April 2013 TTC girls, where we ALL get our babies!

[Ducky23]

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Got really annoyed at DP actually. I've been in the nursery with DS for the past several days - more than a week - ebf at night and not asking DP to help me change or wind him in the night, partly because DP has been working quite long shifts and partly because when we had DS in our room we just kept bickering about whose turn it was to sort him out when he woke up and who had had the least sleep etc and it was just making me really peed off with DP, mainly because he does this thing when he has to wake up where he grunts and groans and sighs and makes a song and dance about how tired he is, irrelevant of the fact that I'm sitting up for an hour at a time bf and all he has to do is change DS's nappy - which I often did anyway because I could to be bothered with DP huffing and groaning about having to get out of bed! I found it so irritating that's feelings toward DP have really changed for the worse... I don't even feel attracted to him atm and he keeps getting in my nerves
Anyway because DP had been looking after DS all evening and DS was going to have bottles for the rest of the night I decided DS could sleep in our room just for the night and I asked DP to give
Him his bottles and change him etc as I'd been doing it every night for days and days and DP didn't have to get up early for work this morning and I thought I deserved a night's uninterrupted sleep.
But DS kept both of us awake most of the night anyway and woke up at 5 as usual and wouldn't go back to sleep and just kept making noise - just burbling mainly but he's so loud you can't sleep through it! And first DP handed me DS and the bottle as if we hadn't agreed it was his yur to do all the feeds and then when DS still didn't go to sleep after feeding DP was like, "why don't you take him downstairs for a while so I can have some sleep and then I'll have him while you sleep". This is after me commenting that I was so tired I couldn't keep my eyes open! I said "Why don't you take him down first? I haven't had a full night's sleep in days, this is the first interrupted sleep you've had for ages!" And he said "I've been going to work though". As if being a mum isn't a full time job! It's a non stop 24hour job, especially when you're doing the nights alone I told him that and said I'd happily do a bar shift once in a while if it meant getting a full night's sleep and then he blamed me for being tired saying it was my fault for going out for the evening I thought I deserved a night out after 10 months without but apparently not
I came down with DS at 8:30 (still not having slept since 5) and DP is still in bed I'm seriously considering going to my mum's this afternoon and staying for the night as I'm so annoyed with DP I don't want to be around him today...

Wow! That was a long post

Lil, apparently a lot of babies refuse the nutramigen because of the taste! There's all tricks online to make it taste better, but ds loved it from the first bottle!!! I was told that once they start on it, it can take up to 2 weeks for the milk protein to leave the system so it might take a while to improve things.

And wtf is wrong with men and babies!!! They're so selfish! (Apart from the good eggs like mr lulu!) h has never ever done anything with ds especially during the night but he always moans every morning about how tired he is. Makes me so angry! And bf is especially exhausting (from what I've heard!) so he should help out! You do deserve a night out.

The buggering buggers!

Yes, he fell asleep Ducky and Cupcake, of course he did. He is hopeless He tried it on this morning but DS woke up and scuppered that. He is now scheming to find a way to try to make DS have an afternoon sleep. Has suggested we take him along the sea front so the fresh air tires him out, or we put him in his baby bouncer. It won't work. DS is full of beans and not in any mood to sleep.

He is taking him for a walk anyway and I am going to have a bit of peace.

Cupcake, you are sounding very fed up with the pain. Is there nothing that an osteopath or a cuiropractor could do - no sure I have spelled that right? A cuiropractor sorted my back out in one session after days of pain.

Lill- I don't think men understand how hard a baby is all day every day. DS has been much easier than some and I have not breastfed. It is still tiring and at times I just feel bone weary. DH is great but it still exhausts me and he will ask 'Have you done much today?' which shows he does not understand that even doing nothing with a baby is a full-time occupation.

Oh lil that sucks! Me and DH share the feeds, we alternate who does the first feed of the night every day as for some reason whoever does the first feed is more tired the next day.

DH goes to work and then when he gets back he does some feeds and let's me have a break, sometimes I will do some solo parenting to let him go play some games for an hour or two.

He is looking after dd right now as I had been doing a lot today, she was sick all over me in a restaurant earlier. You DH needs a kick up the bum lil!

DH has always said I have a harder job than he does in the day now, this morning I took dd down so he could sleep but he does the same for me on weekends sometimes.

The point is, it's OUR baby not MY baby. Men have half of the responsibility for child care, it takes two after all.

Lill a bump support belt sounds perfect!! Where can i get one ? Mothercare I presume. And as for ur DP, men just rele don't get what it's like to look after a small baby 24/7 and fair enough they do have to go to work but looking after a baby is also work where u aren't able to sleep and constantly doing things all day. So I rele do think sharing feeds should happen every night whether it's a work night or not! I did it all with DS all by myself but H wasn't at work hahaa no no he was on his play station till 3 in the morning and then moaned when DS cried in the morning because he was tired and had no sleep! Well if he had come to bed and not gone on his play station he wouldn't be tired! Used to rele annoy me but I'm proud cuz it means I've raised DS all by myself and done everything for him and he's like the most amazing little boy ever! :) so there's always a bright side to these lonely nights feeding by urself. I'll have to do it with DS2 as well lol!

Lulu are u able to go to one of those back people (not attempting to spell it myself ) when pregnant? Because I wouldn't be able to lie on my front if that's what u need to do? I'm not sure what they do!
and i hope u all managed to get some sleep! :)

Siarie I'm glad u and DH share the night feeds :) and I'm glad he understands u have a harder job in the day! Lol not many men do!

Morning Cupcake, you are right, I had to lie on my front to see the cuiropractor. Never thought of that. Have you googled those belts, they might be on the internet?

You should be proud of what you have achieved with DS. You sound like a lovely mum and will be for DS2 as well. And you were very strong getting the lazy lump out.

DH's plans were all in vain. DS did fall asleep on his walk but some friends called round with their little boy and were here until 6. So DH arrived home thinking his plan had worked- his face was a picture when he saw them. DS woke up and had a lovely time with their little boy but was completely over-tired and we had a really bad night with him. He cried for two hours when he went to bed. By the time he was settled we were in no mood for anything but lying in silence and sleep. DS woke up this morning early and DH got up and brought him back into our bed where he has had his breakfast and is playing with DH, a rattle and his Oleg Grub, laughing, chattering and, when DH blows raspberries on his tummy, shrieking.

DH said just before 'I think he knows and he doesn't want us having sex'

He has started holding his arms up to be cuddled or picked up (DS not DH) which is so sweet.

Hope everyone has had a quiet, peaceful night and lots of sleep.

Lulu I went out today and I've brought one from mothercare :) it's had some good reviews so thought I'd give it a go.
And Lulu I think it DH is right they always seem to know when u want to be intimate haha it's like they do it on purpose.

Hope everyone is okay today!

I'm so glad my doctors appt is tomorrow because my back has been in agony today! All because I went to the shops this morning :( plus DS2 has been wiggling a lot today! :) first day I've felt quite a lot of movement!

Have you tried it yet Cupcake? Is it like a wide elastic support belt? I wonder what the Dr will suggest.

DH has been determinedly keeping DS busy today in the hope he'll go off to sleep easily tonight and we can have some time for us. You would think it was months since we DTD, it was only last Thursday. But he is on half term holiday and always more perky when he's off work.

DS has had some weetabix today. Seemed to like it. He is ready for some solids I think and I just gave him a bit too see how it goes. He had a bit of apple puree as well and liked that.

No I've not tried it yet Lulu, going to wear it tomorrow from when I wake up so I can see if there's a difference when wearing it :) yes it's like a wide elastic belt that fits over the whole bump and it grows with ur bump which is good, it also has a thermal patch at the back which provides a heat spot to help with the lower back pain. I'm very much looking forward to wearing it
Lulu I hope u both manage to have some alone time tonight! It's been months since I've Dtd and I think it's great! I don't miss it at all I think anyway I'd be to tired and achy to bother even if I could

If I have had an achey back, heat patches are really good. We always keep some in the house. They are really effective. I have put them on my tummy if I have had period cramp. DH put them on the knee he injured last year.

DS is asleep but the cats are out and I don't like leaving them out so I am still downstairs. DH is in the bath. He does make me laugh. He is so enthusiastic about it. There is nothing much on the telly though so I might as well.

Cupcake I do hope the belt works!
Well DP was too proud to apologise for being such a nob, but when he got home from work he went out of his way to make up for it - changing DS in the night, bringing me drinks and cereal when I was feeding DS, doing the washing up asinine forgiven him for now but he's best not let it happen again...
Cupcake, men and their bloody playstations! Or in my DP's case, Xbox I really hope he grows out of it... I don't want DS thinking it's acceptable to sit around indoors playing video games when he could be outside getting some exercise and fresh air! You and Ducky have both done really well raising your boys without any help from your lazy H's. Siarie it's good your DH equally shares the workload. He sounds as good as Lulu's DH!
DS has terrible nappy rash again but the CJ's Butter worked so well last time that we invested in a big tub so have been putting that on it again, hope it clears quickly.

Haha Lulu, poor DH you have kept him waiting!
DP didn't want to dtd the whole time I was pg, now I don't feel like it in the slightest and he really wants to! I think he's given up trying now though! I hope I haven't gone off it for good... Although I don't to want to risk getting pg again for a good few years so maybe better if I don't feel like it!

Oh yea Lulu I've heard some good things about those heat patches. I wonder if it's safe to use while pg? Could u use them while asleep in bed? That would be good for me lol!

Lill I'm hoping the belt works too! Well that's good that DP made an effort :) let's hope he keeps it up :) as for the Xbox id accidentally spill something on it or maybe DS was accidentally sick over it I did get very angry when H was on it all the time when DS was born as i was exhausted and it pissed me off he was sat there giggling with his mates all night..... One morning I got up with DS got ready to go out to baby clinic and snapped his game disk so he couldn't play it anymore :) didn't work tho! As soon as I got back he'd gone to town on the bus! And when he got back he'd brought a brand new one! I was so angry!

Had lots of movement this morning!! :) :) starting to feel him more which is so nice and reassuring ! Proper little kicks! Love the feeing :)

Been to the doctors and I have got spd and being referred to physio. Just got to wait for a letter with my appointment on.

Did he give you any idea how lng you would have to wait Cupcake? What did he think about the belt? You poor thing. It sounds awful.

SIL and fiance are coming up this afternoon- they have exchanged contracts on the house so it has happened really quickly. Should get the keys in a couple of weeks but it is definitely theirs now. Are measuring up. I think we have some huge curtains that would fit their bay window that she liked and we don't use any more.

DS has had baby cereal for breakfast, and some banana sliced which he mashed up and got all over himself with not much going in his mouth. DH is so proud of him feeding himself!

Hope your not waiting too long for your appointment cupcake!

lil the cjs butter is really good isn't it! Ds sore bum hasn't gone completely but I have tried a lot of different things and that is by far the best!

Lulu did your cats come back in last night? Ds has weetabix and banana for his breakfast, it usually starts with me feeding him then him grabbing the spoon and feeding himself! He's good at it although he does get it in his hair and everywhere else the banana he is really good at picking up and getting it into his mouth and he tends to sick it but sometimes bits break off and he swallows them whole but then sicks them up, it's terrifying though! I really wanted to do baby led weaning but now the time has come I'm a bit scared!

Am giving him lunch today aswell but that will just be an Ella's kitchen purée.

*suck not sick

Yes they both came back Ducky- and neither of them had caught a bat which is what they were after. DS was fast asleep so I gave in to DH and then gave in again this morning.

Am having a break from cleaning up. DH has taken DS shopping . SIl souldget here about tea time. It is exciting to think they will be up here soon. He has already got some contracts lined up and she is transferring to the Newcastle branch of her firm. But she only works part- time. She does Art work as well and gets lots of commissions. The house has a great attic, huge and really light which they can both use as a studio.

I have pureed some apples and some pear and frozen it for DS. Am doing sweet potato and carrot later on. He seems to like whatever we are trying him on- he is not quite up to feeding himself with a spoon yet.

Lulu she couldn't advise anything to me as she said she wasn't trained in the pregnancy side of things and that I should just wait till I go to the physiotherapist and ask her questions. That's good the house has gone through quick for ur SIL Lulu :) and good on DS for having cereal! :)

See Ducky and Lill what did I tell u! Cj's butter is amazing!

Glad you got referred to the physio cupcake! I really hope it doesn't take too long before you see them.
DP wanted to borrow some money to buy a new video game today but I'd gone overdrawn! A mixed blessing
It sounds like fun weaning the babies! But very messy though. I remember from my sister's kids being little that weetabix dries and sticks like glue to anything!
Went with DP to an infant first aid course today - learnt how to do CPR on a baby and how to help when choking.
DS has been discharged from midwife care now. He's 11lbs now! A big chunky boy. There was a 5 month old baby at the first aid course who was about the same size

Lulu - are you trying for another already?!

No Lilla, we are just in one of those phases where we fancy the pants off each other. And DH is on holiday so we always make the most of that. It'll all calm down next week.

I did one of those first aid courses a couple of weeks ago Lilla. They are good aren't they. How old is your DS now?

SIL should be here any moment. DH is tidying up the front garden and DS has just had a bottle and a nappy change so he is all ready to meet them. He even had a half an hour nap so should be a happy little boy. I am sitting with my feet up .

Oh lil it's so messy! I said to my friend earlier my house looked like an explosion in a weetabix factory! He got it everywhere! He had an Ella's kitchen peppers, sweet potato and apples for lunch he LOVED it!

I checked today and realised my mat leave ends in 3 weeks! I'm panicking about money now! Can't beleive how quick that's gone! I was sure I had it until aug!