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Turned my back for a day and you've posted 3 more pages!

I cannot wait until some more (preferably all) of you are grads. I'm sure with all this birthday sex, miracle egg-popping drugs and positive test results it won't be long

Pixa Please post the links once your blogs / articles / petitions are up - I'd love to read them and help support in any way I can. You and your DH are amazing people and your persistence and positivity even in the face of adversity is so inspiring.

eskimo & boris - I miss chatting with you lot more regularly but am glad the bumsnet has lots of lovely new members. I have my 20w scan in 2 weeks, so I'll come back and let you know whether it'll be a bumsnet boy or girl when I know (can't wait!)

Flyby - I got pregnant doing SMEP twice (mc the first at 7w, now 18w with second). Highly recommend it, although DH was exhausted by the end! It's EoD starting CD8 then when you get a positive ovulation test, do three days in a row, miss one day then do one more day just in case. You can download the ebook free from Amazon here - it's quite a short read and very useful.

Thanks ThePug!! And huge congratulations!!!!

I miss chatting with our grads but love that so many of you pop back. Also loving the number of new people we have on the thread, keep posting ladies, the chatter keeps me smileing through this difficult time ttc.
thepug looking forward to hearing your news.

Pug thanks for that link we are doing SMEP this month at least we were until DH got told he's working away again next week

I'd love to try smep but I'd never in a million years get DP to agree to that!

Dizzy I've changed tactics with DH I hardly mention babies now I just give him way more attention so lots of kisses and hugs and he's usually up for it in the evenings

DH is working away next week and ff has my fertile days as next Tuesday through to Friday so we will dtd on Friday, Saturday and then a few days the following week to see if we can catch it

I have tried SMEP too. I didn't tell DH we were doing it, as I was still trying to pretend I wasn't obsessed then. I just jumped him on the right days!

Pug, I am so pleased things are going well for you. You must be super excited about finding out the sex! I predict a girl.

Boris, how are you doing? Are you struggling at the minute?

I feel like a teenager living here. We are having to have quiet sex or waiting until the in-law's go out then rushing up to bed!

fly we managed 6 times in total, but it was a real effort.

Thanks everyone for being so kind and thanks night for being as lovely as ever. Will pop over to FB to check how you're all doing in the next few days.

Are you on the MN FB group woolly? How are you getting on?

I need to wait for a negative preg test and can then get back to ttc. Never thought I'd look forward to a neg test so much but just want to get on with things again.

My extensive googling suggests that smep should be worth a shot, so I was all fired up and told DH about it (fully on board) until he reminded me that he is away for work for the 3 days over my expected ovulation date!!! Like you Beautician! Grrrrr he did offer to quit but I think that's maybe a bit counter-intuitive. Now I'm thinking I should take some days off and just go away with him!! Unfortunately he's going to Glasgow...

Dizzy you should try!! Now that we are cycle buddies we can be smep BFPs too!! great tactics beautician! Could you get your DH into it for maybe a week? Say EOD twice up to your (our?) O date then the 3 goes? It's only 5 shags then, not so scary

Beauty are you on my fitness pal? I'm finding the logging calories quite useful. DizzyN it made me feel awful hearing it like it was all my fault and if I wasn't such a heffer I wouldn't be in this predicament.

DizzyM aww lovely I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you a billion hugs xxx

Pixa you are one inspirational lady, such an amazing thing to do.

Eskimo Hooray!! Im really happy for you my lovely, best news all wekend. Won't be long now before you get that BFP x

So the full extent of my POAS addiction was revealed earlier, there was a carrier bag full of OPKS!!!! How on earth I've managed to accumulate so many is beyond me. Anyhow I have at least a 3 month supply for when we start again!!! MrF has banned me from Amazon in the meantime

Nomio I just re read your comment on your current 'situation'! Teenager sex!! Well since they are always getting themselves upduffed then maybe it's not a bad tactic!! Have sex like teenagers! Maybe that'll be my plan if smep doesn't work...!

Fly I think I will do that anythings worth a try. It's so frustrating isn't it. Last month I didn't get a positive opk I think I just missed it. Bet I get it when he's away this time

frog I used to do MFP. I had joined WW & was doing ok but it was a Wednesday morning & I kept getting clients wanting that appt slot & I can't afford to turn people away. I should go back on MFP I did well on it before.

Hey all. I'm 32, ttc #1 and 3rd cycle.

Due to being a total stress head and worrying about the whole thing that "I might not get pregnant ever" I've bought a clear blue advanced monitor. Hoping this will settle my nerves slightly and that I will have a better idea of when I'm ovulating. Different apps suggest different dates. I'm pretty sure my anxiety around it all is quite possibly not doing the project any favours!

I had blood tests and scans 2 years ago due to weird cycle stuff ages after coming off the pill. They came back fine so I'm trying to tell my worrying head that everything is okay.

Looking forward to hearing everyone else's journeys through this exciting time!

Hi all, sorry hope everyone's ok? I've not read back yet as we had a terrifying day with our fur baby yesterday, I thought I was going to lose her. She was vomiting and fitting apparently, and FIL had to take her to the emergency vets :(. £200 later she seems okay, thank god for insurance!

Welcome mpeg - try not to worry just yet, I'm sure you'll be fine. We're due some good luck here so maybe that's you! No harm in getting a handle on your ov date though, just remember you will ov a day or 2 after your positive on the fertility monitor. Xx

diZzym so sorry for what's happened.

I didn't realise how come mc are, this whole ttc journey is nothing but stress and worry

How rubbish is it when our men are away bang on ovulation! Thought I was gonna be out of the game for the second cycle in a row but dh no longer has to go abroad and we've managed to dtd just at the right time. Do I think this makes us cycle 16 but I'm losing track. Hoping the acupuncture may get us a bfp soon, so chuffed that she's got me ovulating in day 14

sammy that must have been scary, pleased to hear she's back to normal now

Could anyone possibly add me to the mn fb group please? I miss the updates on there

• common mc are sorry should read before I post

DizzyM I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, look after yourself

Sorry for the lack of postings, I'm still here lurking but I've nothing positive or constructive to add so I'm sulking at the back of the bus...great to see the bus so busy though!

fly and beaut that is so annoying that you DP's will be away. It's similar to when I have my late shifts and DP and I don't see each other for 3 days other than sleeping next to each other. fly you should go to Glasgow! Then do some shopping when he's at work

Maybe I will try the smep then? If I ovulate on time this month, because we're away and staying with my parents during my fertile week, there should be plenty of opportunity for lazy morning sex (whilst my parents are at work) DP might be a bit more easy going when we don't have to worry about getting to bed a decent time & being knackered from a long days work etc....I just won't tell him this is what we're doing though

sammy what happened to fur baby? I hope she gets better soon.

dizzym are you on the pre-grad FB group?

mpeg welcome, this is a good place to be, quite a few of us are having difficult journeys in ttc, it's great to vent to people who get what you're going through! I hope the monitor helps to relax you. I also worry about never getting pg and I'm sure it holds me back sometimes!

So, I've just been obsessing over studying my old charts on FF. It seems I might have been wrong all along about my LP, it very well might be 14 days and not 15 days long. And taking into account the days difference, our timing has been pretty bad most months. No wonder I'm not pg yet. Out of the 8 cycles I've temped (one of which was anovulatory and another a very late ov which was missed) there's probably only about two cycles where we've been anywhere near dtd close to ov Maybe I should also look at investing in one of those advanced monitor thingys?

hopes how have you been? Why are you sulking?

Hopes - come back, we've missed you!

DizzyN - not really sure, they think she must have eaten something, was pretty scary as we were 2 hours away when FIL called and we told him to take her to the emergency vet, then we heard nothing so the whole drive back I was thinking she could have died. DH and I think we must have done something terrible in a past life as we're not having a lot of luck at the moment!

On the plus side AF has arrived this morning so will call the clinic tomorrow and hope they can fit us in this cycle, if not then it'll be aprox 29 days which isn't too long I suppose. Xx

I took a bit of a knock last cycle, on the morning of my dildo cam scan I had a faint BFP, I told the sonographer and she could see a 3mm foetal sac and showed me on the screen. It was 2 days before AF so she told me not to get my hopes up but looked positive, I did get my hopes up and then AF arrived 2 days later..I was gutted.

I'm currently 7dpo with AF being due on Thursday. Every cycle I convince myself it's going to happen, only to then be crushed by arrival of AF...I know all you lovelies know the feeling only too well.

I think if I was a couple of years younger I'd be in a better place mentally, but the thought of turning 38 in a couple of months terrifies me... I think I just left it too late tbh!

Sammy thank god your fur-baby is ok! And good news about AF's arrival, I'm wishing you all the luck world..you should def be one of the ladies at the front of the queue for your BFP!

Bean you're right it's just stress, stress and more stress. Then you get your baby in your arms and a new worry takes over. We must all be mad to put ourselves through this! Seriously though it's all worth it when you get your baby. I didn't know mc was so common until it happened to me and after a while loads of people then started saying 'me too'. It's awful and something I wish nobody had to ever go through.

I am on the FB grad group dizzy.

Your poor fur baby sammy. That sounds so scary. Hope she's now ok and has a full recovery.

I'll join you at the back hopes! Though I'd like it if you did post more as sammy says you've been missed on here.

I don't know how to update my cyclez. Should I just wait for AF and will I then count it as cycle 1?

X post hopes. That's totally crap lovely I'm so sorry. Obviously you'd get your hopes up as that's what we do. Fx this is your cycle

Hi everyone im 17 days late today cycle day 45 negative test yesterday called my doctors they told me to just wait!