Christmas is here but it's not the turkey that's getting basted... with symptoms to spot and festive cheer, Prty and the gang are getting BFPS this year!!

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Hi (big wave)
So you clicked on here cos you were looking for me (I'm flattered!) or the title seemed interesting!
I'm aware it doesn't really explain anything but we are bunch of lovely ladies all TTC and going ever so slightly crazy with it! For more info see our original thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2412386-TTC-anxious-over-early-pregnancy-possible-symptoms?msgid=56357000#56357000

And our most recent thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2480630-So-its-John-Wayne-vs-Les-Dawson-in-The-Great-British-Pee-Off-and-Prtys-judging-get-ready-to-be-basted-lovelies?pg=1&order=

We are symptoms spotters extraordinaire - you name it we've had it, real and/or imagined
We are here to help, we are all supportive, we laugh, rant, cry, joke, rage, smile, and comfort together. Be you a lurker or poster (established or new) then you are very welcome here. We only have a few rules:

1. No judgement - we all lead different lives and have different standards and that is fine. You wanna get wasted everyday of TWW, that's fine. You wanna abstain completely, that's fine. We need support, not judgement.
2. No feeling stupid - we've all had those months where we definitely think we are pg 110% convinced and then AF turns up, don't feel bad about it, it happens. Also we all have different levels of knowledge so no question is stupid apart from the one you don't ask.
3. On this thread there is no such thing as TMI - we are all adults and we all know how miraculous and amazing... and downright disgusting our bodies can be, it's fine. Share what you want, we will not be fazed.

So that's it, jump in and FX'd for all my lovelies xx

Hubby has talked about maybe don't try as such for a month or so and see what happens just go with the flow so to speak..no apps no monitoring nothing

Hello everyone, know I'm a bit late on joining here, but have been reading all your posts and wanted to come in.

So, I'm 33 TTC #1 for 12+ months, currently in the middle of the dreaded TWW and today have started to get cramping. Have very regular (could set a clock by them) 28 day cycles, apart from one heartbreaking 36 day one last August where I really thought I was going to get BFP but didn't . Don't normally experience any pre AF symptoms until the day before it arrives and even then it's only cramping, but really feeling them today even though AF isnt due for 6 days. Feeling very confused now

Hi Snowy. I am also 33. TTC #1 for ten months. Have just had a long cycle/delayed spotting (always spot before so things are getting going later this cycle), leading me to think it was my BFP so know EXACTLY how you feel. Welcome! It sure is tough but these ladies are the best.

Neetie I actually agree with that approach. I deleted all my apps this month and have not been tracking, except I noted dates for blood tests. Only I went and I reinstalled Ovia and that's when shit when down hill!!! It's so hard! How do you feel about that approach?

P.s no feeling depressed Glitter - I am down enough today for us all Keep positive my lovely, there is always a solution xxx

I have done a few months here and there without tracking etc. While it didn't result in BFP I think it helped my sanity a bit

Not sure flowers will have a think..
Welcome snowy

Hi snowy waves

Hi glitter

Hi snowy - welcome to our lovely thread!
neetie - sorry about your bfn, lovely your having cuddles from your dog though, just what's needed.
mrs - sex and the city and junk food sounded great - just what you needed. I do stuff like that too, we need it.
I've stopped temping and filling out all info on my apps - the only thing I put is cd1 then don't bother with all the other inputting - I have wasted enough of my life putting info on which hasn't made the slightest difference. In fact when I think about it nothing I've done over the last 18+ months has made the slightest difference, what a thought

Ha ha! I shouldn't laugh Kitten but wow when you put it like that! It's tragic really

I meant that I am the same and nothing has made any difference - just the situation - not that you are in anyway tragic!

Thanks kitten

Hi all! What a shitty day we're all having! So sorry about all the blumming AF arrivals. It's so funny It's so NOT funny, when you get your period after a BFN, or buying a test. It's almost like a release of tension. If only it wasn't so hard not to get worked up by it all. I am feeling the same as all of you, that all this monitoring, analysing, etc, just adds to the tension, and who knows, messes with our cycles...? On a similar note, I was going to say to Flowers it's so easy to get superstitious about TTC, and our thoughts etc... But I think we should let our thoughts happen. It's only natural we get excited at the thought. In The Baby Making Bible, she says that she really believes in the power of visualisation, and that visualising can help you ovulate, create healthy lining etc... So why not think positive thoughts! I suppose it is the disappointment when AF comes. But what I'm saying is don't beat yourself up for getting your hopes up. It's so natural!
neetie so sorry about your sister!
snowy - Welcome!

Ha ha mrs - I wasn't offended - it's true - it is tragic!! I've devoted so much time and research to it and it's made not a scrap of difference - I've tried vitamins, different positions, everything. I honestly have run out of ideas! I've become resentful of everyone who gets pregnant and doesn't even need to try. There are babies being born to women who started ttc after me and we're still at it! They'll be having their next ones soon at this rate.
I was having a rant to a friend the other day, first time I've mentioned ttc to anyone other than dh in months and months (everyone thinks we've given up!) and she said I just need to relax!!! Really???!!

Pah!!! That's the worst thing, I actually felt quite relaxed about it this month! I wasn't pissed when OH was tired during FW and I was even feeling positive about blood tests. I didn't log when we DTD or chart any symptoms. It was only when I realised things weren't happening as usual that I began to wonder...

Hippy I actually meditate everyday and am a massive believer in visualisation, positivity, mindfulness etc. It is so hard when TTC because, as Kitten says, there is no rhyme or reason to it!

I feel damned if I do and damned if I dont! Plus there is alway the worry that...Something Is Wrong

(Runs through thread throwing out armfuls of Malteasers)
Wow ain't you a chatty bunch tonight!! Skim read all post but can barely keep my eyes open tonight!
Welcome snowy glad to have you aboard, pull up a chair, help yourself to chocolate and let out the crazy!!

Thanks Prty

On the worrying that something is wrong front, I my day 2/3 and day 21 bloods done this month, so while I'm glad I might finally get some answers am also panicking that I'm not going to get the answers I want. It's a bit of a catch 22, I want them to come back all clear, but if they don't at least I will know and can move on to the next stage

Keep positive snowy even if somethings not right then they can work with you and improve your chances of conceiving - and that's the overall aim, it can only be a good thing seeing the doc :)

Exactly Prty that's the best way to look at, even if it turns out to not be the news I want, at least its a step further on the baby track. DH has appointment next week to organise his SA, don't think he sees it the same way I do, male pride and all that malarky

Moooorning!

I agree with you guys. I had my 21 day bloods done last week and will be going for the next lot when AF kicks in properly tomorrow (still spotting). I dread getting the results (I've actually got to call for the 21 day ones today!) but it can only help move us forwards.

I also dread OH going for his SA - I do not think he will handle it as well as me and considering how crazy I have been over TTC and my massive monthly wobbles, THAT is saying something!

They told me not to call for results, they were automatically referring me to a clinic so apparently I get results when I get the appointment, god knows how long that will be especially since it seems we have to wait for DH to get his sample done as well. Had day 3 on 29/12 so its feeling like a very long wait. Nurse did tell me if I am getting impatient to ring and they would try and hurry the appointment along for me, so maybe when AF comes next week (FX she doesn't) I'll give them a call

One of my big problems is I put so much pressure on myself time wise (don't we all).

1. Time constraint #1 - I am maid of honour for my BF in October next year so ideally I want to have had baby #1 before that.
2. Time constraint #2 - Mt brother is getting married in May next year so ideally I want to have had baby before that.
3. Time constraint #3 (to me this is the biggy) - I work for my dad and one day (in the not so distant future) I will be taking over his company. Once self employed ML and all that will not be just as simple so ideally I would like to have a baby before then. But more importantly, I know my dad and he won't retire if he thinks I need him to stay around and if I have a baby he would see that as me needing him to stay at work to help me out. He ideally wanted to retire at 65 (18 months away) and I don't want him to have to change his plans for me as he has already done that so many times before.

So I have put myself under all the usual broodiness induced pressures and then added to that the timetables involving other peoples life's and the result is the ticking time bomb that is me in the TWW!!

..... it feels good to let all that out once in a while.

Wow snowy that's a lot of pressure! When I first started TTC I had all these time constraints but I've come to think... fuck them! It's my life and my future and everything will have to fit around it! Nows the time to be selfish :)

And the worst of it is the constraints are really all in my head. My BF knows I am TTC and has reassured me a few times to not let her wedding put added pressure on me, that whatever happens we will work around it and it really doesn't matter if i am pregnant or not at her or my brothers wedding, its all just me trying to perfectly plan things (yea, goes that always works lol).

Realistically I know, the only one that is really important is the work/dad one, but even at that I know if I told my dad what was bothering me he would say for me to worry about myself and to leave his plans to him.

Generally, I'm sure you will find, people are quite supportive. I think your dad would be happy that you were pregnant and that would be his primary focus, not his retirement :)