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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC #1 for 10 months and just got AF :(

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Panda1985 · 15/11/2015 12:58

I know some ppl try a lot longer but this is getting me really down now. I've had an internal ultrasound and everything looks fine apart from me having mild polycystic ovaries but I don't have any of the other symptoms and my husband's SA was good.
I just don't understand what's not working. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat? Or has any thoughts about anything else we can try? Already use cbfm to time when to bd, take prenatals, hardly drink and have cut out caffeine. Life TTC is getting a bit dull to be honest!!

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Panda1985 · 16/11/2015 22:37

22dpo oh jeeez! And I guess you're sure about when you ovulated? Are your cycles usually really long? I definitely think a trip to the docs in order. I'd get them to do a blood test.
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Tootsieroll1 · 16/11/2015 22:54

Well my temps and my opks show ov for that date plus im normally pretty spot on at judging just by my cm. I normally only have a 10/12 day luteul phase so this is a bit ab norm!

Seems like we are pretty much in the same boat of you waited 9 months after marriage and then its taken 10 months since. X

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 11:32

Well I definitely think a blood test is in order. Have you got any other symptoms apart from cm?

Literally just found out someone I work with closely is pregnant. Feel like crying, she can only have been trying a couple of months.

Yes it seems we're pretty much exactly the same. Hopefully we both get pregnant soon, if you aren't already

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Tootsieroll1 · 17/11/2015 11:56

Nope nothing! I wish there were some other symptoms. I just think something is wrong.

Oh no. Are you close to her? x

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 12:29

Well hopefully you can get some answers off the dr. When did you last test?

At work we are relatively close, I'd definitely consider her a friend. Went and had a few tears in loo, I'm happy for her but just so sad for me and DH.

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 12:30

p.s. I'm sure nothing is wrong!

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Tootsieroll1 · 17/11/2015 12:49

Last tested yesterday.

Yeah its a really tough thing to hear. I feel for you. Does she know you are trying? x

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 16:04

Hope things went well at the docs and you feel like they're actually going to do something.

I've never spoken to her about it openly but DH works at the same place, she knows us both well and I think she probably would have guessed. Oh well, what are you going to do except keep trying eh?!

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Tootsieroll1 · 17/11/2015 16:46

Docto was a complete waste of time. She just said you could be or you may not be, keep testing and come back in a week. At one point she literally said and what did you think we could do for you?

I asked her if its common for people to take ages to get a positive and she said that with her three pregnancies it took 5/6 weeks. Which probably explains her total lack of empathy or help.

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 17:05

She wouldn't even give you a blood test? That's mental! I would be feeling cautiously optimistic if I were you. If you're confident when you ov'd what other explanation could there be?
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Tootsieroll1 · 17/11/2015 17:41

The pains are making me concerned its a cycst or something. Or maybe it just wasnt a sticky baby. No tests are even slightly positive so I cant help but feel pessimistic.

She was just totally rubbish, I mentioned a blood test and she just said we dont do them here. Which is bollocks because I've had numerous tests there before. Ive booked to see my regular doctor again but can't see him until Monday.

Feel even more fed up tbh!

How you feeling after your work colleague? X

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 19:05

Oh so you're experiencing pain? I'm so shocked she wouldn't even consider a blood test. Really hope you have better luck with your regular doctor.

I'm ok, I just feel so deflated by it all. If someone could just say it'll be another 6 months but then it'll happen, I'd be happy to wait. It's the not knowing when or even if this will ever happen!

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Tootsieroll1 · 17/11/2015 19:19

DH and I said that the other day, not knowing is becoming frustrating. Id be happy to wait too as long as I knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel.

Yes twinges in my left side x

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Panda1985 · 17/11/2015 19:45

Yeah the feeling of a complete lack of control is so difficult, especially for someone like me an impatient control freak

Is your DH as down/frustrated as you? Mine is much more philosophical about it which is frustrating in itself at times.

Hmm try not to worry, I'm sure it's nothing to be concerned about. I swear I always had these twinges but I was just never paying attention before.

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Tootsieroll1 · 18/11/2015 18:10

Yes he just as fed up, which is nice really. Means I have that support. Dont think they get it like women do but its still nice that in his own way he with me.

Temp rose again this morn. But yet another BFN!!! How are you today? X

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Panda1985 · 18/11/2015 19:07

You must be pregnant what is the other explanation?! Have you been googling a lot about how late ppl have got bfps? Are you using a branded test or just internet cheapies?

I'm ok, I need to find some pma from somewhere though cus I feel it's all deserted me at the min. Just finished work for a week and a half though, we're not really going anywhere but it'll be nice to chill out and spend some time together do nice stuff.

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Tootsieroll1 · 18/11/2015 20:09

Yeah a break will do you good. R&R will probably help with the current cycle too.

Yes I have, but all I keep reading is that my levels of hcg must be low but does that mean if I am pregnant I could have a higher risk of losing it or that there may be complications etc? I also keep thinking what if the twinges were a cyst or something.

Im using internet cheapies one step, but also used a waitrose and clear blue ones on Saturday.

I feel like we are commanderring this thread x

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Panda1985 · 19/11/2015 15:59

Yes I'm hoping us being more chilled out will help and will give us more time so things don't just feel like a case of going through

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Panda1985 · 19/11/2015 16:01

(posted too soon!! ) the motions.

How you doing today? Any change?
Ha yes we seem to taken over.

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Tootsieroll1 · 19/11/2015 17:28

No change, apart from cm (little stretchier, still creamy though and not EWCM or anything).

How are you? X

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Panda1985 · 20/11/2015 17:43

Hey, things still the same for you?
I'm ok, been indulging in some retail therapy today :) also trying to be positive about this cycle and hoping for a Christmas time BFP x

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Tootsieroll1 · 20/11/2015 17:55

Uses still the same. Haven't tested today, see no point! But still no AF.

Yes that would be such a lovely pressie. That's what I'm hoping. I'm running out of time though if this isn't a baby.

Christmas shopping or treating yourself? Xx

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Panda1985 · 20/11/2015 18:15

It's so weird. I have heard sometimes ppl just skip cycles. Are you still making sure you bd just in case? Must be getting exhausting if you are, least a period gives you a bit of a break!

Bit of both got Christmas pressies for my niece and nephew and ending up in the Next kid section. Sooo much cute stuff, made me so broody if I wasn't enough already. Then it was just full of mums on maternity leave so I felt all jealous!

FX for those Christmas BFPs! Have you had even a chemical pregnancy since you started trying? I haven't, can imagine how I'd feel to see two lines.

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Silversun83 · 20/11/2015 19:21

Hi both,

Just wanted to add my experience of it taking a bit longer to conceive than expected to maybe give you a bit of hope.. It took us almost a year to conceive (with no known problems) and I had got to the point where I didn't think it was going to happen naturally..

We were on cycle 12 (and had a couple of weeks earlier been to the GP and been referred for initial tests) when it happened.. I'd actually had my day 21 blood test and was waiting for AF to show up so I could have the day 2-4 test done.. At 11dpo for some reason decided to take a test (I had really bad period cramps and was completely expecting AF to rock up that day) and got my BFP.. And am now 16 weeks pregnant..

It was an incredibly frustrating year but I guess it just goes to show that someone has to be in the last month for them to consider up to 12 months 'normal'!

Also we gave each and every month our absolute best shot (pretty much following the SMEP plan) so it wasn't as though any of those months were wasted either!

I wouldn't worry too much about pre-seed if your DH isn't keen.. We used it for a couple of months on the middle but gave up on it as it was a bit of a faff.. I was also worried about particular positions but the month we conceived we pretty much stuck to the one that's meant to be the least easiest for the sperm!

One thing I would recommend is vitamins for your DH if not on already to make sure the sperm is in tip top condition.. 1000mg of vitamin C, selenium (in the form of a handful of Brazil nuts), 10mg of zinc and co-enzyme q10.

Hope this helps.. I totally understand how despondent it can make you but don't give up hope

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Panda1985 · 21/11/2015 11:29

Hey Silversun, thanks so much for taking the time to post. It is always really encouraging when you hear from ppl who manage to do it naturally after it taking a while

For the vitamins was your DH taking these as separate tablets. I have enough trouble getting mine to swallow one. That said he went off on a stag do this morning and without any prompting he said 'I've got my vitamin with me babe' so maybe there's hope yet!

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