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Reinstating the gin deck from a previous bus for AF arrivals, and stocking up on pineapple juice and Brazil nuts, fx for lots of BFPs this month.

Happy birthday Kir sorry Af arrived. Hopefully you've got some lovely things planned for today to take your mind off it. I plan on taking SI next month as well also Epo.

Peeing lots last night and this morning. Symptom or direct result of my new diet.

Thanks mummy! Enjoy your hols x

Happy birthday kir so sorry for AF.

mummy sorry for temps drop is it still over the cover line?

Boris yes it's still high, just dropped that 2.5 from yesterday's rise

mummy our bodies are both fascinating and confusing.

Very confusing Boris. Yesterday I felt sure I was pregnant, today not at all!

Merry, I know just how you feel, it's so hard. I wish I didn't want another so much. My youngest is 9 and he keeps asking me for a brother or sister We have given ourselves until the end of the year and then said we'll stop trying. I thought I was ok with that but I don't know......what happens then?! How do we stop after all this time, I won't use birth control so I am see me with a surprise pregnancy at 45
Hang in there, have a chat with dh, I wish I had an answer for you and I'm keeping everything crossed you soon get a Bfp.

Eek to test or not to test. I told myself no now I'm getting tempted.

Oh kirjava. Sorry about AF. On your birthday too. On a plus note, it's Friday! I hope you're getting some and to celebrate. Happy birthday!

Sorry for the temp drop mummy, don't read anything into it at 8dpo.

I've had the opposite, a temp rise, 36.82 which is the highest I've ever had. But, I'm not getting excited because I only woke up at 09.30 and I usually temp between 6.00-7.00. And I'm not sure how great my sleep was either, had a very busy night at work and I only went to sleep at about 3.30am. If I'd taken that temp at 7am I'd be feeling some cautious excitement just now!

Exciting DizzyN. Yeah I'm not worried about the drop, just got excited about a potential triphasic chart

Beaut if you've flushed fmu then you are better off waiting til tomorrow.

I worry about having an only child too. I want a dc2 but I'm worried DP will say no. DC will have a step brother and sister but the age gap with the youngest will be at least 6 years. I also worry that their mother will make a big thing about my child not being their 'real' sibling and that my child won't have that same bond with them as they don't live with us full time. For now I'll concentrate on having my first and see if I can convince DP in a couple of years to try again! But this isn't a nice thing to have to worry about when you've got time against you

mummy there's still time for triphasia (ooh did I just make up a new word? It sounds like the name of a Peter Andre song )

beaut I think 8dpo is far too early. Save your tests! although I must admit to considering taking one myself this morning after seeing the temp spike...

spinning I can see how it would be difficult to stop completely. Have you thought about giving yourself a couple of months break? It might renew your enthusiasm to keep going?

DizzyN I worry about the age gap with mine, DS has been like an only child, being 7 in a few months. So the next one will be like an only child too as they aren’t going to be interested in the same things at all. Then I wonder if we should have another afterwards but I don’t think we can afford 3

Ooh Triphasia! I love it! I tested this morning, only because I have like a zillion tests and I have a serious obsession BFN of course but I don’t mind. I very nearly took a picture of my pot of fluorescent wee this morning for you all – you’re all safe though as I restrained

How odd that you're still getting flourowee. Have you consulted Google-doc?

I wouldn't worry about the money, other people don't and they somehow make it work? In years to come you'll have forgotten about any money struggles when you're seeing your offspring graduating etc.

Won't they be half not step Dizzy?

Just to reassure people who are worried about age gaps and half siblings. I have three half brothers (although I kill anyone who uses that term, they are my brothers!).

There are 8, 10 and 13 years between us and I have never lived full time with them. I couldn't be closer to them, they are my world. They are the main reason why I didn't want to just take my DHs name as I couldn't bear not to share a name with them. I wouldn't change anything about our relationship for the world.

I couldn't find anything on googledoc sadly, didn't spend very long searching though as I was busy reading up on prog surges at 7dpo

Oops yeah night that's what I meant, it's habit as I call them my step children lol. That's reassuring that you're close to your brothers. DP's kids are very affectionate, loving kids so hopefully they'll be as close to my child as with each other.

Why do I do it to myself. I feel sick now but Ds was up most of the night just general grumpiness so it's probably just a bug. I do this every month then I'm grumpy/upset for a week when the witch arrives ????

Spinning it's heartbreaking when our kids ask for a sibling. DD is only 2.5 and she's always saying how she wants a sister. It's hard to keep going and I also think to myself that I should have a cut off point but how do we do that? The yearning for another dc will always be there. I think you're strong though and fx you will get there.

Night what an amazing relationship you have with your brothers.

I am 9dpo and have had a temp drop. Still above the cover line though. DH was home late last night so didn't get to speak to him properly. I think we'll have the chat this evening.

Morning lovelies.

Kir, I am sorry for your birthday AF. It is hard enough to deal with at the best of times, but seems especially unfair on your birthday. On the positive side, it means you can have a celebratory drink (or 5) later!

Night, that is lovely that you have such a close relationship with your brothers.

I get it, DizzyN. It seems crazy to be worrying about a second child before I even have my first, but I would hate for them to be an only child. My family are my world & I would hate for my child to not have that special relationship. Why is it all so hard?!

Mummy, it is twerly says the woman who POAS at 8DPO every month. I hope you have a nice relaxing weekend away.

I got my positive OPK & my smiley face at one in the morning. We have DTD every day this week, so there should be lots of eager little sperms up there waiting. Will do it again later just to be sure & then start the symptom spotting!

DizzyN My DP has a sister and 3 half brothers BUT they all call each other brothers & sisters, they are all so close and talk more often than I do with my full brother. We visit them often and all the cousins are close too. Plus my DS who isn’t biologically DPs has been accepted into the whole family with open arms and they are all cousins now.

DizzyM great that the temp is still above the cover line.

Nomio One more CoC for you and then the tww begins

And Nomio I am away for 9 days I will of course still be popping in however as I can't go cold turkey x

Thank you to night and all for the positive stores of half siblings. I have the same fears / issues as dizzyn about my dsc and any kids of my own. And also nomio the worry of how to fit a second child in when I'm is old as the hills and haven't conceived number 1 yet....

Love all you ladies thinking of testing. It's to early. Step away from the pee sticks. Get your tww into double figures at least.