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First month TTC#1....anybody else new to this game?

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E11Chick · 10/07/2015 10:26

So, after 9 years together me and dh have decided to start trying. Last AF ended 29th June, I should be ovulating any day now. Very new to all this ttc malarkey so no idea what we're doing really!

I'm already making myself worry about a BFN in a couple of weeks. Didn't think I was that broody but it's all I can think about! Anybody else feeling/felt the same??

Xx

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Pixie1988 · 17/07/2015 10:09

Good luck E11- willing the next week to fly by for you!!
I just want af so I know everything's back to normal and can start TTC properly if you know what I mean.

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E11Chick · 17/07/2015 10:22

Right so I think I should ignore the stupid app on my phone. Woke up this morning and without giving you tmi I'm almost certain I'm ovulating. So I doubt I'm due on next week and looks like another stupidly long cycle :-( why does nobody tell you the ttc bit is so hard??? X

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E11Chick · 17/07/2015 10:23

P.s. thanks for the good luck pixie :-)

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E11Chick · 20/07/2015 14:09

How is everybody doing? Anybody close to testing yet? As my cycles are a bit irregular of late I'm going to avoid testing until the weekend if I can wait that long (that will be day 36 which is my current average as I had a 47 day cycle last time which was a bit odd fore me but it has happened before) unless AF rears its ugly head! X

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alwaysinapickle · 20/07/2015 14:15

Hello ladies.
This is all new to me and I'm totally obsessing and it's only cycle 1!!! I thought I'd be relaxed about the whole thing but turns out I'm not. Perhaps I just want this more than I thought.
AF due next Monday, it's going to be a long wait.

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E11Chick · 20/07/2015 17:26

Welcome alwaysinapickle! I'm exactly the same didn't realise how much I wanted it until we started trying. Fingers crossed for some bfps :-) waiting seems to be the hardest part so far.....

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Sunshinegirl2015 · 20/07/2015 17:52

Fairly new here. Came off the pill in January and waited to have a natural cycle before trying. This is now our sixth month ttc although 5th cycle as one month I had thrush and so we couldn't try when I ovulated as sod's law it was the same week.

We've also been together just over nine years and married for one. Since deciding to try it's all we can think about.

Have learnt so much through this forum though but have to admit when we started ttc we thought it'd happen straight away.

Fx for you E11Chick

alwaysinapickle · 20/07/2015 17:55

Thanks for the welcome.
Waiting is really hard, especially as I'm generally quite impatient anyway.
I'm symptom spotting like crazy too. I've been having hot flushes all day today and have convinced myself this means something and it's nothing to do with the vest, top and cardigan I am wearing on this warm muggy day!
FX for bfp's all round. I'll try and wait until AF is actually late.

Pixie1988 · 20/07/2015 19:12

Hey all! I'm symptom spotting like mad too! I have really sore boobs, stabbing pains in stomach and was sick on Saturday night - still keep getting waves of sickness! Can't be pregnant though only had coil removed two and half weeks ago! Still not had a af though. My body is driving me mad! X

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E11Chick · 20/07/2015 19:50

Yep I'm also symptom spotting too....sure I'm imagining some of them lol! My body also drives me insane you're not alone! X

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custarddots · 20/07/2015 21:52

Hey ladies. Sorry I've been quiet. Tbh, DH hasn't been bothered about DTD over last few days so lost enthusiasm to keep chatting on MN.
But hopefully we're now back on board.

What's happening with you?

Inwaiting · 21/07/2015 07:00

Hi ladies. First post for me so please go gentle! It's our first cycle TTC. AF due tomorrow so I will be doing a test in the morning. In all honesty though I don't feel any different at all so I'm not hopeful. Fingers crossed for all of you xxx GrinGrinGrin

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E11Chick · 21/07/2015 07:19

Hi Inwaiting! Good luck tomorrow, let us know how it goes!

Custarddots glad to hear you're back on board. I'm trying hard not to pressure dh (which is hard when you think it's ovulation day and they aren't interested!) As I think he could easily get fed up with it all I'm sure.

I'm currently unsure when to test really as I've had an odd cycle....so going to wait until the weekend as that's when it could be due. Started getting sore boobs yesterday but I get that sometimes a day or so before AF so we'll wait and see......I'm starting to lose hope a bit this cycle though x

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custarddots · 21/07/2015 17:38

Hey Inwaiting! Welcome! We're all new and I would say the gentlest board on MN. Personally I have no phone signal at work so you only hear from me in the evenings.
It would be awesome if you got a BFP straight off!!

E11. If you fancy... Let's both test on Sat as my AF may be due then but as mentioned before, I am so irregular I have no idea. FX for you!!
Like you I am losing hope just because I am reading how many people have been going for so long. Seriously questioning how people success on one night stands!!! Maybe I should get a random guy as see what happens!!
Also mildy symptom spotting however no sore boobs to report which seems to be everyone's claim!!
Hopefully you have honest boobs!!

custarddots · 21/07/2015 17:40

Oh and on the point of DH wanting to DTD, I showed him a video of the journey of his little soldiers as how few get through and he kinda went wow.. That's not many... So perhaps that has helped...

alwaysinapickle · 21/07/2015 18:01

It is hard if DH isn't in the mood. We both agreed to ttc and see what happens and in front of DH I'm 'cool' about things but secretly I'm tracking my cycle. Haven't told DH about tracking because i don't want him to feel pressured and still want dtd to be fun rather than become a chore. Hopefully I won't get annoyed if he's not in the mood when I know it's a good time, unlikely tho!!

custarddots · 21/07/2015 19:46

Hey Pickle. Was AF due for you yesterday? When are you planning on testing?

alwaysinapickle · 21/07/2015 20:19

Hi custard. AF due 27/7 which feels like forever away. Have been feeling quite peculiar this week but am probably reading too much into that.
Had some time to kill this morning so did a test which was completely ridiculous and was not surprised when it was a bfn! Please don't judge me, I know I'm crazy!!!!

custarddots · 21/07/2015 21:22

Aw pickle! Nice try. You're not insane... Just a woman!!

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E11Chick · 21/07/2015 22:03

Hi custard - Saturday is a date although I don't think I'm far enough past ovulating yet as I was using one app but I didn't trust it so have a new one which thinks ovulation might have been this past weekend (which seemed about right to me due to EWCF) -why is it so confusing!! Two people we know have announced accidental pregnancies recently which is so frustrating!!

it is so annoying having an irregular cycle as there's no specific date to test on!

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E11Chick · 21/07/2015 22:04

Sorry that last post looks like one huge rant!

P.s. pickle you're not crazy at all...although I do think ttc is making me go slightly crazy :-)

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E11Chick · 22/07/2015 07:14

Just been doing some research and it says that 7 days after ovulation 70% of tests come back negative so not sure whether or not to test on Saturday as I might just be setting myself up to be really down and upset all weekend? May wait for 10/11 days so this time next week?

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Inwaiting · 22/07/2015 10:38

Done a test today and it was negative. Gutted but my cycle can be between 27 and 32 days so will jus have to hold out for AF. Always next month :)

alwaysinapickle · 22/07/2015 11:28

Has anyone changed their lifestyle/diet since TTC? I'm not a smoker, I get my 5 a day and will usually have a drink or two on a Friday or Saturday (perhaps a glass of wine, or a cider and only on one night or the other). I am a sugar monster tho and do eat a lot of sweets, cakes, biscuits which I know I should cut down on generally (and am trying to).
I was wondering whether I should cut out alcohol altogether, or whether it's OK until I know I'm actually pregnant? I don't drink a lot and want to still be able to enjoy what I enjoy.
Has anyone made any significant changes?

Pixie1988 · 22/07/2015 16:16

Hi there pickle, I've cut out alcohol completely- I never used to drink much anyway, however it does provoke people asking why I'm not drinking. Like when I went to a BBQ at the weekend, and got a wedding Friday and obviously don't want people to know we're TTC. So I come out with lame excuses, I'm driving and can't afford taxis etc. I've tried to cut down on crap food (choc,crisps etc) but it's proving hard! Also been using decaf tea bags. I don't think having small amounts of alcohol will affect your chances though.
I've still not had af... I know people have said it can takes months for cycle to go back to normal after coming off contraception but I'm getting fed up and it's only been 3weeks! X