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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

The Bumsnet Bus: It doesn't matter how long your journey, or how many twists and turns you've taken, there can only be one destination: BFP! Wipe your flaps and jump aboard!

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eskimoflo · 22/10/2015 19:54

Thought I'd get this party started. Here's the stats: docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1sHG9PPsOs0yIqgR-o2UXX_fdlCQXdVNLfmPpNOePPjQ/edit

May this bus yield many BFPs! Hoorah!

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loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 08:29

Just when I think I'm doing ok I'm baby bombed by my cousin who got married only 5 months ago. On Facebook. I'm sitting here waiting to call and book a scan for my infertility, doing everything I can to be healthy enough to get pregnant while they got pregnant 2 months after their wedding and are both over weight. Im trying so hard to be happy for them, it just seems so unfair. Xx

MagpieCursedTea · 13/11/2015 08:57

Oh Sammy it is unfair, really unfair! Let yourself have time to have those feelings, it's okay to feel like that. Big hugs!

Sodasoda · 13/11/2015 09:06

Congratulations hopes here's to a happy 9 months for you!

Thanks for temping tips sammylou. I took temp at 5.30 this morning when I first woke up and it was 35.9 compared to 36.4 yesterday at 7.30am! I think this is going to take a bit of practice!

So relieved it's Friday! I'm heading off to visit some girlfriends for the weekend so really looking forward to that. Pretty sure I'm going to peak over the weekend tho which is annoying. I set my alarm this morning and pounced on DH! He thinks I'm slightly mad but certainly didn't complain too much Wink

Hope everyone else has a fab weekend xx

Sodasoda · 13/11/2015 09:08

Oh sammy so sorry. Missed this when I posted. It does seem so unfair when that happens. I went for dinner last week with a friend who'd got pregnant first month of trying and she spent the whole evening moaning about how she couldn't drink over Christmas. I was livid! Hugs to you Flowers

DizzyNorthernBird · 13/11/2015 09:13

Goodness how is it almost the weekend again?! I'm working evenings today until Monday Sad. So my weekend starts on Tuesday! Joy.

sammy that's so frustrating, no wonder you're upset. I've seen a few couples get married this year and I'm just waiting for the baby bombs to come rolling in. Sometimes it all just doesn't make any sense. And it is unfair there's no two ways about it. Dont feel bad that you feel that way.

nervous I didn't reply to your comment yesterday. I think it's the lack of resources that's the problem. Our health service don't have the time or money to spend on non essential matters like infertility. But you're right, if we could just get a proper diagnosis or reason we could be more proactive. But for me, unless someone actually says to me 'cut xxx out of your diet because this is why you aren't getting pregnant' then Ill struggle to have the motivation to do anything about it.

Yes, there might be people out there who have physical issues which means they can't get pregnant, such as blocked tubes, missing ovaries, damaged organs or illness. But for everyone else with hormone related problems, surely it's as simple as altering what goes in though the mouth?! I.e stop eating food villains, thyroid recovers, hormone related illness subsides, pregnancy is then achieved?

I do say this without any personal experience of how fertility specialists go about treating patients issues. But it just seems I read on here time and time again about people having to take Meds to correct issues or having to go on a diet but no one ever says 'they've discovered I'm intolerant to xxx so I'm now eliminating it from my diet because this will correct the hormone imbalance which is causing my pcos/endometriosis/lack of ovulation' etc etc.

DizzyNorthernBird · 13/11/2015 09:14

soda I would have struggled not to say something to your friend.

lilygirl81 · 13/11/2015 09:16

Sammy Flowers it's so awful when that happens, it seems so unfair

DizzyNorthernBird · 13/11/2015 09:20

Or I would have given sodas friend a good shake and shout at her to be more sodding grateful!

nervoussam · 13/11/2015 09:33

So sorry sammy, it's so easy to compare ourselves to others getting pregnant and thinking why them and not me, its not fair. I've even found myself looking at parents of twins and thinking "how come they get two?!" We know its not as simple as that but our emotions are so hard to fight, and its best to just allow yourself to feel what you feel and then move on to carry on fighting your own fight. You'll get there Flowers

soda I most definitely would have had to say something to your friend, I mean for goodness sake, what a ridiculously selfish thing to say regardless of any hardship you or your friends might be going through. I often think when I hear things like this that I wonder what the child would think if they heard what their mothers had said about them/the pregnancy when they were older! A "friend" of mine put on FB last night "anybody want two kids? Mine are driving me crazy", little does she know!!!

Happy Friday everyone else! Hope you all have lovely weekends, DH is away with work for a while (good job I still have no cycle and am not missing out on valuable DTD time then! ;) ) so its just me and the dog for a bit. Its my friend's birthday tonight so I will be the only person there without a partner I think, just call me billy! Thankfully I think most people going don't have children so I can easily dodge any "kids" questions that I often get at other social events! Angry

DizzyMerry · 13/11/2015 11:08

Sammy it's so difficult to deal with ttc when it seems others get pregnant at the drop of a hat. One of DH's cousin started ttc a year before us and has gone on to have 5 kids and ttc has been so hard for us throughout. Hope you get the scan booked.

Soda your friend sounds completely self absorbed and I too would have had to say something. How annoying!

Any signs of ovulation dizzy?

Eskimo fx this is the lucky clomid cycle.

I'm on cd16 and the opk was slightly dark yesterday so I'm hoping I'll ovulate in the next couple of days. Usually ov on cd13 but the cycle I got my bfp I ov'd on cd18.

DizzyNorthernBird · 13/11/2015 12:02

Hi dizzym, fx for ov soon then!

I'm not having much luck here. I'm now on cd36 and have been on knicker watch for af the last few days. Temps are still very low and I had a slight dip yesterday but back up to a poxy 36.05 today. I've just received monkerinas soy in the post this morning and she'd thrown in a load of opks too. So, as I was bored I decided to poas and got a very strong positive. I'm really pissed off now because, firstly wtf?! How can I be ovulating this late? I'd prefer a one off anovulatory cycle than to ovulate this late. I'd already decided I wasn't ovulating this month, but now I'm just confused about what my body is playing at. Secondly, I can't dtd until Tuesday because of my shifts over the weekend. So, even if I am ovulating I can't actually do anything about it, and this now means I'm not going to get another chance until well into December, completely missing out the whole of November by the time I allow for LP then af and build up to next ov. So frustrating Angry

loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 12:25

Thanks everyone. I just hate that I feel like this. I want to join the rest of the family in being excited about it. I'm a bit worried about Xmas now and the 'you let them beat you to it' comments.

DizzyN - I usually get a lh surge just before af arrives (another serial poas-er here). So it could be that? Xx

loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 13:03

Erm.... So... I've just had my scan and things look so good that they've decided to fit me in for embryo transfer on Thursday. I think I'm in shock. Just waiting to get my trigger injection now. Someone pinch me?! Xx

loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 13:08

Soda - re your temp, that's completely normal that it would be lower earlier on. The later you take it the higher it will be. If you always take it at 5.30 after the solid 3 hours it should be around the same. Xx

DizzyNorthernBird · 13/11/2015 13:20

Oh my god sammy that's fantastic news!!! I'm so so pleased for you!!

lilygirl81 · 13/11/2015 13:38

Sammy that's amazing. I am so excited for you, I can't imagine how you are feeling right now

loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 13:59

Trigger injection done! I'm in total shock and am now back at my desk pretending I have been through the whole rainbow of emotions today. Can't wait to leave at 4.
I'm totally in shock. Xx

nervoussam · 13/11/2015 14:10

Oh wow sammy that's blimmin amazing!!! What a rollercoaster couple of weeks (well, and the rest!) its been for you but all worth it! So pleased for you. x

DizzyMerry · 13/11/2015 14:53

Oh sammy that's marvellous. I'm so excited for you!!!

I also get an lh surge just before AF so it may be on it's way dizzy. Fx you see the back of this frustrating cycle and look forward to a new one.

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loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 15:19

*haven't

It feels like our first real chance!

Sodasoda · 13/11/2015 16:16

That's so exciting sammy! How many will you get transferred? More than one? And thanks for info re temping. Think I'm going to have to probably write off this month but will keep trying - will be nice to have the reassurance that I do actually ovulate rather than just going on positive OPKs.

And thanks to everyone for reassuring me that I wasn't being over sensitive with my friend. She was being a complete idiot. She also felt it necessary to text me her scan pic. Why do people do that??!

Sorry about your frustrating cycle dizzyn. My last cycle was like that. I'd love to get bfp this month but just really want to go back to normal cycles! I'm urging on the positive OPKs. On CD13 today. Cbfm says high and negative cheapie OPK so far.

I've just left work and on the way did a girls weekend! Hooray! Happy Friday everyone Grin

loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 17:01

Only 1 soda. At my 'young' age they don't really do multiple transfers unless there have been several failures or a diagnosis that warrants it. Xx

loopylou1984 · 13/11/2015 17:40

Thank you everyone.
Amanda how many dpo are you? Xx

HopesUpKnickersDown · 13/11/2015 17:42

Sammy that's fantastic news!!! Grin