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We don't care if you obsessively chart, temp & OPK, or just do the deed a couple of times a month. As long as you want a baby & can talk copious amounts of rubbish, this is the place for you.

pixa so glad to see you're feeling positive. Onwards and upwards!

Another day another flashy smiley - number five one now. Dp is really struggling with failure to launch at the min. Took over an hour to get started yesterday. I'm sure it's a ploy to get bjs though

Pixa my lovely, we're all here for you. Keeping everything crossed that it is a blockage that can be sorted, but if not, there are ways and means. It will take you a few days to get your head around the news, but you and your DH are strong and you will see a way through. Sending all my love and good thoughts to you

Pixa as others have said if it's a blockage it can be sorted out but if not there are other ways to deal with it such as vitamins and supplements or IVF. It does get easier to deal with once you get over the shock and you will then be able to see a clear way forward. You will get your bfp just keep going. We're all here for you

I've had another flashing smiley too mummy. Thats 4 days now but the lines on the IC is getting darker. No more digis left though and I won't be getting any now coz I find it stressful seeing the flashing smiley and no static!

The top one is today's. Not sure if it'll get any darker but will test again tonight and tomorrow.

Here is yesterday's IC very faint but did have some drinks booing to do another today and do both. Every other month the digis have been great. Missed temp today but so far they are stable ish.

I've missed a couple of temps and took today's after a broken sleep. Haven't been too good with temping this cycle but so long as ov is confirmed I'm not worried. Hopefully we'll ov in the next couple of days mummy.

pixa I'm so sorry to hear your news about dh's sperm. I hope you don't need to wait too long to get some answers for what comes next.

dizzym sorry about your dh's sperm too. I hope the vits do something to improve morphology. What is your next step?

Pug congratulatons, so pleased for you!!

Mega congratulations, wishing you a healthy nine months!!

pixa so sorry for you dh results, maybe trying him with vitamins may help, big hugs xx

nomio I am so sorry, that just seems so unfair, i think you are right to write to your MP, also try writing to someone further up in the NHS, !!, i dont have any other advice but we are all hear for you!!

Have not been on for a few days, been having alot to do at work and not much time for anyhting else, been really teary today, dh critisied my driving , normally i would be able to bite back or give as good as i get but today i just cried, he appologised later on, still harbouring a grudge!!, also think AF will be paying a visit tomorrow!!

rainy sorry you're feeling poo. Hugs!

DizzyM I hope we ov soon CD13 here and it takes me 3 days after a +opk to ov or 2 after a digi. Darkening line this afternoon but nowhere near dark enough yet. Back on the wine again while I can.

Rainy, sorry to hear you are feeling down. I really hope you get some good news soon. Sometimes it is hard to see an end to this crapness, but you will get through it. X

Mummy/Dizzy, FX you OV soon & then can enjoy two sex free weeks!

Eskimo, how are you doing now?

Oh Rainy, hope you're ok, and being looked after.

I just did my trigger injection and promptly burst in to tears. I don't really know why, it was quite complicated and was just a bit overwhelming I guess. Xx

sammy hope dh was there to hold you so you could cry. Maybe it is all getting a bit real?

I had a mad moment tonight. DS has had an offer to a private school. Which we could afford if we stopped going on holiday and didn't have a baby if we really invested in his future. I thought to myself, isn't it better to give one baby the best life than 2? What if we earn more when Dc2 is growing up and they get better opportunities that DS. Then what if the mc was a sign that we should be grateful of what we have already one bright DS who we could pour everything in to. But then I feel my desperate yearning for another baby would consume me. I was talking to a mum who's DS in the same age as mine. She is so content with one DC. I wish I could be too. Why am I so desperate for another?! Just for a do over of ds's first few years which were hard. I have no idea. I am rambling. Sorry. Good night all!!

mummy totally understandable that you'd like to give ds1 the best opportunities, but how amazing would it be for him to have a sibling to grow up with? Try not to compare what you want to what others want, if you want another child, you keep going till you get one!!

Sammy hope you are feeling bit better now, just think, all the emotion will be totally worth it in the end

pixa pleased you are feeling more positive, things might change, get dh on the vits asap

hi to everyone else, just about to scoff a pizza to myself as dh is at work, then off to bed

Thanks bean. can I have your latest a stats? Think they are vey out of date in the stats sheet.

Day 5 of flashy smileys!

Morning lovely ladies, I hope you all have nice days planned.

Mummy, it is completely understandable you would be thinking that way. Only you can decide what is best for your little family. Try not to worry about it too much. X

Sammy, I am surprised you haven't broken down before now. It must be an incredibly emotional time for you. I hope DS was there to provide lots of hugs. How are you feeling about tomorrow? I am super excited for you!

Morning all.

Yes dh was there, and he was brilliant as ever. I've been fine up until last night, it must have all been just under the surface and the stress of a slightly more complicated injection was enough to bring it out! I'm a bit nervous about tomorrow, mainly for the sedation as I hate feeling out of control, but I'll be ok.

Mummy - I understand what you're saying, but just because one dc is enough for your friend doesn't mean you have to settle for 1. If that is what is going to make you happy then keep trying. Your ds doesn't need to go to private school if you can't afford it, there are plenty of brilliant state schools around. Xx

sammy sadly the schools near me aren't great which is why I am so torn. But he is doing well still so as long as I keep working with him at home he could still do well. Just myself in a worry about it all - overthinking I think!

Perhaps you could get him a tutor? Way cheaper than private school fees, but would make sure he's working to his full potential? Xx

Oops meant day 6 of flashys.

I think I will look into a tutor from ks2 onwards.

mummy I really hear you... I feel very similarly about our DS. Secondary schools round here are terrible unless you go private and we wouldn't be able to afford it with another DC. Your DS seems so bright I am sure he would do brilliantly anywhere (and probably get better life experience at a state school? At least this is what I keep telling myself!). You can only go with what your heart wants or you'll end up with real regrets. Be kind to yourself! And we'll done for having such a clever boy

GOOD LUCK SAMMY!!! (sorry for shouting). It must be overwhelming but you will be fine...coming this far has already made you tougher than you'll know.

Waving manically to everyone else! Off camping but will catch up with you all in a few days. Had bad cramping this am so going with an arsenal of painkillers and maxi pads!

Oh mega I am hoping so much that your cramps are just stretching pains. Sending you the biggest load of positive vibes.

Sammy This whole process must be so emotional for you. I have all my fingers crossed for tomorrow for you

Mummy That is a tough decision. Is your DS at an age when he would be changing schools anyway? Does the private school have an intake later when you could re-apply if finances allowed after having #2?

Nomio Please write to your MP and get them to help, or even try tweeting the health secretary. It is ridiculously unfair that a mistake an employee made has cost you so much time and emotion.

Bean Nice to see you! How are things?

Rainy Sorry you are feeling down. As the others have said, keep going - you will get there

DizzyM Your opks are definitely getting darker but that last pic didn't look like it would go positive for a few days yet I don't think, so you might be in for the long haul. At least it isn't as hot anymore so dtd shouldn't be so sweaty!

eskimo I read back to see your blood test update I think your ovaries must just be in hibernation and they need a bigger dose to kick them awake. You will get the treatment you need now they know this, I'm sure.

pixa I hope you and DH are ok this weekend and are supporting each other. How soon will you be able to see a consultant to find out if it is a blockage? You are right that this was day zero, you now know what the problem has been and can move forward with a plan. Sending you lots of hugs.

Hope everyone else is well.

I've just posted my clearblue digi pic on the fb group (2-3 weeks, yay!) but will reiterate on here how grateful I am for everyone's help and support. I hope I won't end up back on the TTC board in a few weeks again but I know that if I do, you'll all be here to help me cope with the fallout.

ThePug I am so pleasd for you and in the nicest possible way i hope we dont see you on here again only to be guiding us and you get to stay on the grad bus!!

Sammy got my fingers crossed for you for tomorrow!!

Mega enjoy camping!!, and hope you are in not too much pain!!

Dont feel so upset today, Af is still to come but really hoping it doesn't !!!, both my apps say today is when its due, im not getting my hopes up (yet)!!!

mega it's so hard isn't it. I wish there was the life experience bit around here but seeing as there isn't any diversity where we live at all it is somewhat lacking. Enjoy camping - I hope the weather is kind.

Pug they intake every year, he is going in to year 2 and has been offered a partial bursary but not enough to really afford it plus nursery fees once we have a baby. So by the time we could afford it the baby would be in school and DS already in secondary. There is a good secondary around here but nearly every child at his primary ends up in the crappy school. So was hoping to work him hard to get him in the good state school. So pleased for your digi Hun x

Pug fx for a super sticky bean. As rainy says we only want to see you here as a grad cheering us all on.

Rainy I hope AF stays well away from you.

Hope you enjoyed pizza bean. I now have pizza envy

Best of luck tomorrow sammy. It is definitely an emotional time for you and it's best to let your emotions out so that you can work through them and move forward. I'm so excited for you.

Mummy I'm sure you'll decide what's best for your DS. There are people who are content with the children they have but that doesn't mean those who want more should feel guilty. We're all different and want different things in life.

I didn't take my temp again this morning. Dtd last night and find it helpful to tell myself I just need to get through dtd today. It somehow relaxes me and I don't think about the upcoming dtd days. Sounds crazy written down but I know what I mean. Thinking of the the fertile window can put me off from the very first day so this strategy helps me cope better.

Enjoy camping mega and hope the pain eases.