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TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

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shelbTa · 28/09/2015 08:22

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

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Runner05 · 12/11/2015 08:36

So peed on a frer with fmu today just to be sure but it was definitely bfn Sad not going to do anything that stupid again until the end of next week no matter how many symptoms I think I have!!!!

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 08:42

Lol Bergamot don't do it!!! try to wait until you are at least 12dpo. You feel terribly silly after you test early.

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 08:54

Ooo... Just downloaded the mumsnet talk app. If you haven't already give it a go. It's really good Grin

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shelbTa · 12/11/2015 10:52

Hi ladies! Missed loads, shit day yesterday, OH is being a douche.

Runner the app is loads better. Sorry about the bfn.

Ni haha, I reckon I'll be a pissy stick addict too, I love a good addiction! Must remember to order mine off amazon this weekend.

#penultimatedayonpill.

X

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Runner05 · 12/11/2015 11:18

Eee shelb exciting times. Hope you're going to celebrate coming off the pill this weekend?!

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shelbTa · 12/11/2015 11:43

I know! Well, I was ridiculously excited, but yesterday OH dropped a bombshell which has taken the edge of it all and put a lot of stuff in limbo (can't put on here as is open forum and don't want to be identified). Sigh. Still quite excited though!

X

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Runner05 · 12/11/2015 12:32

Well I hope it's nothing too serious and doesn't delay you ttc. Biscuit

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shelbTa · 12/11/2015 13:35

Thanks runner. X

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purplesmiler · 12/11/2015 13:47

Hi Ladies,

Shelb sending hugs your way.

Prior to going away I had bought some tests online and did use one way too early just to see what it was like lol. I am trying to now control myself and only test when due but I am sure I will get very tempted.

BergamotMouse · 12/11/2015 13:56

Hope everything is ok shelb.

AF is due next Wednesday but I wouldn't want to test mid week as would like the weekend to process any big news so it's either test this Sunday at 12dpo or wait to see if the witch turns up. I might just decide at the time.

I'm finding this tww is lasting forever. I don't know how many I will be able to cope with going through!!

Though after my rise in temp yesterday today I got a big dip which could be an 'implantation' dip according to Dr Google. But it could also be because I took it at 4am rather than 6am! Damn this uncertainty!!!

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 15:17

I know what you mean bergamot I feel like I've been in the tww forever!! Are you showing any symptoms? I had really bad cramps last night and this morning and I'm wondering if that was implantation. Waiting to see if I get brown spotting at all. I've also definitely got skittle tits and my temp has started to creep up Smile
I think 12dpo should be early next week so I'll probably test again then.

Fx for you on Sunday!!! Grin

StarkyTheDirewolf · 12/11/2015 15:32

runner I definetly think we are a bad influence on one another! Decided not to do temping yet, I'll get obsessed, I have been looking at how to run up some home made slings though, and I've been doing my research on prams. My dgm asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I nearly said "ooh well I've been looking at this cot..." but decided just to say "money for material" instead! Its almost like asking for a cot would make them assume I was already pregnant or something ridiculous like that! Rather than just planning on being pregnant soon!

shelb that ducks, hope it's nothing too serious and the schedule can be followed!

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 15:33

Just had a quick look in tinternet obsessed the super drug test I took yesterday where I thought there was a almost invisible line is 10mlu where as the frer I took today is 12.5mlu... I doubt it really makes a difference but it makes me hopeful... I have to go to town tomorrow so might pop into super drug again Blush

Step 13 - do not obsessively Google the sensitivity of pissy sticks!

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 15:39

Lol Stark look at it this way. Being insane and obsessive together is being supportive... Being insane and obsessive alone is a good way of getting locked up.

I've had several instances recently when people have asked what I want for Christmas and all I really want is baby stuff. Can't though.

Had another attempt at crochet yesterday... Made a very ugly snowflake Hmm

BergamotMouse · 12/11/2015 16:03

Step 14: do not Google 100s of various DPO pregnancy test result photos to justify own madness.

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 16:06

I most certainly did not stay up late last night breaking step 14

BergamotMouse · 12/11/2015 16:08

Runner - I feel that most of my symptoms are entirely imagined. I've had mild stomach cramps for days now but I imagine they should only happen once implantation has occurred which would only be yesterday or today for me.

My skittle tits (love that term) started pretty much straight after ovulation so also doubt that would be a real symptom. I'm thinking that symptoms should really only start appearing now though so I'm desperately thinking 'hmm, maybe I feel a little sick' but I'm sure it's thinking about feeling sick that's making me feel sick.

Bad cramps are a definite good sign for you though. Fingers crossed. Though I think only a small percentage of women get implantation bleeding (I keep checking when I wipe hoping to see something).

It's mad isn't it - we wouldn't want any of these symptoms at any other point in our lives!

StarkyTheDirewolf · 12/11/2015 16:14

I think I'm going to have to go to prison anyway as I'm going to murder Dh, "let's wait till May" was met with "why don't you go fuck yourself! " he's getting right on my tits with this now! I'm ovulating tomorrow, how the pissing balls does he go from Monday "let's go for it" to Thursday "let's give it 5 months!" I'm going to impale him on a sharpened piss stick! Right in his bum holey! I'm joking but I'm soo miffed right now!

BergamotMouse · 12/11/2015 16:29

Starky - sorry to hear your DH is dragging his heels.

I went from DH refusing to discuss the matter at all to agreeing whole heartedly with starting to TTC immediately because after getting back from visiting my friend and her newborn baby I broke down in tears.

DH clearly can't deal with me crying so thought it easier to just agree. At least I know how to get my own way in future Wink (I am kidding in case you now all think I'm a manipulative bitch)

Sometimes they just need something to encourage them to see it from our point of view. Could writing him a heartfelt letter help? Or perhaps the only option is a piss stick up the bum!!!

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 16:47

Oh Stark that's not good Sad why don't you tell him that it's perfectly normal for it to take 6 months to a year conceive so you just want to get a head start. It's true and blokes tend to think the moment you try you'll get upduffed so it may give him some perspective.

Hope you manage to talk him round Biscuit

StarkyTheDirewolf · 12/11/2015 17:17

I've told him runner he is convinced he has super sperm Grin, this is mainly due to the ex being both on the pill supposably and a broken condom which he can't remember breaking but that's a whole different kettle of fish.

I've just asked him why we have to wait and he's convinced we will be in a different place then, that he will be in a different job (which I understand, he's had a hard time this year with work, a broken hand, and he had his ear bitten off, and we've just come out of a series of hep b and retrovirus jabs as a result of that, so he wants to wait longer till he's feeling 100% healthy and can be sure his immune system has recovered fully, the medicine has knocked him sideways, he's had the all clear but you have to still continue being tested etc for another 6 months, which would take us up to feb/march.) It's just frustrating as balls! He wants a safer job before getting pregnant. I want a baaaaaby! Grin

He doesn't cope when I cry either bergamot but I doubt tears would work here for me! Grin

DrWhy · 12/11/2015 17:22

Runner and Mouse it's supposed to be a 12 (14) step program - not a to do list! Smile

Mouse my approach to DH was similar. I was 33, we were living together, I'd subtly mentioned it a couple of times and he was getting a bit huffy about having to hear about it. I had a bit of a breakdown and showed him lots of stats about fertility and age (whilst sobbing). I got a very quiet and non-committal response. A couple of weeks later we were discussing (arguing) about the value/stupidity of business class flights and I ended up saying 'look if we had kids would you honestly refuse to take them to Disney if we could only afford to go by flying economy?!' Response was 'oh, we can if you want by the way'. After expressing my utter bafflement it turned out that the thought of kids had reminded him that he'd been think about the family thing and decided 'yes OK'!
We set a timescale and I helpfully mentioned that I wanted to be married first - he proposed on holiday a few months later and is now DH. Currently still sticking to the timeline although sounding increasingly nervous...!
Stark if your DH is at all like mine I can highly recommend the statistics approach...

Runner05 · 12/11/2015 17:42

Dr just burst out laughing at the "todo" list thing Grin

Come to think about it Stark I think I went down the burst out in tears and share the scary facts and figures rout... It wasn't planned though.

StarkyTheDirewolf · 12/11/2015 17:54

I'm problem going to do a planned meltdown cry + power point presentation on Sunday. Not that I'm a manipulative bitch Grin . I understand his reasons, I just don't want to comply Grin

Ni4444 · 12/11/2015 17:58

I've been there too Stark. To be honest I was hoping to prompt a ring first, but finally decided that was something I would like, but kids was something I wanted! Plus marriage can happen over 35 so I've put that on the back burner.I think it helped that there was lots of radio and news stuff about age and conceiving that I drew his attention to at the time..plus I reported that my GP had told me to get on with it!