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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Woolly84 · 10/09/2015 21:20

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Hairstylisttoboris · 16/10/2015 10:25

Lily I see something too. Sounds like you have the right plan, test again Sunday and fx the line will be stronger.
Just what we need, a bfp. X

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 16/10/2015 10:38

Lily how exciting. Let us know your stats.

Boris so sorry about your parents that must be really tough. I hope you have a good friend you can confide in. I'm sure work will be understanding at least I'd like to think so.

Sammy ooh good luck with the transfer. Fx for you. Is this the first one?

Kir I hope it's not too tough meeting with your friends. Although it must help that they have opened up about ttc taking them a long time.

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 10:41

Sammy *really? I think I'm in shock! Ovia has AF due yesterday, but it's normally a few days out, so think it is due on Sunday.

Boris I'm so please others can see something too. I'll let you know how Sunday's goes. I've also got a clear blue digital, but guessing I should leave that one for a few days to let things build up..

Hairstylisttoboris · 16/10/2015 10:44

If hold off peeing on the digital, get a stronger line on the cheaper ones first advises the girl who has never had even a faint BFP and therefor is just recycling other people's wisdom

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 10:59

I'm trying very hard not to get too excited! I'll keep the digital until next week I think, I just wish DH wasn't away, I want to tell him so much. Boris I'm so sorry you don't have close people you can confide in. I had thought I'd maybe tell my mum this weekend to explain not drinking, but not sure I can deal with her negative attitude (previously told ma I'd look back on my mc as the best thing to have happened to me as I clearly wasn't in a position to be ttc - I was engaged to a man I had been with for 6 years and in a secure stable job. yes the relationship broke down, but I still wish I had my 8 year old)

In other news, just got a call to say my new wheelchair is ready for me and I can collect it next week.

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 11:00

I'm trying very hard not to get too excited! I'll keep the digital until next week I think, I just wish DH wasn't away, I want to tell him so much. Boris I'm so sorry you don't have close people you can confide in. I had thought I'd maybe tell my mum this weekend to explain not drinking, but not sure I can deal with her negative attitude (previously told ma I'd look back on my mc as the best thing to have happened to me as I clearly wasn't in a position to be ttc - I was engaged to a man I had been with for 6 years and in a secure stable job. yes the relationship broke down, but I still wish I had my 8 year old)

In other news, just got a call to say my new wheelchair is ready for me and I can collect it next week.

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 16/10/2015 11:05

Lily I would do a frer today if you can. Get a two pack one today and one tomorrow morning & then the digital next week. Eek excited for you.

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 11:09

I do have to go out at lunchtime...will see if I can find them while I'm out. I was actually convinced I had some already, but couldn't find them at all this morning

Hairstylisttoboris · 16/10/2015 11:53

beaut my gp told me that my employer are famously unsympathetic to things like fertility treatment. I work in HR and I know my boss is a tyrant when it comes to personal needs.

lily maybe a pregnancy now will soften your mother and give her something to be positive about. You mention a new wheelchair, do you have mobility issues?

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 16/10/2015 12:14

Boris I still need to convince DH to give a Sperm sample. I think he's scared of the results. But I've been used as a pin cushion three times now so only fair he does his bit.

Lucie I've had a sneaky peek at the Clinic you are using too. It looks good. Hopefully there will be a load of BFPs by Christmas Smile

Hairstylisttoboris · 16/10/2015 12:20

Agreed beaut. I've been used as a pin cushion and had a lovely lady shove a dildo cam up my fanjo. I can't really feel too sorry for him having to jizz into a cup twice.

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 16/10/2015 12:20

I posted that last message a while ago my posts keep going funny on here.

Boris do work know the full situation? If so there must be a way around it. Maybe a doctors note or something when treatment is going ahead of it comes to that. I'm sure your doctor knows how much it's getting you down. I'm annoyed on your behalf. I'm sure they have plenty of time off when they have sick children Hmm

Lily I was going to ask about the wheelchair too as I've not seen you mention it before

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 12:57

Boris & Beautician I have chonic pain in my left leg so use crutches and a wheelchair to get about, though thankfully manage on crutches a lot of the time. One of the biggest issues recently has been getting my pain medication pregnancy friendly, but my GP is brilliant.

Boris That's awful about your boss, I'd definitely consider a doctor's note

BeauticianNotMagician81 · 16/10/2015 14:05

Lily that must be terribly difficult. Do you sleep well at night or does it tend to be worse then? I only ask am my mum has had knee problems for years despite numerous operations they still haven't got to the bottom of it. She doesn't use a wheelchair but can only walk short distances. She doesn't sleep well as she gets restless legs.

Well lots more EWCM today. Loads of it in fact. I don't remember ever having so much and I've not even taken EPO. I'm going to jump on DH tonight. He's going to be in late and I bet he will moan about being tired. TOUGH Grin

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 14:26

Beautician Now that my pain meds seem to be at the right level, I'm sleeping most of the night through, but it's awful when you are awake and in pain and nothing will help it.

That sounds really promising for your EWCM, fx for dtd tonight

lilygirl81 · 16/10/2015 14:59

FRER just gave me a BFN so no clearer, hoping that is down to it being later in the day and having drunk too much water. Will try again on Sunday

Nomio23 · 16/10/2015 17:36

Boris, I am so sorry things are looking bleak for you. I also think it is incredibly unfair that you don't get any IVF help just because DH already has children. I would definitely look into going abroad if I were you.

Just out of curiosity, has DH changed anything lifestyle wise since having children before? Started smoking, put on weight etc.? It seems strange that he was fine before and now isn't.

I know it is not the same as having family, but if you ever want to talk, feel free to mssage me. X

Kir, I hope you feel better soon. I am still not feeling well, but at least being ill is distracting me from the TWW!

Lily, I think I can see something, but am doubting myself now you said you have had a BFN. Sorry to hear about your mobility problems. It must be horrible to be in pain so often.

Beaut, being tired is no excuse. Tell DH to man up & do the deed!

I used to be very private about TTC, but these days I tell people that we are having trouble. I have had a lot of people open up about their own struggles once they hear our story. I think the problem is that people often feel ashamed, as having children is supposed to be easy and natural. When it isn't, we feel like we are somehow failing. Sad

Pixa · 16/10/2015 18:04

Nomio and Boris sending you so.much love and support right now. X

loopylou1984 · 16/10/2015 18:18

Lily I just scrolled back to look again, I can definitely see a line. Perhaps your urine was too dilute this afternoon?

loopylou1984 · 16/10/2015 18:20

Beaut - yes this will be our first transfer... Although 3rd IVF attempt, we've just never managed to make it to transfer before! Fx for third time lucky! Xx

Hairstylisttoboris · 16/10/2015 18:53

thanks nomio no lifestyle changes, just getting older? He cycles more not sure if that affects his wedding tackle.
Hey pixa and thanks.
lily hope when you test with fmu you get a positive. It really looks like there is a second line on your first test.
sammy how many do you have that can be transferred? Fx for you. X

loopylou1984 · 16/10/2015 18:58

We've got 5 in the freezer, but can only have 1 transferred at a time due to my age. So in theory 5 attempts, unless we lose any during defrost. Xx

Nomio23 · 16/10/2015 19:23

I so want this to work for you, Sammy. You really deserve it after all you have been through.

Thanks, Pixa. How are you doing? Is the website up yet?

Hairstylisttoboris · 16/10/2015 19:44

Oh sammy it sounds like you should be pregnant very soon. 5 is a good number.

Beansprout30 · 16/10/2015 20:30

Boris the cycling could be having a negative effect on his swimmers, if his love sacks are getting too hot it might be harming them. My dh had cut down his exercise in case they were over heating