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We don't care if you obsessively chart, temp & OPK, or just do the deed a couple of times a month. As long as you want a baby & can talk copious amounts of rubbish, this is the place for you.

Hi everyone. I'm back with sad news....I started spotting yesterday which has turned into cramping and red bleeding today, I am just so angry and upset I went to a small festival over the weekend and had to hide the fact that I wasn't drinking by sneakily tipping it out when no one was watching! (Cost me a fortune) and it was all for nothing. I think deep down I knew because I didn't join any grad threads and I didn't read my long awaited pregnancy mag! I suppose i will have to go to the docs tomorrow, but I know with red blood that it is all over. Dh said at least you know you can get pregnant now, but what use is that? Im so upset and I feel as though I can't talk to anyone about it because no one even knew that I was pregnant, and not many people can understand the level of grief you feel, even though you were only pregnant for a short time. I'm off to overdose on chocolate and cry myself to sleep

Reluctant how many weeks are you?, dont want to get your hopes up but red blood does not always mean the worst, my friend bled on and off fresh red blood up until 12 weeks,

nympho I'm so sorry to hear this. Definitely go and get it checked out at the doctors, I think (?) they should be able to do some tests on your HCG levels to confirm - it's not set in stone yet but agree it doesn't look good. I hope you get somebody sympathetic at the docs- it's so important when so few people know! Is there anyone else you can confide in? You need to work through this somehow, you need to tell somebody even if they didn't know you were pregnant. You'll be in absolute turmoil right now . Also - practical head on! Get stocked up on big pads (maxi, night ones) - you might not need them but it's worth being prepared. How heavy is your bleeding at the moment?

Nympho - so sorry to hear this :(.
Def go to the doctors, as the others have said it's not 100% over, some people do just bleed through pregnancy. Look after yourself my lovely, and use this thread to vent - if it is over then you have every right to be angry and upset. Xx

Wishing - do you mean still ABOVE the coverline? Can we see the chart? Xx

I'm only 5 weeks,so not very far at all. Started with brown spotting yesterday, then today it went red and stringy when I wiped. Now it's heavier and has filled a pad. If I didn't have photos of my bfp's id think it was just my period. If it had to happen I'm glad it happened now because I am on holiday in two weeks, and it would be awful if it happened in Ibiza. I just really wish it didn't have to happen.... I tried to tell my mom today (who I'm very close to) but I just couldn't get the words out, she has been through so much with my dad being ill that I don't want to add to it. I'll be ok in a few days. I just keep wondering why bad things keep happening, but that's not helpful! I'll cry and hide under my duvet tonight and then I'll pull myself together tomorrow. At least I have all of you lovely ladies to cry to!

Just back for my weekends leave.
nympho I'm sticking around here to hold your hand. X

nympho allow yourself a bit of time to get over things, it's a shock and very upsetting even at this stage and might take a little time. I think you should tell your mum, if you can. And please use this thread for support. Thinking of you.

nympho my heart goes out to you, so hope it leads to nothing, we are hear for you xx

Nympho I'm so sorry to hear this, I could cry for you ???? I would definitely go to the dr's and see what your bloods are doing. We're all here for you my lovely and sending hugs x

I'm so sorry you're going through this nympho (((((hugs))))) we're all here for you, holding your hand.

Oh Nympho I'm sorry :( I hope it's just a breakthrough bleed and doesn't mean anything bad for the pregnancy. We're here for you hugs

Ah yes, the "do I buy stuff or don't I?" question. I've got:

• Tupperware baby stages feeding set (formula dispenser, feeding cup and divided dish)
• Tupperware Shape-O
• Carseat canopy
• Breast feeding cover

In my defense the Tupperware stuff was on sale and isn't always around (special colour in the Shape-O too) AND I'm a consultant, and the last 2 things were free gift things when I went to a baby shower for my sister.

I think this stuff would be easy enough for me to give away/sell (especially their origins) but an outfit would be too "obvious" so it's not something I'm buying. I think it will be my little celebration purchase. A cute little gender neutral onsie or something.

So sorry nympho. We're all here for you x

sykadelic what on earth is a shape-o??

Waving to pixa - how are you lovely? Did DP get his SA sorted?

How is everyone else this fine (ugh) Monday morning? So glad I've just got one week til holidaaaays knickers did you say you're off somewhere too?

nympho how are you feeling today?

How is everyone else?

Hi mega! I'm ok, just waiting for ov. Hopefully in the next few days. Cd 21 but I have looooong cycles. Been dtd eod since cd12.

Every woman who walks past me this morning seems to be upduffed!

Where are you off to on hols? We're going away in sept. Feels like very far away!

Hi everyone. I was going to be around over the weekend but got myself into a bit of a tizz, so many baby bombs – another from a cousin who I don’t see but she has taken my baby girl name – Lilly not that she would have known but it hurt.

Knickers I hope you have a better week at work and the systems are all up and running this morning! Enjoy the hot tub

Thanks everyone who asked after my ewcm – never had it that early in my cycle – my temp dropped the next day so was worried about ov but luckily it didn’t happen! Hadn’t done anything different – except it was my first ‘normal’ AF post mc and it stayed on and off for 6 days with spotting in between when it is normally only about 3 days then a spotting day.

Welcome Sophie and welcome back beanglad you’ve been referred but sorry you’re feeling stressed with it all. And louwn & sykadelic did I miss you joining? Please can I have some stats if you are going to be sticking around
DizzyM glad I am not the only bumsnet dirty stop out! Glad you had a great time at DSIS!

Sammy £50 in Primark is good going! chops my closest Primark is 50 miles away!! Did you have a great day with your neice?

mega well done on getting a car! Glad you had a lovely BBQ. I get the sunshine happiness too! Chops isn’t a newbie – she is an oldie Glad you are feeling better hun!

wishing sorry for the temp drop and BFN, ask you Dr about chances with that morphology and if there is anything you can do to change it. Fx for your journey x

nympho I am so so sorry lovely. The amount of times I have been told “at least you know you can get pregnant/at least you know that you and DP are compatible” really cheeses me off – they have no idea hun. Big hugs for you, hope you are feeling brighter today and the GP is kind x

Had a weekend with DS and a day with DP yesterday, family time, BBQs and cuddles - just what I needed. However I tipped over the 11st mark at the weekend - have been putting on weight since the mc, eating too much and being sad is not doing my waist any good! Have now put on half a stone and feeling rotten with it

Awww mummy

Hmmmm ewcm or sperm?

Kirjava It was defiantly ewcm because we hadn't DTD for 4 days. We dtd just incase but thankfully didnt ov that early. On track now though CD8, started digi opks today and have decided our DTD plan for the month and got DP on board with it all.

Sorry mummy, that was a question for my own fanjo!

haha oops! What CD are you on? Licking it is frowned upon in these parts. I find semen doesn't stretch quite as far as ewcm, I say anything 1.5in or more is ewcm

1.5 in?! I have never seen this in my almost two years of ttc!

While I am v. Jealous of all you ladies still in with a chance of a natural bfp this cycle, I am so happy I don't have to look for ewcm/positive opks or track my temperature... And any dtd is just for fun!

Am dutifully eating my chicken breast for lunch in an attempt to up my protein intake. First day today that I can feel that there is something going on down there, I just feel a bit achy. Xx

Checking in from holiday while I actually have signal! Haven't read much but wanted to send some hugs to nympho

I'm 9dpo, temp going higher & higher everyday. Haven't touched a drop of vino and didn't go down any big slides at the water park today just in case! Home at the weekend so will catch up then (and poas!)

Is it just mine that is extra stretchy? Glad you can relax sammy so excited for this cycle for you!

Pug fx for poas day - I understand you being worried but waterslides would have been fine, they would be a tiny pip in a loaf of bread cushioned very safely.