Summer heat, sperm and egg meet on, oh, the July Bus (wo-wo-wo)

[CarrotVan]

Tell me more, tell me more - did you pee on a stick?

THE STATS copied over from the June Bus

sorry for the BFN sunshine though you're not out yet. and fx for POAS tomorrow lovely

yep feerouge it is a bit weird. 30 to me is like some strange psychological barrier suddenly realising I am a 'grown up' and 'old'. Never mind the fact I have a mortgage, a child, a steady job etc and I haven't lived the 20s lifestyle for a long time! I'm pretty happy with my life these days though (and know I am very fortunate for that) so I don't want to end up feeling sorry for myself if I haven't got a BFP by then (though inevitably will for a few days!).

As for your ov/bd'ing dates, if you only started BD'ing on the 22nd and ov was on the 16th, you would have missed the opportunity, sorry , because the egg only lasts for 12-24 hours. However, CD10 sounds a little early to ov? Are your cycles pretty short normally? or is this the first month you used the app? It usually takes a few cycles for an app to work out your cycle and if you have crazy cycles like me your app gives up and just gives you an average which has no meaning whatsoever, thanks for nothing MyDaysX. also first day of AF is first day of full flow (I believe) so your CD1 may have been June 7th. I started temping this month (ttc cycle #3) and realised I had no idea when I ov in the month and probably started DTD too early in month one (31 day cycle) and DTD too late in month 2 (24 day cycle). so it might take you a while to work out when the best time to DTD is! This month me and DP went on full frontal assault (no pun intended) and DTD 10 times in 12 days because I literally had no clue when I was going to ov!

Cd5 for me. Parents here so I have no clue how to do the smep this month.

Marmite I love that tactic, I also love the pun! this is my plan for July, we will DTD every other day from the start of the app's prediction of my fertile window!

Lovely how are you resisting not testing!!!!!

Hahaha marmite that made me laugh!!!

Yeah i've used the app for three months now and realised how on the 24th day each time af started. I only really looked at how long it was with that new app, before i used one that has 28 days by default and was always early but did not really pay attention. Because af is weird and i have 4 days of light BDing then two days or monster af then it stops, it could push forward the Ov day to near the time we did it. Well i've confused the app now that my af has not turned up and it is showing blank data for june! And next af 24 july now!

I've done any effort to try and track when i actually ovulate so if af turns up i'll put more effort into it, but that will be from august as we are going on a cruise end of july!

And then DTD like rabbits until chrismas

marmite/feerouge ...try not to stress about your age, you have so much time. I'm 38, trying for my 1st, and feeling like I've left it all very very late, would give anything to go back 9/10 years and do things differently. but everything happens for a reason, and I'm sure once we do get pregnant, all the age related stuff will just goes away...

I dont want to test and then find af turns up. Plus im sposed to use fmu arent i?

Yay I got a positive opk this afternoon, so its all systems go for tonight!!

Princes happy birthday hope you get your belated birthday gift!

Lovely have you tested at all so far? I haven't worked out yet if I'm a early tester or a wait and see'er. First two cycles I was a wait and see'er and last cycle I was an early tester (daily from 9dpo!) Not sure which was worse really. Think I will be a wait and see'er this time...

yes lovely I think fmu is best, does anyone else know why though? is it just likely to be less diluted in the morning? I was tempted to do another hpt this afternoon due to my phantom line that DP couldn't see (and I couldn't, when I fished it out of the bin this afternoon) but thought it would probably be a waste of another hpt

congrats on the + opk violet, have fun

Haha!!!

Yay! Congratulations. I'll update you on the spreadsheet as our first B.F.P.!!!

marmite fmu is the most concentrated so more hcg is present. Once you're late there's normally enough hcg to test at any time though

Happy birthday 3princes

feerouge you might find it worthwhile to use opks for a couple a months to work out what's happening rather than relying on the app alone - they just work on averages so if you're not average...

You are so not out yet sunshine - could be late implantation so late result

raluca AF is due when my MIL is staying for a week so I'm going to need to hide all the tests that are currently in the bathroom and either will be bleeding and miserable but have to be sociable or will be very happy/worried and trying to hide it. Either way = not ideal

marmite/fee I'm 35, had my first at 33. 30 seems so young to me!

Is snowflake13 around? She was due to test yesterday. Hope all is ok

wow congratulations lovelyjubbly!

wow congrats lovely our first BFP of July!!

Happy birthday princes and congratulations lovely !!

I'm feeling worried and rubbish today - thought AF had started on Sunday, right on schedule, but I just had three days of spotting (like, really tiny amounts) then nothing. All clean today. Still achey but that might be in my head. Definitely not pg as I tested yesterday and got a bfn.

I've never had anything like this before, and as it's only my first cycle after an erpc I'm worried I've been damaged somehow

Has anyone had this? Should I go to the doctors or wait and see if it shows next month?

And I'm feeling the age thing too... I'm 31 in a couple of weeks and that seems so much older than 30!

Afternoon, everyone!

Lovely Yay! Congratulations to our number 1 BFP!

Suz I don't know anything about what's expected after ERPC, but I would say that after any medical procedure if there are changes to what you are used to from your body, yes see the GP, or at the very least call NHS direct for peace of mind to see if they think you should go?

CD9 here, so not in the fertile zone yet I think, but Mr Cat said last night that he doesn't want to TTC until we know what's going on with his health. He's concerned about adverse effects for me or possible bubba we might conceive. Based on what is being investigated, I'm not aware of any associated risk, and I've said so (gently). But I don't want to push it with him - it's all out of his concern as a result of our situation.

So it looks like I'll be cheering you all from the sidelines this month, unless he has a change of heart. The appointment when hopefully we'll find out what's going on is too late in my cycle I think for us to conceive after we get the hoped-for good news!

Crap.

Thanks pallas, you're right I do need to get checked out. Am actually cycle 3, not cycle 1, not sure why I said that!

Hope your dh gets answers soon. When he says he doesn't want to conceive, so you mean actually preventing or just not trying hard? You might still have a chance if it's the latter.

He said last night he'd want to prevent, although because of how he's feeling I don't think he's much interested in DTD at all anyway (we didn't DTD last night). This is just until we know what's going on, not a rethink of TTC in general.

He's worried that he would pass something on to me. This is completely unfounded, we're not talking about an STD here, or anything contagious. But he's worried about what's going on and his instinct is to protect me from that.

With a lifetime of generally well-founded paranoia about health matters, I know enough to know there's no risk at all, and I did explain this to him, but I don't want to persuade/pressure him to DTD without prevention if it will make him anxious.

All this is definitely showing me that we have a good relationship in terms of talking openly . I have my fingers crossed that he'll realise there's no need to prevent, but if not, so be it...

Pallas sounds like you and your DH are coping with the uncertainty really well, and talking about how you feel which is great. FX he has a change of heart but if not, it's just 1 cycle and you'll hopefuoly be good to go for next month.
lovely congrats!
suz my cycles have been messed up following medical management after my molar - 24, 35, 27 with AF lasting between 2 days and 9 days! Definitely reasonable to chat it through with a GP.
carrot I feel your pain re MIL presence just at the wrong time. It's a pain either way as you say! Hoing it's that you're concealing your excitement at a stealth BFP discovery! Can be exciting to have such an amazing secret.
violet have a good night

CD8 here, boring boring. Not that I'm wishing my life away. But, well, maybe I am a bit! Day off tomorrow so wine and smelly cheese tonight in the hope of an upcoming ban...

Congratulations lovely. Your patience clearly paid off!

Pallas it's very clear how close the two of you are, that's wonderful. As frustrating as it is to wait to ttc, your DH would never forgive himself if a baby had something wrong even if there was NO relation to his problems, but hopefully the more you talk the more he will realise it's fine to go ahead.

Thanks everyone :) hope to get a deeper line tomorrow with fmu and surprise the dp :) starting to feel quite nervous tho due to previous mc....

Congratulations lovely!

Fingers still crossed for you both, Pallas.

Thanks marmite, I had a copper coil and had much heavier AF and lots of CM, but have no way of knowing whether it was due to the coil or just me post-DC1. AF this time (first post-coil) was much lighter (though still not what you'd call light) and much less painful than any in the last 4 years. I'm fairly confident the difference in CM is related to the lack of irritation of the coil.

Clue tells me I should ovulate today. Have been shagging like DH would like more often rabbits (3/4 days!) and plan to continue over the weekend at least.

Hey! First post! Hope you don't mind me joining in. Sat on the sideline a far too long ????
TTC #1 cycle 3. July is feeling like a positive month ????

Xx

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