your whole month worth, ice found it really interesting!

fx the calm bit, that's probably me, I do it first thing when I wake up and do a full assessment, and usually, I've just had a cup of tea and a biscuit so I'm feeling calm! Awwwwwww! You've got the weeps! Chocolate for you ! Chocolate Is a good cure for the weeps.

pug you're not alone, I can't see either! Dh keeps telling me he's going to make me go to the opticians! I need a new prescription something rotten...In fact, I'm going to look at glasses frames on glassesdirect now.

I think my mindset with a home birth is that I'd have a dedicated midwife, gas and air and one-to-one care. As few interventions as possible and I know I'd get a birth pool. If I needed help or baby struggled we're 5 minutes away from two hospitals (and another dedicated children's hospital) and it would take longer than that to prep an emergency c-section theatre and find an anaesthetist who was free. My dad and dsis will mind the dogs, Dh will be there and my dm will pop in and out depending in how busy she is!

I don't like the look of that babyhopesanddreams website starky doesn't seem very evidence based and a few strange pieces of advice on it.

I think I would prefer a hospital birth! I'm a weirdo! Just feel like it would take some of the worry away, there would be other people there to do my worrying!

I'm cycle 3 now too, we are still being fairly casual(in my book) and just shagging more when dates/cm etc seem to add up, not temping or OPK-ing yet. It does feel like a long time sometimes and other times I feel fine about it! I have convinced myself that no one really gets pregnant as fast as they say.

feef I think it's ttc propoganda, I've delved further and it seems mainly to sell basic vitamins for extortionate prices. So for $75 dollars...a month, they send you what is essentially a 30 day supply of pregna care vitamins (£10) in different packaging and with more bulk in the powder so they go further.

I'm totally with you Feef when it comes to a hospital birth. Plus as we live in a flat, I don't think I'd really want my neighbours to hear all the gory details!

Starky there are so many TTC sites out there which are basically just a big giant con and taking advantage of people who in a pretty crappy emotional state. It makes me so cross.

In other news, I'm having the worst period pain but no hint of AF at all yet. It doesn't usually happen this way round at all and is most infuriating. All I want to do is go home and have a nice hot bath and get into my pyjamas.

pug “I have to go and pick up my new glasses in a bit, now I can add rubbish eyesight to my list of things my body cannot do normally.”

They make you look chic and intelligent though. Or so I tell myself

fxskip WTF is sperm ferning?

Sassenach thank you for your lovely message. On being the organised one – I find with most of my female friends they are the organiser in their relationship as well. I think it may be more of a female trait? Holidays, organising the house, weekend plans, family birthday presents, social arrangements are all sorted out by the ladies. DH acknowledges he is terrible at this – I’ve kind of accepted it and taken on mantle of Chief Organiser of Getting Shit Done. Bit more tricky when it comes to TTC – I am doing all of the enticing and it’s not good for the ego!

moggy
“Keep your chin up, you are doing just fine. Perhaps a relaxed approach is the best for you (probably best for all of us!), take it easy and don't put any pressure on yourself”

Seconded ever, hope you are okay.

Hmmmmm forgot about the neighbours! And think nearest hosp would be a good 20 min drive away (we live in a small town in the sticks) ...will just have to wait and see what's possible and what's not. I've not told dh my wishes yet, he will probably have a heart attack when he finds out. I think he would rather I was strapped down to a hospital bed.
But for me, since working in a hospital I've developed a completely OTT aversion to being a patient. It seems to induce mild hysteria. I can't even pluck up the courage to give blood anymore, even the thought of a needle going in make me want to vom. Strangely enough I don't mind being around my patients when they have various attachments and are in ill health! Just my luck that I'll probably end up having a c section!

starky I still haven’t peed on one of those darn sticks!! I got in a bit late last night and went almost straight back out again. I do have some ewcm so my strategy was bang DH as much as possible until that disappears. Have plans straight after work again tonight, so not opking window again. I may attempt a go tomorrow and over the weekend and see what I get. I must admit, they sound rather hit and miss? Are they trustworthy?

Our nice neighbours on one side have just moved out, but their house isn't up for sale yet. And the neighbours on the other side can kiss my labouring, mooing arse. They're noisy, rude bastards who don't give a fig for others.

Some examples include having cowboys workmen remove our fence without telling us, then being shitty about putting it back, then putting it back badly so the dogs nearly got out. And then another set of cowboys workmen park directly across our drive every day for three weeks and throwing stuff from their roof which blew across and hit our car. I'm not usually a knob but I told them if they didn't sort it I'd ring environmental health and the council and have their planning permission revoked on the grounds they were working dangerously and illegally! I was furious, and it was 6:45 am!

Charlie.
'Tell me the truth ... does my bum look big in this?'

Same cat. Some slight re-assembly required.

Maggie. Look at those magnificent whiskers!

'Happy kitty, sleep kitty, purr, purr, purr!'

... sorry, I was late to the cat picture phase. I'll stop now. :-p

ha ha jem its not a thing!! I just thought it would be nice if there was something men could do to help out!!

cthulhoo These are the best!!! I love your cats so much

hoo they are some seriously cute cats! Mine's a long haired too. Oooh the fluffiness

I have to share this - went to a baby sensory class today with my dear sis in law and my new niece. I was the only one without a babe! Hahaha I must have looked like a right spare part. I enjoyed it though! never seen so many newborns in one room, it was kind of overwhelming. Especially when they all started crying at once