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RESPONSE trial thread

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Marchgirl · 04/05/2015 19:50

For anyone who had joined or is thinking of joining the RESPONSE medical trial for recurrent miscarriage

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LouiseM1987 · 20/05/2015 14:22

Girlie I'm so sorry. I'm glad the response team are being good it definitely helps having their support. I hope next Friday comes around quick for you and dh.

Sorry
I'm still in shock and don't think it's sunk in but there's still a heartbeat and it's grown a fair bit only 4-5 days behind now.
I kept telling dh that it's over and that he shouldn't get his hopes up. I even emailed dog breeders and he had said previously I can get a dog.
When the lady doing the scan said I kept saying I don't believe you. Which she kept saying I can't Magic a heartbeat.
I still have no symptoms but in a way it's making me forget I am.
Big hugs girlie xxx

Kazz2112 · 20/05/2015 14:39

That's a relief Louise. When's your next scan?

Indiedog · 20/05/2015 16:00

Oh girlie, that is a shame. All you want is an answer either way. I glad the team are being supportive, at least they are not just thinking of themselves and the trial. I can only imagine how confusing it must be.

Sending you lots of strength to get you through next week. Xx

Indiedog · 20/05/2015 16:04

Louise, that's great that your little bean seems to be speedy, and catching up quite nicely.
I not surprised you didn't believe her, I did the same at my six week! "Are you sure??????"

Are you getting another scan soon, forgive me but I can't remember where your at 7/8 weeks?
Once you've had the eight week, at my place the next scan is 12! Do you get one in between?

Xx

LouiseM1987 · 20/05/2015 16:15

Thanks both still in shock.
I honestly thought they were joking
My next scan is in 2 weeks time this was my 8 week scan but Coventry do 10 week scan too which in so thankful for. It's going to be weird the past 3 weeks I've had a scan and now I've got to go 2 weeks I couldn't imagine waiting till 12. Where are you again indie ?

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Marchgirl · 20/05/2015 16:16

Great news louise, really pleased all is well and that your little bean had grown x

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clairemorgan81 · 20/05/2015 16:28

great news Louise I'm so pleased for you xx

Indiedog · 20/05/2015 16:33

Pleased you are getting a 10wk scan Louise, I think a four week wait would be awful.
I had my eight and then have the four week wait!!! Which is up this Friday, when I have my 12wk scan early, but only by three days.
I am 11wks +2!!!

I am still not taking it in!! Until yesterday when work pulled me in the office and bombarded me with questions! When's baby due, when might I leave, do I want to cut my hours in September??? Kind of made it hit home, and I was a blubbering mess! Plus I only have five injections left, and I am bricking it in regards to not having my safety net, and it being down to me and my body to keep it!! But who knows, I may only be on the placebo anyway ConfusedBlush
Husband had a shock when he got in, and I was just crying! I told him I'm scared, and that its down to me. I said if I lose this one it will break me! I think he has just realised how much I am worried, although you would not think it to see or talk to me!

Anyhow, I'm just wanting to get to Friday to make sure all is still ok. Step by step, that's been my motto, and will continue to be!

Xx

girliesaints · 20/05/2015 16:49

Louise, glad to hear it was good news x

Indie, 12 week scan ready, wow. Is it in epu or the ultrasound dept?

Spoke to the trial team about 6 week scan today and they've said they're feeding back to the trial they think it's causing more stress than good as 3/4 Of their ladies Ladies it's been inconclusive. Essentially it's not to look for viability of the pregnancy at that stage but instead checking it's not an exotic pregnancy, which can be checked in other ways. Will be interesting to see what happens.

philippa88 · 20/05/2015 17:12

Yey Louise!! How exciting!!! I can only imagine how must be feeling!! Great news :)

I've just been speaking to Thomas Cook about taking the injections on the plane! Felt like I was jinxing it!! I have to keep them in a cool bag as hand luggage, then they've arranged for the hotel to put a fridge in our room ready for arrival. We have to get a letter from the hospital too explaining what the medication is for and how much I am taking. Feels so surreal!!!

Xx

sizethree · 20/05/2015 17:31

indie I could have written your post. I know exactly how you're feeling. Completely hoe I felt abd still feel at times. Although the feelings aren't as intense a few more weeks in.
I think when you get a bump and feel movement you'll being in feel less anxious. Well, that's wjag I'm hoping to happen.

Indiedog · 20/05/2015 17:32

Hi girlie, my scan will be in the normal ultrasound dept! Bit weird really. Just hoping all ok, as when I went for my first scan with DD that was when I was told she was high risk of Down's syndrome! So Friday is going to be a little stressful, but hoping and praying for a smoother ride!!

Joy2713 · 20/05/2015 17:33

Sorry to hear that girlie.. hope next friday you finally get some answers! Was today in the epu? As i find them so much nicer and they seem like they actually understanf there job, was really not happy with my g level experience!
Very pleased for you Louise, im not having much on the way of symptons other than sore boobs and abot of nausea so your not alone xx

girliesaints · 20/05/2015 17:43

Joy, totally agree with you about g level. The epu unit were very scathing about g level last week with my scan and poor notes. Today was scanned by a doctor and had the lead nurse in as well. They were lovely and firstly recognised me without saying my name and spoke honestly but with compassion. Unfortunately was 45 mins late going in as they had three emergency admission.

Spoke to A about you, Indie and I have hooked up on here. (Obviously didn't say names) she was really interested to hear the support we're providing each other (of course the other ladies as well)

Indiedog · 20/05/2015 18:11

Girlie, I think the trouble with g level (personally I found it ok) but I can imagine they are basically being 'used', as the times I've been they nurse didn't know much about the trial, and The nurse asked something and A said it was such and such, and that she wouldn't expect them to know what it meant, and the nurse looked a bit miffed. Also as it is private clinic, I think they are more likely to be able to fit people in at short notice, as apposed to the EPU or the ultrasound dept. I think we might be treading on their toes a little. Hay ho, never mind Wink

I am pleased I found Mumsnet, I am an original Netmums I'm Affraid!
I have found that being able to quiz people further on has helped, and that my past feelings, present, and future fears are not dissimilar to others! I'm not nuts!
Hope that makes sense!!

Choccywoccydodah · 20/05/2015 19:23

Girlie I'm so sorry you still haven't had a definite answer! It's such a wait week to week :( Hopefully next Friday you will get the answer and a lovely beating heart will be found :)

Louise, great news! Told you to ignore original dates!
It's fab we get a 10 weeks scan. Although it's a long bloody wait from 12 to 20!!! I begged asked for a 16 week one but they weren't having it humph!
I did have my normal dating scan at 13+3, so thankfully a week closer. 3 weeks today til my next scan. Next Mw appt Friday before we go away Saturday :)

Philippa totally understandable you worrying, pregnancy is worrying full stop without all that we've been through. Then the real worrying begins when they're born!

Joy2713 · 20/05/2015 19:43

My next scan is Tuesday (8 week one) but the worrying has already began although it's abut early for me (all my mcs have been between 10-15 weeks) so if and when I get to 16 weeks I might finally start to calm down! Defo think I'm going to get a private scan at 10 weeks although j did say just to ask Epu and they might well do one given the history.

I done another study before this one (I had a hysteroscopy and at the time they placed a sensor in my womb and I had to wear a special belt for 3 days and it read temp of womb etc) and this was also carried out on g level so think it must be where research to most of there bits and pieces.

Off to Cornwall on Friday with oh, ds and my niece so hoping that takes my mind ff everything for a few days!!

Good luck to anyone else for scans and Appts this week :) xx

Kazz2112 · 20/05/2015 22:21

Out of interest... I need some advice to maybe put my mind at rest... what's everyone's thoughts on exercise whilst ttc and early pregnancy?

I used to be a right gym bunny but gain 2 stone over the 12months post wedding / 3miscarriages. I'm almost scared exercising will affect me conceiving or the chances of me staying pregnant! Wondered what everyone else's thoughts are? I really wanna get back to the gym as I miss it and it is good stress relief but not at the expense of a bambino

Indiedog · 21/05/2015 07:06

Morning Kazz.
I have been running for well over a year, but I will tell you what I've done in the last few months.

Got my BFP in March, but in the run up to that I was running 2/3 times a week ish!
I was also getting ready for The Eliminator race the beginning of Feb, a five mile extreme natural obstacle race. I also did the Romsey five mile that month too, and a military training session, that was an absolute beasting!!!

Anyway, it just so happens that when I got my BFP I cam down with the worst head cold I have ever had. I was bed ridden for a few days. This out pay to my running for about four weeks, my asthma also flared up.

So I haven't run since then! So that's nearly two months. I will get back on the exercise bike soon, but I've been tired in the evenings, but that seems to be subsiding. I'm going to try and swim when I'm away next week. But I'm not sure I'm going to run!
Just don't want to shake it all up in there. I know they say, if you did it previous to pregnancy it's ok to carry on.

I would go and speak to the docs, or midwife etc. As I personally wouldn't want to do leg weights etc, might pop it out!!!

Have a chat with someone and find something your comfortable with xxx

Indiedog · 21/05/2015 07:09

Ps, I started running after two miscarriages, as I wanted to feel fitter and healthy. Not to lose weight. I haven't lost weight, but I am fit.
I still went on to conceive, and sadly have two more MCs.
But I don't think my exercise had anything to do with it.
Things in moderation I think x

Kazz2112 · 21/05/2015 08:01

Yeah it's all so Confusing. My only natural miscarriage was after I started hammering the gym over Christmas . The others were mmc.

I really like body attack, pump and combat classes but I'm so unsure. Ibe previously been told by my doctor exercise is fine and beneficial but don't go running a marathon.

Choccywoccydodah · 21/05/2015 08:03

I stopped exercising when I ovulated end Jan, haven't exercised since as too scared to!

Indiedog · 21/05/2015 08:23

Personally I wouldn't be body attacking or pumping Wink, I'm just going to stick with a little gentle exercise bike at home, and go for walks etc.

As choccy said, I'd be a bit scared to do anything to strenuous!

Kazz2112 · 21/05/2015 09:42

I may try some pilates and yoga

Genwah85 · 21/05/2015 09:50

Hey all I've just had a good catch up,
I'm struggling with the whole waiting for my af as this will be first one since last miscarriage, I'm wishing the weeks away yet petrified the time will come and it will all go wrong again :(
My blood results all came back fine just low iron so on tablets for that, but I was a little bit gutted about that I think part of me wanted a problem to appear they could fix!! I'm sure you all felt the same, we have worked out that I should roughly ovulate the week of my 30th birthday (been tracking this month as a practice for next month as never done it before) so we have booked a week in vegas take my mind off things hopefully!! Xx

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